Remember that niece?

[BrownEyesBlue]

My sister who I’ve been having issues with once again today, stuck her 5 cents in where it didn’t have to be. I sent my boyfriend via skip the dishes some coffee and breakfast sandwich along with donuts. He posted a thank you on Facebook. She IMMEDIATELY commented then called and spoke to my other sister asking if she had seen the post and acted as though I had done something wrong. She made me feel so bad.

I found out her daughter, my niece (27) and her daughter (4), is coming home for thanksgiving. Here’s my dilemma.

If I go see my niece, the 4 year old, I know I’m going to be walking into a hostile environment. Comments will be made and I’ll be belittled. I’ll go there anxious and leave even more so.

If I DONT go, they’ll still complain and have something to say.

I can’t win for losing. There’s a chance they’ll come see my father who I care for. Do I wait and see about that? I really don’t want to be put in an uncomfortable situation. I freeze up and immediately feel like I’ve done something wrong.

My other sister is being as supportive as she can be and telling me to let things go. In her words, you sent him a coffee, big whoop dee doo lol She also pointed out it was “my fault” that people are having a hard time accepting my

boyfriend back because I was so free to tell EVERYTHING, which I did do and admitted to him and everyone, after we had a falling out. I know people won’t forget the things I said and they will look at him differently, and it hurts knowing I caused it. What can I do? I’m so lost.

Sorry this was so long and so many issues 😕

[Tealribbon]

Family issues are sooooo complicated and full of triggers. I'm sorry

[Mary-intussuception]

Are we wise to go public? I sometimes wonder . . .

I know what it's like to be open / trusting / transparent - and be hurt, misunderstood.

Sadly (I have learnt ) some people love to gossip about others.

One way to avoid that could be for your boyfriend and you to communicate privately.

Facebook is public - why not a text?

If we either get upset by other's comments or just don't like it - even if we want to show our love and thanks for each publicly - may be best to be more private and just be happy together.

Just some thoughts to consider - hope this helps.

When people feel the need to gossip about others maybe we should feel sorry for them,

that their lives are so lacking . . . . .

Also - might be envy ? Jealousy?

Try to put this behind you. Remember we are Precious.

Don't let anyone's negative comments "hang around" in your thoughts and get you down or distract you from what's important here .

Just get on with your lives.

People who gossip about others are just not worth spending our energy / emotions on.

Pray for her, then try to let it go.

Hopefully, one day she will grow up , but don't hold your breath !!!

God Bless x

🌹♡🌹♡🌹

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to Mary-intussuception]

We do communicate privately. He just made a post thanking me for the coffee and sandwich. She must have been lying in wait because she pounced. It’s difficult. And thank you 🙏