Just keep moving.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I truly feel like since I have been being more active and doing things it has helped my mental status tremendously! I’ve been playing “easy sports” or Tuesdays with no running or contact so no one gets hurt. I take it easy some. I love it! I have been going to meetup activities and having fun. I switched to two days a week at work with 4 hours a shift instead of 6. Big difference in pain level. Plus gets me out more. I picked up an extra shift Monday for someone. I find when I get out I can open my mind. I’m a firm believer that activity or exercise is the best medicine for mental health. Idle minds breed negativity. I got a new bed. No more sleeping on the couch. It’s King instead of Queen so my Tater Tot has room to stretch out in the middle. It’s so comfortable and back supporting so I’m getting good sleep. 2nd best medicine. I’m evening waking up a lot earlier. Which still isn’t “early” but for me it is. I feel better in general. So shopping for bed linens for my new bed Saturday I was turning and took a step and felt a horrible pop in my hip. I did not get to work Sunday. I couldn’t walk. Then I picked up a shift Monday in kitchen since it’s slow there and not as much standing so that was good. It’s just one step forward. 2 steps back. I’m not giving up though. I haven’t been on as much but I feel better and don’t want to trigger myself into anxiety. I just need a little time to work on myself. So distance some but I try to look in daily. PM friends if you need an ear, advice or support. I’m around just working on myself. All the people that support me are so precious to me! I’ll always want to support you too. So feel free to OM me if I don’t see your post. I’ll have lots of stuff I’m sure to be back for. I’m just fighting to keep doing good right now. It’s good though. If any of you aren’t sleeping well think about your bed. How long have you had it? They should be change at minimum every 8 years. Mine was at least 15. That won’t help everyone but I needed pain support as well as sleep and it’s great. 2 weekends in a row my birthday weekend and last weekend my husband was very nice and spoiled me for my birthday. We ate out and I got a bed, bedding, clothes, shoes etc. Most of all his sober time without him being mean. I’ll take what I can get. Otherwise I’m doing my own thing which helps. I love you all. I may seem stuck at times. It takes me time to process but I have changed a lot of things. Thanks to this group. I’m a work in progress always but at least now I’m working. So thanks and much love to all. Hit me up if you need a friend. I don’t have any yet but I’m liking being with myself more. Stronger every day. Waiting for the back step always. Working on letting that go but will take time. I’m still moving.

[Agora1]

Tinkerbell, I was actually able to smile while reading your positive, hopeful post. I like the idea about dividing your job into 2 *4 hour shifts, much easier to handle. I'm glad your birthday was special as it should be. We take what we can get when the going is good. Embrace the new feelings you are having in interacting with others. I couldn't be happier for you. You are an inspiration to all of us that we can't just sit around feeling sorry for ourselves. Keep moving forward, you're making good progress. Love & Hugs, Agora x

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell in reply to Agora1]

I sat around for way too long! I’m over it. Changing my schedule has really helped. Much less anxiety over severe pain and getting out more. I had gotten almost comfortable being uncomfortable. I’m trying to change that!

[gerg]

Keep on saying “I’m working on myself”. It is so nice to hear!

[Aspergirl47]

Hey Hopeful-Tinkerbell....Was so lovely reading your post...how well u are doing I know what u mean when u say...comfortable being uncomfortable...I think that's what happened to me also...I have realized how long ive stayed at home being a people pleaser and just being used for it....but today I actually booked a yoga class for myself this Tuesday...I'm excited but very anxious too....haven't done anything for myself in years...Aspergers and social anxiety make it very difficult to socialise but this class is for anxiety sufferers...so I went for it I hope we all can progress...would be nice Well done to u...Sending hugs xx

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell in reply to Aspergirl47]

That sounds great!!

[susanjo613]

It's so great to hear that you are progressing! You sound so positive and that's inspiring! I'm glad your hubby spoiled you for your bday. It is always so difficult for me to get moving but I've found that after I've taken a long walk with my dog, I feel so much better. Thanks for sharing

[gogogirl]

Wonderful- am happy for you. You truly are a real inspiration - way to go !

[Anxiouspony12]

Hi there yes keeping active certainly helps and in my case having a friend to encourage and motivate me he's called Oliver and he's helped me no end he's a really true friend and I help him too and we both got ADHD and so keeping active is best way for us!!! 🤑

[Pam456]

Really happy for you. Keep it up

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

That’s crazy! I lay on my side with a pillow between my legs. The spasms are brutal though. Any certain move and it’s excruciating! I never know when it will hit. Hope you are able to get more answers. I take anti inflammatory and muscle relaxer. That helps.

[gogogirl]

Great to have a friend who understands you

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I just put a body pillow between my legs to keep my hips even width. My sciatic nerve causes pain. Worked last night and non stop spasms. It was bad. That’s my normal. I am working on losing weight too.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I may need to start trying that. It’s getting worse and worse. Now I work twice a week as a cashier just for something to do now that I retired early from my career on disability. It’s hard! I have a doctors note to sit occasionally between customers as needed but they give so many extra jobs to do between customers it’s hard. I’m not one to leave work undone. It’s in my blood to be a hard worker. I’m only working there for fun until my adult son gets his vehicle fixed so he can share my car. As soon as he does I may try something different. I was substitute teaching for years but I like working at night. I’m not a morning person with all this pain. I’m not sure but I’ll have to find a wedge. Anything’s worth a try.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I do a lot. I even clean bathrooms. Gross. Stock. Sweep. Mop. Etc. to include my cashier duties.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I’m not that old either. 😂 47. Just a little bit old. I’ve lived more life in 47 than some do in a lifetime though as far as trauma.

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Love this post.