I just want to give up and move back home

[LibraryLove]

I’ve been so unhappy and depressed. Everything lately has felt so difficult to do. Going to work, making dinner, running errands - I’m just so tired of it all. Tomorrow I have to drive over an hour and a half to go with my sister to her college tour and I don’t want to and I’m sobbing in my room at midnight about how much I don’t want to go. I just want to stay in and not go anywhere or do anything for a solid month. I don’t want to self harm or anything but I just want to give up on everything

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Hey there,

I'm really sorry with everything you're dealing with. Things can feel pretty overwhelming and I know how you feel. I do have to ask...do you absolutely have to go? Is there someone else or is she able to drive herself? If not and you are needed, the best you can do is be as positive as you can and prepare yourself mentally. Do some mindfulness and deep breathing. Picture the drive going well, maybe just enjoying the breeze or some good music. Think about what a great sister you are for being supportive. I know it's not what you want to do, but if you're basically all but sworn to this drive, the best thing you can do is make the best of it. Prepare yourself mentally and physically. Pack a bag with stuff that makes you happy...maybe some aromatherapy, a good book, a favorite snack.

Unfortunately, I don't think it'll do you any good to barricade yourself in for awhile. You sound like you could use some alone time just to "veg" out. Often when we're overwhelmed, as I'm sure you know, we reach these points. This trip just seems to be the metaphorical cherry on top. I would reward yourself if you can make this happen and allow yourself some personal time to decompress all the emotions, stress, and tension. Treat yourself to a massage or whatever might make you feel good. I wish I had better things to mention.

I'm really sorry to hear how things are and what you have ahead. Again, I wish I could do more than just make suggestions....but just take things one step at a time if you HAVE to go. Breathe and try to use this drive as a chance to zone out (paying attention to the road) from all the other stresses. I do hope you feel better and hope you get a chance to let all the stress fall off and away from you. Take care and feel better ASAP

[pianoplayer90]

I can understand things feeling too overwhelming to do. Lately, I often feel the same. I used to try pushing through it until I really started losing energy and the fatigue started to affect my physical health. I needed a break, and I think it was good to take one, but I'd beware getting stuck in a rut where it's hard to get going again. Momentum is hard to build, and it would be bad to alienate relationships by becoming an unreliable person. If you're able to vocalize how you feel, and have people who will understand your need to take a break and help you recharge, it might be good to do. Oh, and by take a break I don't mean quit your job or anything! But you know, help you with cooking and errands from time to time, maybe so you can decompress when you have time off.

[momonthego2019]

I have days like that too where I don't want to do anything and I don't want to go anywhere. Most of the time, i just push myself to do whatever it is I need to do because I have to do it but lately I am starting to realize I need to do more enjoyable things for myself. Exercising, going to a nice restaurant (alone if i have to), walk on the beach, spa treatment, etc. Life doesn't have to be miserable. It can be enjoyable. You may not want to go with your sister on this college tour but what a great bonding moment it can be for the two of you. Yes you are sacrificing your time but I believe blessings come from our sacrifice to others. I pray better days ahead for you and a wonderful trip with your sister. Keep us posted!