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QoL the two of us - we can make it if we try

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Hey y'all, I did two consecutive Fridays at the Fresno PACE Senior Center and this am, my big Bruddah Kaliber , the Hammer and I met a Lin's Asian Fusion for a buffet lunch.

What wonderful, awesome folks they are 😁. My first meeting of an HU PCa gent, prior were just caregivers Mandi and Alison

We ate and chatted, discussing all kinds of stuff, and PCa too😜. Yes, I did sing random songs😂What a great time for all, gonna have to go up more. Thinking of going to Yosemite for my May bday and will stop to meet again.

We took pix together, but will let him decide if he wants to post them

Album: photos.app.goo.gl/vU4vujMjA...

My littlest pt at 9 months

Fresno scenes: Chinese Grocery store, San Joaquin River Trail, PACE Center, Downtown Fresno shops

Did a hike in Woodward Park in Fresno and they had a 10k Support the Blue event today

youtu.be/w_inXx-J3nU?si=urE...

Come on, people now

Smile on your brother

Everybody get together

Try to love one another right now

Much Aloha and Love y'all💙

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A Prayer Request from the Faithful, my daughter Zoe in NYC had an emergency C-section. Baby Benjamin was born on 02/18 at 2 lbs 9 oz and is in NICU

Prayers, positive vibes, good juju all welcomed

Mahalo

Aloha nui Loa

Message from Zoe
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Carlosbach in reply todockam

Benjamin John,

May you be healthy, may you grow in strength,

May you be well cared for and loved,

May you have an open heart and mind,

And may you live in peace.

TO your family Doc:

May your fearful anxious hearts calm and be at peace

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dockam in reply toCarlosbach

Mahalo nui loa my Brother, beautiful words that you wrote. Ben is on the mend and Zoe was discharged and trying to walk a little. Ex wife out there taking care of Penelope, Ben's big sis

QoL on

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Orange95 in reply todockam

All the best to new baby and his family! Wishing for him to be healthy, happy, smart and cute! Fast recovery for his mom too.

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dockam in reply toOrange95

Mahalo nui loa Sis, tests so far shows it's not genetic and Zoe and hubs Sam staying near the NICU. Zoe still sore but moving albeit slowly

QoL on

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Nubeqa22 in reply todockam

Have faith and hope— we had twin grandbabies born (c-section) at 28 weeks. One was under 2lbs. He is a walking talking sassy 4 yr old. Prayers for yours.

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dockam in reply toNubeqa22

Mahalo nui loa, and wow about your grandkids. No genetic issues from testing, so hopefully Ben gains weight enough to discharge soon

QoL on

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SuzeinDE in reply todockam

Sending hugs and prayers.

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dockam in reply toSuzeinDE

Mahalo nui loa Suze, it must be working so far. A Catholic patient up here has solicited prayers from the Norbertine Monastery nuns up here

norbertinesisters.org/

QoL on

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pjd55d

thanks for sharing the good stuff

congratulations for Benjamin and all involved

Blessings to all

the music made me smile - part of the sound track of my youth

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dockam in reply topjd55d

Mahalo nui loa My Brother, stable is good and hopefully tests go well. We all have that scanxiety awaiting test results 🤞Speaking of youth, this is a Hawaii guy

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kui_Lee

youtu.be/RRNBhl2t92k?si=crq...

More Oldies

youtu.be/odPu7l5S67U?si=gMt...

QoL on

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Kaliber

the hammer and I met up with Randy Saturday for lunch at the Lin’s fusion …. Randy is exactly as his pictures and activities suggest. A great guy , athletic, great conversation… fun guy. Even the hammer likes him and she rarely likes much of anyone I know lol. That’s saying a lot. Great QOL outing filled with absorbing chit chat.

Ima going to try to get him up here again for the orange blossom trail when it’s in bloom. Thanks again big guy , it was fun.

From the hammer and myself

❤️❤️❤️

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Carlosbach in reply toKaliber

EPIC! The Bobbsey Twins of QOL meet up and get hammered.

Would have loved to be a fly on the wall.

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Kaliber in reply toCarlosbach

Soto zen Buddhist don’t have “ prayers “ but I’ll put Zoe and baby Benjamin on my “ transfer of merit “ board. I worked with nicu and neonatal for years and I know how scary emergency C sections can be for families unfamiliar with everything associated with it. Wishing for the best outcomes for both.

❤️❤️❤️🐥🐥🐥

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dockam in reply toKaliber

Mahalo nui loa Bruddah Kal, it all must've worked 😁.

