Who Really Cares

[dangerousmind4523]

My pain is just that-mine. People ask or say: “how are you?” However, do they really want to know or making small talk? Hey, either way- do they really care or do they have a hidden agenda? I really don’t care anymore about their feelings nor do they really care about mine. I am sick of others telling me: how to behave, what to say, how to say it, how loud to say it, how to be respectful, etc. I am retired Army and I know how to conduct myself so, what is their excuse? Please, I am asking: refrain from telling me how to live my life. Thank you and good day.

[Hidden]

You are completely right

[All_alone]

Very well said!!!! All the same for me and add telling me how to run my business when the person has no clue about my specific business!!!! Then the person calls me "prickly ". Yes, people must refrain from those things!!

[Gjkas]

Hi there, yup you're right. People ask you how you are, but half of them don't really give a damn A few years ago my Granddaughters Mother in law asked me how I was,i had a job to turn around to answer her because of my illness, but i made it. When i started to tell her she got her mobile phone out of her bag and started texting someone. She didn't even notice that I'd stopped talking. Why the hell did she bother asking me for when she wasn't bloody interested .AND SHE'S A CARER... I'M GLAD SHE'S NOT MINE. People telling you what to do all the time, that doesn't help my nerves. Then if i tell them to shut up, they say something like, ( OH WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU ? )Oh i wish I could say what I really want to, but I can't. I really should say, ( YOU KNOW WHAT THE MATTER IS, SO WHY ....... ASK ).

.I THINK WHAT YOU HAVE WROTE IS JUST, SO RIGHT..Gjkas

[Oshgosh]

There are several levels of how are yours.

One. Is just a way to pass the day.

At the. Other end of the spectrum of how are you is the. Person who will say : how are you doing, ?is everything really ok,?do you need anything. ? Hard to know some times which level they are asking at.

Hope I’ve made some sense.

[Agora1]

I hear you dangerousmind x In life, who really does care?

I can tell you that we do on this forum. Let me start by thanking

you for your service, it is much appreciated. I'm happy to Welcome

you to a safe place to come where you are not judged. If we ask

"how are you?" we mean what we say, it's just not idle chit chat.

We respect each and every one of our members. I'm glad you are here x

[dangerousmind4523]

Thank you all for the replies. I find it so difficult to ‘ask’ for help because many people have their: own lives to live, people to see and things to do. I am just trying not to “ruffle any feathers.”