When people tell you that you'll be fine

[C0untry]

I have been dealing with my depression since August. Well it has gotten worse in two days I had three panic attacks and was told by my mom I just need to grow a pair. I get panic attacks at work and in the grocery store. I dont have a support system at home to help me and I can see a therapist till the 22nd of January

[Agora1]

COuntry you did the next best thing until seeing your therapist and that is finding this support forum. People who haven't experienced panic attacks have no idea what it is like. On this forum, we all have and are going through the same issues as you are. Whether it be at work, at home and or in a store, the fear is the same. And that is because it all is coming from our minds. The lies that anxiety tells us manifests itself in bodily symptoms. Not harmful but extremely fearful.

Having a support system can help in knowing you are not alone as well as giving you that safe place to come to when afraid. We more than welcome you with open arms. You'll find this to be a very caring, comforting group of men and women alike of all ages from all over the world. We share our life stories with anxiety and learn from others. Looking forward to hearing more about your life's journey. Stay Positive, Stay Strong, you are no longer alone. x

[jrcnpg]

If you are having panic attacks with such frequency and feel anxious most of the time then I would suggest that you visit your GP as soon as possible given the length of time you will have to wait to see a therapist. H/she may give you a short course of a benzodiazepine such as lorazepam (Ativan) or diazepam (Valium). Please bear in mind that although these things actually do work they are very, very addictive and your GP will explain this to you along with the manner in which you should take them and the side-effects of them. I have experience of such things and of the anguish, you are going through at the moment. Your Mother could be more helpful to you but then as has already been pointed out to you the people on this forum know what you are enduring at the moment and you will get nothing but sensible and appropriate advice. I wish you well.

John

[Windy101]

Your mom does not get it, and I'm sorry. I once tried to explain to my mom how I felt when depressed and she laughed at me. Laughed! And she is not a cruel person, but boy did I feel like she was that day. I have had to forgive her because I know that she loves me and does not understand. She just doesn't. I have learned to only talk about my depression to other people who've had it, because otherwise I just end up feeling worse.

[gogogirl]

Your mom told you that? Shame on her- sounds like she needs to get educated.

[HigherLearning]

I feel you! I joined after my sister basically told me the same thing. I assumed she would be able to at least understand some of the trauma and pain behind my anxiety as she had experienced the same sexual abuse by the same person that I did. I was deeply hurt after she so aggressively explained that she would not baby me but tell me straight up that I need to get over it, move on and consider what I would people other people through by wanting him to be faced with what he did. I’ve since realized that she’s already created a coping mechanism for herself that I cannot relate to and vice-versa. I may not ever understand her point of view, but I can seek the best coping mechanism for myself. She did make a good point (in a way) that I need to take charge of my emotions. Though, I may not be mentally able to do this at times (anxiety, depression...) I can actively seek ways to manage, heal and reframe my thought process. The fact is, people who don’t suffer from disorders can’t imagine what it feels like- just the same as I can’t image what being “normal” feels like.