It is with broken heart that I come here to inform, that my hero, my dad, passed away yesterday, April 10th. I was able to take care of him till the end and be with him when he took his last breath.
I know that once things clam down, the grief and feelings of emptiness will be overwhelming, so I better write this post while I'm still capable of doing it.
I have written a dedicated post regarding his last treatment that led to his dramatic decline and death, so I will use this post to speak about what kind of a man my dad was.
My dad grew without his father - he was only 3 years old, when he died - miners did not live long back then. To be born in former Yugoslavia during WW2 and without a father, meant he hardly had time to be a child. As his older siblings left home early, he, living with his mom and disabled sister, had to start working a small boy. He grew up to be kindhearted, responsible, hard working man, taking care of his loved one. He was a man of action, naturally intelligent, he could do anything from scratch with his hands without plans on paper. And boy, he loved to work - you could hardly see him rest until disease, or should I say, unprofessional treatment, that was based purely on his age, made him slow down.
My dad and my mom gave me a warm home, one that I always loved to come back to; even when studies or work took me away, I came home most week-ends. And I always refer to our house as my home. Not because of the bricks, but because I always felt unconditional love and support from my parents. I could have not imagined better parents and I would have chosen then again and again. Being born to them, was like hitting the jackpot.
My mom died in 2016 and then in was only my dad and me. But we stuck together and while this disease has taken so much from us, it also brought us even closer. We were both, my dad and I, workaholics. My dad, though he would do everything for me, seldom expressed with feelings. He became softer, more emotional. And 4 years ago I got the opportunity to work from home and moved back to him. We spend the last 4 years eating every meal together, going on countless walks, expressing our feelings and nothing was left unsaid. I was able to take care of him till the end and be with him when he took his last breath.
I know that it will be very hard for me to move on, to find a new meaning in life, but I have promised my dad, that I will be fine, that I will find joy in life again. And promises are to be kept.
I hope that one day I will be stable enough to offer support to men and their families fighting, but I feel I must now take some time off this page to regain purpose in life.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you all for your support. I wish and pray that cure will come for this terrible disease.
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A big hug to you, God bless you for being with him till the end. He is at peace now and I hope you will be able to find peace for yourself in the future.
I see so much of your dear father in mine, also a workaholic also a tough childhood where he had to take care of his family and also a kind man. Its hard to find those kind of souls anymore, and we had a privilege to be their daughters and sons.
My biggest fear now is that my father will leave this world disappointed in me and reading your posts and messages I can say that you father must have been so proud of his daughter. You are a role model for me, and I want to thank you for the time you took to reply to my messages
Please take care of yourself, the burden of grief is heavy on the body and the soul, take comfort in the fact that you gave your best to help him, that you spent so much time with him. In the end we will all perish, but maybe someday we will meet our loved ones again.
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Wow ..thanks for sharing that must have been hard. I can imagine spending those 4 years with him..must have been a great consultation.. many never get the opportunity to be so close everyday …to talk and feel a strong sense of family .. I talk to my mom remotely ..in Japan..but how many times will any of us really see our parents before they are gone., while that must have been tough for you spending 4 full years is amazing and I’m sure your dad was so greatful as you are. We don’t live forever and I wish you the best to have someone like you by your side. Take care ! Sending love.
Thank you for writing such a touching story of an outstanding family man and person. Your dad was also a lucky man to have you by his side during this trying time.
what a beautifully written tribute to your dad. You were a blessing to him. I am so glad you had those last years to be together. You were warriors together.
My heartfelt condolences go out to you. I am so very grateful for my relationships with my family and especially my daughter. I’m glad your Dad was fortunate to have you near him during the last few years and I hope you get a chance to rest.
Beautifully expressed! I know how hard it is to capture the whole person in a few sentences, but you gave me a good feel for what he was like and what it was like to be with him. How lovely that you were able to spend a few years with him as an adult. I know how draining taking care of a sick person can be, and hope you will take some time to regain your strength.
Thank you for sharing everything about your beautiful father and family. He sounded like a great guy. Please take the time to heal and to remember the good times. What an amazing daughter. Take care.
I teared up reading your tribute. What a remarkable man he was. Your Dad reminded me of my stepfather...a miner from the "old country." Yes you will find peace and happiness in the future. Take care of yourself now.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for your sorrow. You are such a good daughter, he had your gentle love at the end. I wish you healing and loving memories.
I'm so sorry. I hope you know how wonderful you were for your Dad throughout this entire journey. Sending hugs and wishes for peace and comfort and strength.
I am very sorry for your loss. Along with your eloquent expression of how proud of him you were, and how lucky to spend these last years together, I am sure he felt the same about you.
What a beautiful tribute to such a wonderful man. And you are the beautiful legacy that he loved and raised. You will find ways to honor him and your mom every day. And you will find your way to have joy again - just like you promised him. I lost my dad 13 years ago. I still miss him and talk to him daily. Father/daughter bonds are strong. Being at his side these last 4 years have created a bond most people will never know. I know your heart is breaking right now. Please know that we all grieve with you. Prayers for peace and comfort for you during this unbearably hard time. I will also pray for strength for you. Continued strength. You are already strong. And kind and loving. The world needs more like you. I hope you have a support system...family and friends. Allow yourself to lean on them. Sending you big hugs right now.
From your wonderful hands to God's hands..........(I wish I knew your dear Dad's name).
Želim da vam izrazim najdublje saučešće u ovim teškim trenucima. Molim vas da znate da ste u mojim mislima i molitvama. Neka vam se pruži uteha i snaga da prebrodite ovaj gubitak.
This is truly the most beautiful thing that I have ever read. I'm so very sorry for your great loss, I hope all the wonderful memories guide you through out the days and make you smile . This post made me cry , this is such a horrible disease and each day I fear the loss I will have like you of the love of my life. May we all find the strength to go on and live the great life they would want us to live. Hugs to you and blessings
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