Hopefully Benjamin will gain weight/thrive and be discharged when he's big enough to go home💙

QoL on

Luv ya Big Bro💙💙💙

Zoe and Ben update
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Kaliber in reply toCarlosbach

Rotflol …. No kidding, that’s exactly what it was. The hammer is very private and just doesn’t “ meet up “ with people that I’m meeting. Even decades ago, when I brought friends to the house, she would always stay in a different part of the house or leave and go somewhere. But I can no longer go by myself unless it’s quite local , reachable on my etrike. I have to thank her for helping me get out and meet up with Randy. That was way outside her comfort zone but she really liked the smooth and cool Mr Randy. lol A lot of my busy varied life ( before disabling cancer ) was quite atypical and might sound a little unbelievable ( home microphotography hobby , micro aquarium lab, home nuclear lab, laser lab, earth sciences lab , informal kayak guide guide, licensed UAV - drones flying Etc. ) fortunately I’ve saved a lot of pictures and videos and let Randy access those to see some of my unusual exploits lol. ( fly on the wall stuff ).

Randy loves to travel and savor different local and world ambiance and cuisine. It’s part of what makes him so interesting lol.

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Carlosbach in reply toKaliber

Sounds like a good time K. Glad the hammer was available and that everyone clicked so well.

Hope you don't mind me posting a pic, but I found this one of you from a few years back. The mad scientist/priest working in his lair late at night.

Dr. Kalibur
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dockam in reply toKaliber

Yea, I had a lil trepidation about meeting The Hammer😜, but I just figured that I'd roll with it baby

youtu.be/k4sF52aPCAw?si=zhl...

I looked thru my stash and found a Leticia made blue bracelet and light bulb went off to bring it up to give to her😁 as a peace offering. Must've worked as we all had a wonderful time.

Plus, she knows how you and I are here on HU, so she knew we meant a lot to each other and a meetup was our Destiny. So appreciative that she came down with you and for us all to meet/greet/grind foodz

Looking forward to another trip and Mahalo for buying lunch, next time it's my treat

And I love your esoteric interests and great pix!!!

Anyone else near CA for an HU meetup?

youtube.com/watch?v=Ta3YkTd...

Grub on

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dockam in reply toCarlosbach

YASS so epic and maybe we're Abbot and Costello, Laurel and Hardy, or Martin and Lewis. I'm jazzed about another trip up

"take a little trip"

youtu.be/BsrqKE1iqqo?si=Hyp...

QoL on

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dockam in reply toKaliber

What an awesome fun duo you two are, and I didn't get Hammered - she was very nice and engaging. A blasty blast with wonderful conversations, and Nom Nom food. Glad that she digs me, I dig her too, ya got a lovely Lady there Kal

I'm down for an Orange Blossom trip, I assume that would be when the Spring Bloom Colors are.

De Colores youtu.be/IZSqHrLB9Ro?si=H9x...

Mucho Amor and Aloha

Buffet on

💙💙💙

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DarrylPartner

thinking of Zoe and Benjamin. A safe recovery from C-section and love filled life for all.

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dockam in reply toDarryl

Mahalo nui loa Brother D, I appreciate that and what you do for us 💙

youtu.be/wj5VODa-eTY?si=ZVk...

QoL on

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hopeful1956

Randy, that is awesome you guys met in person. :)

Sending positive thoughts for a full recovery for Zoe and baby Benjamin with a full and happy life for all. xo

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dockam in reply tohopeful1956

Yea, the Stars aligned for my working to fill in at the Fresno Senior center. Dunno if they'll need me anytime soon, but it's only 2 1/2 hrs away - no biggie, I enjoy driving with tunes on 😁 So an Orange Blossom Trip and a bday in May journey up there will be awesome.

Online Croakers get to meet 😜

youtu.be/q-9kPks0IfE?si=ZBz...

Mahalo for the positive vibes, much appreciated💙 Still awaiting results and will post as soon as I hear

QoL on

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allie2020

Randy, so glad you were able to meet up with Kal and the Hammer in Kal's beloved Fresno. What a lovely time you all had. I will continue to pray for your daughter Zoe and little Benjamin.

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dockam in reply toallie2020

Mahalo nui loa and YES - it was such a wonderful time that we had, just "talking story" as we say in Hawaii. I'm looking forward to getting back up there this Spring

youtu.be/ueRsOQX3u_I?si=SI_...

QoL on

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GoBucks

🙏for the little guy.

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dockam in reply toGoBucks

Mahalo nui loa, no genetic issues, so hopefully it's just that he has to gain weight to thrive outside of the NICU. See pic above for an update

Handels on

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Gabby643

nice meal

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dockam in reply toGabby643

Mahalo nui loa was yummy

3rd plate at Lin's
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j-o-h-n

First, May Ben John grow up to be as nice as his Grandad (The maternal one that is 🤡🤡). I think the invitation to your recent luncheon/gathering was lost in the mail. Not to worry I wouldn't have offered to pick up the tab anyway. The only disappointment came from the "Blowtorch" since she was looking forward to meeting and exchanging gossip with the Hammer.

