Having hard time with my anxiety when doing actives with my kids any good tips on helping me control it?

[Meback]

Tips plz

[gerg]

With the limited information given, I’d say listen to your self talk and dispute the irrational statements. Never, always, should, should not... are the type of irrational thoughts to avoid.

Search: Ellis, rational emotive therapy.

Remember that it is only you that makes you anxious.

[Vonnah]

I would just say take deep breaths. Slow yourself down if you can. Just remember to breathe. Take one thing at a time and don't overdo anything. Pace yourself and hopefully that will help. 👋

[erin_c]

Sometimes I take xanax. Anxiety makes me edgy and irritable, especially with bad pms. Honestly, I just don't have the capacity to do many activities with my kids. I give what I can, and be present in ways that I can be which includes providing a stable home, meals and groceries, hugs, checking in. Thankfully I have a husband who is willing to do activities and adventures with them. I don't often go, but when I do I use Xanax as a tool to be a more calm and pleasant person. At times I feel sad and guilty for not being the ideal mom I would want to be, but then I remind myself that I'm doing the best I can do with this disease and the brain I've been given.

[Starrlight in reply to erin_c]

I feel what you have said here. We do our best.

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Hi, Meback. I hope you are having a good day.

I felt the same way when my kids where in school. I must admit I didn't deal with it very well. I didn't know anyone who had trouble dealing with anxiety when I was younger. There was a time when there was no internet to help me reach out and touch others who were fighting the same fight.

I have learned a lot since my adult daughter started having a tough time with anxiety. There is no magic bullet/instant cure. What works for me doesn't always work for her right now. Her doctor prescribed medication for a while because the anxiety was so extreme last year.

I practice mindfulness every single day now, but it took years for me to really embrace it. Mindfulness is not a cure for me; however, it does help me pull myself together so that I can get through tough situations. I have to do the work in order to reap the benefits. I'm learning not to let myself get caught up and carried away with my thoughts and feelings.

No matter what it is, you will get through it.

Blessing!

[Starrlight]

Set the activity up but do when you are in a good place. For me anyway I just stress and can’t even think to do the activities well when I’m too anxious. You could try doing something for you beforehand like exercise or a bath something that helps you relax before the activity.