The email I got.

For the people that wanted to see what the email is that I got a while ago this is it.

[Michdau1]

Hi lolo1999. I read the health unlocked email you posted but haven't read all you threads. They aren't suggesting that you should delete your account or that no one is willing to support you. They are advising that you should seek further professional support in addition to this forum, not instead of this forum. If you are feeling low, try to remember that everything is temporary and don't make any decisions when you're feeling so sad. Just take a deep breath and one small step.... For example- contact your gp, go to your local a&e, call the Samaritans. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. YOU WILL HAVE GOOD DAYS. YOU WILL GAVE RELIEF FROM THE WAY YOU FEEL NOW ❤️ it's obvious to me that ppl on here care for you and that's why so many ppl have replied to your posts; including the support team XXX we are all thinking if u and want the best for you xxx

[Hidden in reply to Michdau1]

Hi Michdau1. I made the decision myself to possibly delete my account because from what the first part of that email says. I have just felt it being a bit pointless of me being on here. I have been to my doctor and I am on antidepressants now and I have been to a counselor and I still do contact the samaritans and I have been in the hospital.

Thanks

[Michdau1 in reply to Hidden]

I hope that whatever u decide is right for you. I hope you get everything you need whichever direction you choose to go. I am really proud that you are getting some support, we all need it XXX Although you may not realise it or feel like it right now, the fact u are seeking help and guidance means that you do want to make positive changes in your life and make your world better. That is HOPE ❤️ you can do this. This too shall pass Lolo xxx

[Hidden in reply to Michdau1]

Thanks. I have really just been trying to find everything that I can just to talk to somebody because I am alone. Thanks again xxxx

[Jeff1943 in reply to Hidden]

Michdau is right, Lolo, admin wasn't asking you to leave this forum, they were saying that they think you need additional help from specialists, more help than can be found on this forum alone.

[kenster1]

hi hope your feeling a little better today.the thread means that admin think you need to be accessing all the help that you can in your day to day life and have provided useful numbers for you.it doesn't mean that you cant stay but we can only offer limited support having gone through similar things to you.hey lots of people are reaching out to you know I hope it makes you see the forum in a different light.take care.

[Hidden in reply to kenster1]

Hi. I do feel a bit down still today but it helps seeing all the responses. It just really seems by the first bit of that email that it can’t really be helped here at all with what I have said on any posts and possibly other people’s posts as well.

[Amandasullivan12 in reply to Hidden]

Hi lolo ur user name says lolo 1999 is that the year you were born ? Which country do you live in im from london.trust me how ever you are feeling it wont last forever it will pass try and do at least one thing aday that you enjoy makes you smile come on there must be 1 thing? Do you have any siblings a partner id love to know more about you x

[EleanorRose]

Hi Lolo1999,

I did see your earlier post where you mention leaving this site but did not see any of the threads that this is referring to.

I agree with Michdau1’s comment. If this is an important and helpful part of your support network, no one is suggesting you leave the site. The purpose of the email is to direct you to other sources of information and support as it sounds like you needed a higher level of support at the time.

I, personally, find this a useful forum from time to time for my own issues and consider it part of my support network. However, I also need more support than what I can get from just this forum and also see a therapist each week.

Do what is right for you. You do not have to leave this site and I don’t believe that is what the email is suggesting. If you find it helpful, stay. But also access those other sources of support - therapists, doctors, the Samaritans, when you need them.

Eleanor

[Hidden in reply to EleanorRose]

Hi EleanerRose. I think it has to do with comments I have said on other posts to but I am not sure.

I just made the decision myself that I may leave but it seems nobody wants me to leave.

I am glad that you find this site helpful for you and your therapist to.

I have been to a counselor, my doctor and the hospital and I am on contact with the samaritans.

[EleanorRose in reply to Hidden]

The great thing about this forum is that you don’t have to make a permanent decision.

People don’t want you to feel like you HAVE to leave, but if you WANT to leave, that’s completely your choice which I am sure other people would support. You have to do what is best for you. I think what you have seen is how supportive people on here can be.

I originally joined this forum about a year ago, left, came back and so on and so forth. Not for any reason, purely based on how I felt/what I needed at the time. If you need to continue to have a break from it, you can. If one day you need support from the forum, it’ll still be here.

