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[limacenter]

my husband is a good guy he just does not understand how anxiety and depression effect someone. he has never really seem someone in deep depression or someone having an anxiety attack

[Jeff1943]

Very, very few people who have not been touched by anxiety and depression themselves can understand what it's like. They judge it based on their own experiences of feeling a little down or nervous for an hour or two.

So out come all the cliches like "Snap out of it", "Pull yourself together" and "You'll feel fine after a night's sleep."

This is why Doctor Claire Weekes, M.B.E., M.B., D.Sc., F.R.A.C.P included in her first book "Self help for your nerves" a chapter titled 'Advice for your family' (Chapter 25).

[Hidden]

He needs to come on this site and read some of the posts on how depression and anxiety affects some people and how hard they fight to survive and get through some really bad days.

[ChicagoGirl1961 in reply to Hidden]

That is an outstanding idea!

[chinadoll1374]

It's hard for someone who has never experienced depression to understand it. I would suggest that you sit down and discuss your feelings with him. Reassure him that your depression is not his fault nor a reflection on him. Be patient and help him understand what your good days look like and how your bad days are. Give him advice on what he can do for you when you have a bad day. Attached is an article that you might want to pass along to him to help him understand your depression: bit.ly/2rFrceH. Hope it helps. Take care of yourself.