Now back to "da kid".... youse guys picked the right given name initials for him. BTW Premie's tend to grow up to be big strong guys, so treat him right otherwise you'll pay the dues later. Make sure you give him a big kiss and a hug from me and put a little bit of salt on his tongue until he's old enough to except compliments by himself (wet your finger and put salt on it for his tongue). Just for info purposes the salt is to ward off "the evil eye".

Note: A Greek-inspired nickname for "Ben" could be "Bénis" (pronounced "beh-nees") which is a close phonetic translation of "Ben" in Greek, as the "B" sound is similar and "nis" is a common ending in Greek names. There isn't a Name Day for the name BEN.

From English Benjamin, from Late Latin Benjamin, from Ancient Greek Βενιαμίν (Beniamín), from Biblical Hebrew בִּנְיָמִין (binyamīn, literally “son of the right [hand]”). The Greek name day for Benjamin is December 29.

The Greek name day for John is January 7.

Take care and

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n

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dockam in reply toj-o-h-n

Mahalo nui loa Brother J, that's such a wonderful reply with such awesome detail about the Greek name days - never knew that.

Next time I'm out on the East Coast, I'll take you and Mrs Blowtorch out for lunch, my treat😁. And I dunno if Zoe will allow that salt finger, but ya never know.

I offered to go out to assist with Penelope (wife of Odysseus), the older sis. Zoe said that they have a nanny for that

youtu.be/1qzJtiMI4pI?si=xuO...

Spoke to Alison last night about meeting Kal, and your name came up, in a good way 😃

Σας ευχαριστώ

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j-o-h-n in reply todockam

We will take you out for a feast at Carmines in Manhattan. carminesnyc.com/locations/t...

Bring big BEN along......... somebody's got to pick up the tab.

τίποτα (típota) the same as nada in Spanish

BTW there's a statue of Melina in Athens. She became a heavy duty socialist politician after acting. She was married to Jules Dassin American film and theatre director, producer, writer and actor. A subject of the Hollywood blacklist, he subsequently moved to France, and later Greece (also a heavy duty socialist). He grew up in Harlem (Manhattan) and attended Morris High School in the Bronx (5 city blocks from where I grew up). You would never guess he (and the cultured me) grew up in the Barrio.....Keep smiling Gramps...

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n

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dockam in reply toj-o-h-n

Oh Wow, that Carmines menu is awesome, and I'll pick up the tab, lil Ben can take me out after he gets his 1st job😁

Zoe took me too brooklyncrab.com/ after we did the ZERO 5k out there

In Pic my BiL who had prostate out like 12 yrs ago

Cool about statue, meh about socialism. At ZERO NYC marathon we went thru the 5 boroughs and The Bronx was out there rockin it

Mangia On

2019 ZERO NYC 5k
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babychi

Great meet up, fabulous music, magic baby outcome. Life is full of fairy dust. 🧚🏼‍♀️🦄

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dockam in reply tobabychi

Yea, major QoLing with great folks is always a Splendid Thing. Music is stuck in my old brain and I can't control whatever pops up. Baby Ben an Zoe are stable so far, no news is good news.

I'm feeling Good

youtu.be/oHs98TEYecM?si=XI5...

QoL on

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babychi

Awesome voice! Here comes the sun! No one can sing that song like she does! Tks!💜⭐️

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dockam in reply tobabychi

Yea, totally dig her sound:

youtu.be/JS8LWRCS6do?si=piP...

youtu.be/WCjzNfJLHa0?si=Ytk...

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babychi

Thanks for clips!👍🏻💜

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garyjp9

Congratulations on your new grandson, Randy! I am glad to know that he and your daughter are each on the road to recovery. Is the 9-month old in your post photos really a "patient"? What can you do for someone that young? We'll be looking for photos of Ben soon!

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dockam in reply togaryjp9

Mahalo nui loa Brother G, Benjamin gained 3ozs so far and hopefully will soon get big enough to go home. Didn't wanna bug Zoe for a pic yet

Mom was told by her pediatrician to get a dental check up😂 so she brought him over, The G ma was there and made an appt with us right after😁

youtube.com/watch?v=9_y6nFj...

Mom is top comment, the bottom comment is from an HU daughter who lost Dad to PCa, the one above that is a pt with us for over 20 years💙

QoL on

Floss on

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garyjp9

D Sylvester was right. You DO make everyone smile. 😁

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dockam in reply togaryjp9

Mahalo nui loa Bruddah G, Dawn's a great lady, had her Dad on backpack in Spain

youtu.be/llxHANFzSz8?si=Rrc...

QoL on

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