Don’t be swayed by what you think other people want. You have a place here on this forum but have got to make a decision which is best for you and your mental health.

I am glad that you are accessing the other support that you need.

Eleanor

[Hidden in reply to EleanorRose]

I have been off for 2 months already because I just couldn’t say anything it was to hard. I am surprised with the response alright.

How did you get on with taking time off here?

Thanks xx

[EleanorRose in reply to Hidden]

As I say, I have come off and on of the forum as and when I need it. Sometimes I come on to post my own stuff, other times to reply to people - today I am doing a bit of both. I know some people have made 'friends' on these forums and regularly speak to the same people, I tend to just speak with whoever is around at the time. On that basis, coming on and off of the forum has worked perfectly for me personally.

From reading some of your other comments, it sounds to me like you find it hard to talk to people in your 'real' ( as oppose to online) life so use this forum as a space to connect with people? There is nothing wrong with that at all and it's great that you find this forum useful for that. When I initially joined the forum, it was during a period when I was finding it hard to talk to people in my 'real' life and found it hard to be understood.

Do you have anyone in your 'real' life you can talk with, as well as talking to people on here? One of the most supportive people in my life at a really low period turned out to be one of my (older) work colleagues. I didn't tell her everything at once but over time I became quite close with her and she originally helped me to see a therapist.

I think it is very brave of your to return here after what sounds like a really difficult time for you and I hope you get the support you are looking for.

Let me know if I can help in any way.

Eleanor Rose

[Hidden in reply to EleanorRose]

It is good that you still have been using this site even if it isn’t often. I hope talking to well everybody does help you.

Talking to people that know me in real life doesn’t normally end well as they all leave me eventually so I end up with nobody a lot that I can talk to. I do try to find anything that I can just to talk to people on even if I don’t actually know them. I am glad that you find this site useful now.

I don’t have anybody anymore I can really talk to in person as everybody has given up on me. I am glad you could talk to a work colleague and that she helped you to go and see a therapist.

Thank you xx

[Hidden]

Hello there...to me it seems that they're just coming from concern for you...they want to make sure you are safe...if you find you have caring people here and have your back...please stay...I'll be here for you....you may pm me if you'd like..I'll do my best to help and give you a smile dear one...don't forget how special you are..there's only one you!

Dump trucks filled with love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you special one!!!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi. It isn’t the only email from them so I just don’t know really what I am going to do. Thanks for that it does help to talk to anybody at all since nobody that actually knows me wants to talk to me.

Thank you xxxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It's my pleasure...you just stay here and make connections with us here...again I'll be here for you...do the best I can for you...not only do you need a good listener..... we ALL do, right? I'm sure there are many great things about you...I'd love to hear!

Dump trucks filled with love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you !!!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. Yeah that is true and if you do want to pm me at any time that is no problem. Awww thanks xxxx

[JEG325 in reply to Hidden]

Hey, my awesome friend, thought I quickly say hello before I jump into bed. Awesome to run across you at anytime. I hope you're you're doing fantastic. Sue sayd hi too! Love and hugs from both us. Okay?

[Hidden in reply to JEG325]

Hiya. Thanks that is nice of you. I am ok thanks. Hi to both of you and thank you xx

[Hidden in reply to JEG325]

Hey there hi...nice to hear from you and Sue...I'm wonderful and guess what? Here they come...dump trucks filled with love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you and Sue!!!

[JEG325 in reply to Hidden]

Darn, you must have an unending supply of those dump trucks! Sue just says she has missed talking to you and she told me to add million extra hugs for her. Have a wonderful, awesome day, my friend!

[Hidden in reply to JEG325]

The both of you are more than welcome to give me a ring on a boring day...oh that's right..you both are on cloud 9 ...hahaha..I get it..so happy for you guys!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy n hugs!!!

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Lolo

Thank you for sharing the email. I can see where you thought it may be negative. I agree with the others it was suggesting additional help.

We are all entitled to our opinions and feelings. So, you can always write in your post " my opinion" or " my feeing" on this subject.....

you don't seem like a person that would hurt someone. It's ok to post from the heart. " I'm feeling so negative and down today" people can't take offense to your feelings.

I had an experience when I first came on with someone literally attacking me for my post. That should never be done. I got some great support from others. That's when I felt the sense of community.

