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Ever feel like you're just spinning your wheels?

Hey all! Brian here and I just wanted to share what I seem to have been going through over the past couple of days. I can't seem to get out of my own way this past weekend. All I feel like doing is staying in bed and hiding under the covers. It's been very pleasant and sunny here all weekend and even into today. Yet I feel sleepy, groggy and just don't want to move. I don't understand why. I've only shared this with a couple of people I'm close to on this site but I'll share it now with all of you. Friday I had a CT scan done to look at a tennis ball-size mass I found in my right groin. I first noticed it back at the end of January/beginning of February and finally got it looked at. My primary care physician doesn't think it's cancerous, but she also doesn't want to take any chances. Cancer risk is very high on my mom's side of the family. I don't know if the wondering about the mass has gotten my energy level to an all time low, or if it's something else. Saturday I could barely keep my eyes open all day. I guess it's times like these I really wish I had friends close to me that I could talk to and maybe even hang out with so I wouldn't stay cooped up in my apartment all the time. But hey, one step at a time, right? lol If anyone has any suggestions on ways to raise your energy level, I'm open to trying anything at this point. I hope everyone is having a good week so far (even though it is only Monday lol). Thanks for listening and being such amazing people :)

Your friend,

Brian :)

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Positive Vibes heading your way!! And yes....it is ONLY Monday!

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Thanks Michelle! Right back at ya! :)

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Sure thing!

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Hi, Brian! I'm sorry that you are feeling so tired and unmotivated. It sounds like that growth could be draining your energy. I hope you heal and get better.

In the last 6 months I was the same way. I get really sentimental about the past and get into a funk. I am hard on myself. It was hard to get out of bed even on a nice day.

But eventually, I crawled out of it. It's slow but I do crawl somehow .

Here are some tips. That work for me. Perhaps you may find helpful.

-make a good breakfast

-Take vitamin d , magnesium and calcium pills.

- Have some herbal tea

- Wear something nice and take yourself out for a treat.

-get a massage- or a foot massage

- go dip in the local pool

- go to the library and find some things you are interested in.

If it's a physical problem then work on your health. I don't have health insurance, so I have to find natural methods. My favorite YouTube guy is Noah, his channel is Bignoknow. He has so many great tips plus he's such a nice guy. He feels like a friend.

I have GAD, so it's difficult for me to come out of my safe place.

I hope you feel better. Keep us up to date

😻Ayla-Kat

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Thanks for your nice suggestion Ayla! :) I think it's more mental than physical (although the growth is a concern) and that I'm just lethargic mentally. I want to get out and do things, but the motivation just falls flat. I will definitely give some of your suggestions a go. I'm always open to trying something new. Thanks again! :)

Your friend,

Brian :)

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Great, Brian!

I don't have any friends where I live because I moved to a new state. So I do a lot of things by myself as well.

I don't have a lot of money to spend so I try and get creative.-here are some more suggestions

-find free events

-go to a matinée

-free museum

Pack a picnic and bring a book and go to a park or beach. Bring a book and relax.-

go to a stand up comedy show.

These are some more things I thought of.

Take care😻 Ayla-Kat

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Thank you for your kind words Ayla! Same here with me. Not a lot of friends nor are there many places to meet new people outside of church (I'm not a religious person) or bars (I'm not a drinker). But I will definitely look for some of the free stuff in the area. And if you need a friend, I'll happily be your friend :)

Your friend,

Brian :)

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I hope you get positive results from your scan. Stay strong👍

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Thanks Here! Fingers crossed! :)

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Praying for good results and some peace and energy for you! I love that you respond to so many people here and try to help everyone.

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Thank Jwire! :) Well, I respond every chance I get because I know what it's like not to have anyone respond when I used to write on forums in the past. Everyone that responds to me is important, whether I agree or disagree with what someone has wrote. I respect everyone's opinion and once I get to know someone, I love to listen as well as talk to anyone who wants to talk to me :) That's how we learn and grow, by talking to and listening to others :) I'm glad you responded.

A stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet :)

Your friend,

Brian :)

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Hey Brian. Stressors like concerns about health issues can really take a lot of energy away. One of the things I try to do is think about what I would say to a good friend if it was them having the struggle I am having, and then give myself the same words of encouragement. I am often much nicer to other people than I am to myself, and I think I should be AS nice to myself as I am to others I care for.

I have spoken with hundreds, perhaps even thousands of others all over the globe that have said they have the same struggle, so, it seems being awful to ourselves is technically a global epidemic. Think about it. If you talked to others the same way you talk to yourself when you make a mistake, would they want to be around you?

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Hiya Old Soul! That's a very good point. I'm trying to take better care of myself. It's a daily process, but I'm trying :) And I totally agree with you. No one would want to be around me if I talked to them the way I talk to myself. I only just realized that not too long ago, and I'm trying to get better at that. Like I said, it's a daily process :)

Your friend,

Brian :)

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Well, I hope you're able to get some good, peaceful rest, and as a result re-gain some good, positive energy and "get the pep back in your step," as the saying goes.

Sometimes it can feel like I'm spinning my wheels for long periods when in fact I really am actually doing just what I need to be doing, and eventually I hit a period where lots of things all come to fruition in rapid succession and things seem to sort of just click together effortlessly.

Closer examination through the years suggests to me that that seemingly effortless stuff is really just an illusion brought about by the fact that I am seeing only that short period of time in that particular day or week at the moment, and if I am able to take some actual time to reflect on the bigger picture, much of the success on and given day is due in large part to the 30 miles of bad road I had navigated in the weeks previous that allowed me to reach the point of several successes.

It's pretty simple, really, but those with money and power prefer working and/or poor folks to "not think too much for themselves," but to rather, "just keep doing what we are told is good for us." It's not too popular a fact, but it's a truth that stretches back many centuries.

Perseverance, honesty, tolerance, indomitable spirit, love and open mindedness CAN effect global changes. It would be nice if our children and the generations that follow are left a world that is more wholesome than the one we have right this second. That IS possible, if we can start to make some humble changes within our selves, each of us just a little at a time.

Most of us would love to do something incredible, and in that desire, we are each proven extraordinarily ordinary. :)

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I wholeheartedly agree Old Soul :-D

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