I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

You’re welcome Dolphin14. I actually wasn’t to sure what to say about that to be honest as I didn’t know that they do email some people.

I do try not to be hurting anybody but it would seem that I always do.

Sorry to hear that somebody had attacked one of your posts. I am glad that you did get support here that you need.

I am a bit down still today but I am ok. It helps to see all of the responses here

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

You don't seem like someone that would hurt someone. But if you were afraid to post those were just some suggestions. Things my therapist taught me to do when speaking to people

Yes, I had only been her for a couple days and I was supported. It was a good feeling. At first I thought I did something wrong as I was new.

I'm glad you are feeling better. It seems like you have a lot of responses here supporting you.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Like I said I try not to but it seems that I do since everybody in my life leaves me at some stage. I am glad your therapist has taught you that.

I am glad you felt supported on your first couple of days here. I hope you always are to.

I do feel a bit better than I was yesterday but I still feel a bit like crap today but I honestly wasn’t expecting this response at all from so many people.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Lolo

People will come and go in our lives for many reasons. But they make that choice and that's about them, not about you.

I know it's hard to lose people and when I do I feel like I've been judged and not worthy.

Again, something else my therapist is trying to get me to understand better.

I am getting it now.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

I just found it hard this time because I got accused of bullying and harassment when I moved away a few months ago so I seem to always be at fault for losing friends.

I am the same and I always feel that I am better off keeping everything to myself since I always lose everybody.

I am glad that you are understanding now what your therapist is telling you.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Put those relationships behind you now. I do believe we learn lessons from everyone we meet in our lives.

Some people are hurtful. As long as you are true to yourself that's what matters.

I'm off to do some yoga. Have you ever done it? I find it takes my mind off all the negativity in my life. For that brief span of time I am at peace.

Look around at how blessed you are with support here. People are so sincere. I hope you decide to stay. But you have choices and your choices make you feel more in control of your life. Do what's best for you.

Try and have a good day.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

I do try it is just quite hard.

Yeah people can be quite hurtful at times.

Enjoy the yoga. I used to do it before I fell out with my aunty as she teaches it but from getting so much abuse from a karate teacher I used to have I now have a bad knee so I can’t do yoga anymore because of it. I am glad it helps you. It can be relaxing.

I might stay since it seems people want me to stay.

[No1wthayla]

Hi, Lola1999,

Depression sucks. It pulls you into a dark corner, fills your mind with despair and then blocks the light. Those who suffer have varying degrees of these symptoms and lots of other problems to go with it.

The more tools we have to fight this monstrously huge, worldwide issue the more likely we are to pull ourselves up. It might take a lot of hard work and a million attempts but you need to FIGHT.

I hope that the replies you receive are encouraging you to use this forum for a tool that you need. I personally have found a lot of help by reading what others say, their pain, struggles, steps they took that helped them. And to have someone, even just one person, say they believe in you, want to help you ... the dark retreats a little more.

I would’ve never found this help without accidentally finding HealthUnlocked. I have felt love from people I would’ve never met without this site. Let us help you by being here to listen. And if we fail to respond to a post, I think that really means we are trying to figure out what to say. Or maybe a post hits too close to home. You can just pop in to read posts until you are ready for posting your own.

[Hidden in reply to No1wthayla]

Hi. Yeah it really does and with all of the problems that caused me to get it I am now on antidepressants because of it.

I am on my own a lot just staying away from people since nobody in my life cares about me at all. So I hide away most days now really.

I am surprised with the responses here as I didn’t expect this much. I am glad the posts you read do help you.

It is great to hear that you feel better after finding this site. I may stay I don’t know and I do know it can be a while before any response to a post if any at all.

[Hidden]

Hi sorry for saying this but any responses I haven’t replied to yet I will soon I just need a bit of time to myself right now it’s nothing to do with any of you I just feel a bit pressured and stressed and dizzy at the moment. I will be back soon but thanks to everybody that has responded xxxx

[lawdog]

Oh. Lolo1999,

That message is one the administrators may send after they have read your messages and think some additional help besides this venue would be benefical because they are very concerned for your state of feelings from your messages. They were reaching back out to you to help. You say you have no money for a therapist: maybe they know how to help find one or you.made help. Have you written back to them. Can't you see? You are no someone everyone ignoes. Even the adminustrators care about you. Write back to Katy who sent the concerned message.