Another wonderful and courageous man is gone. My husband passed away on 17th September in our local hospice at the age of 57. I am so very heartbroken, but so relieved he is now free and this is over for him. The last couple of months were a rollercoaster. He lost the use of his legs after an emergency transfer to hospital 8 weeks ago, and things went rapidly downhill from there really. We did manage to get married though, in the hospice. It was the most beautiful and perfect day. Our 15 year old daughter and I will treasure that day forever.
Thankyou to all who gave us knowledge and insight, whether directly or indirectly. You are all such an important part of the team. I wish you all the very best of everything as you continue standing up to this horrible disease. While you’re all busy doing that, I’ll be fundraising and doing whatever I can to support the fight.
Good luck to you all. You inspire me.
Love and light
Penny 💔💜
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Penny, so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful idea to have the wedding at the hospice. I’m sure he is looking down on you and your daughter smiling with happiness.
Sorry for your loss. Lots of praise to you for wedding in Hospice, a wonderful act. Thankyou for your continued support for the rest of us fighting this horrible disease....
Dear Purple-Poppy, Thank you for sharing all of this! No more suffering for him . Prayers for you and your daughter .. I am sorry for this diseae and everyone caught in it . My heart cracks with your wedding day .What a love event… Take care ❤️❤️🕊🕊🕊🌈
Thank you, Penny, for letting us know. I'm so sorry to hear this - and he was only 57 - the age I was when first diagnosed. I'm so glad you were able to have the marriage ceremony you both wanted, and that your daughter was able to be part of it.
I am so sad for your loss. I’m happy you can take some comfort that you were able to get married. Thank you for taking the time to share in your darkest hour.
Ohh Penny, I am brushing away tears as I write this. 57 is far too young, and again my heart breaks for all the suffering. All I can say is God bless you and your Daughter, and that your Husband is now pain free. Look after yourself , You have wonderful memories to help you through this truly awful time.Kim
Dear Penny. I am so sorry for yours and your daughter's loss. Please remember all of the good times, the laughter, the beautiful wedding. I hope that time heals and you both find peace. You were a truly loving wife. Take care. Your all in my prayers. Graham
My deepest condolences.I have no words that will change what is .
I will remember you both in my prayers, and a man,who fought the good fight till the end, and no longer suffers. Taken too soon Look after each other .
My condolences, Penny. This disease takes too many people we love way too soon. Sending love to you and your daughter <3. A lot of us here have been where you are now. Please feel free to reach out any time. Peace to you both and virtual HUGS.
So very sorry for your sad loss, so young my heart breaks for you, glad you managed too get married . Sending my love to you and your daugther. Sheila xx
I am so sorry for what you, your daughter and your husband have gone through. As I am fond of saying, you are our angels. You fly us on your wings. You come to our appointments, you share in our pain, share in our darkness and the good days, provide moral support and care for us, making up for our failing minds with wit and humor.
We are both honored and burdened by your sacrifice for us. You have taught us humility and thankfulness for the smallest of things. We know the hurt is deep and nothing can change that. I do wish for you and your daughter to find your new life, full of wonderful new joys and the good memories of your time with your husband.
There will be a time when you can move on and that is what we want for you. When we are gone, we want you to have as much joy and love as you can.
May you find that path that makes you and your daughter happiest.
So sorry for your loss. I pray the Lord will bring you and your daughter some level of peace in the coming months. What a blessing to have the marriage before his passing. Hold onto that memory.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you were able to get married and had a wonderful day. Very best wishes to you and your daughter at this difficult time.
Those of us who have been blessed with the privilege of life due to successful treatment mourn with you in your loss. So sorry your guy didn’t make it.
So very sorry for your loss and hope you and your daughter can find peace knowing he is no longer in pain. The support you gave him shows the love you had for him.
My sincere sympathies to you and your daughter. The loss of a loved one is a loss we learn to live with a little at a time because it takes time. It is a hard bargain that life gives us. To love is also to feel the pain of separation.
Take time for yourselves. Be good to yourselves. Be there for each other. When needed, other family members, friends and clergy can be helpful. Sometimes just being quiet, looking at a sunset while drinking a cup of tea or a sunrise with coffee and reflecting on the good times can be healing. Those that are gone would want the best for us and for us to do the best for ourselves. There is nothing easy about it for anyone.
Penny, I often feel I take more from this forum than I could ever possibly give, nonetheless, my heart is with all the heroes within this group and my heart is breaking as I read the news of your incredible loss.
Bittersweet that you celebrated such a treasured moment while your love was in hospice. I’m grateful beyond measure for you and your daughter that you have the cherished memories of your marriage. Such a beautiful gesture that clearly depicts a deep and honored love.
I admire your tenacity and determination to still continue the fight via fundraising. I hope you find comfort in knowing that your efforts will help others.
I’m so very sorry for your profoundly heartbreaking loss. I wish for you the greatest solace and peace of heart. Deepest sympathies.
I am so sorry for your loss. We are all courageous fighters, and this site provides wonderful support to all of us. I pray for your comfort during these difficult times.
Hello Penny,Very sorry to hear of the passing of your husband at such a young age . At least he managed to marry his love before departing this world. All of us with this disease have this day of reckoning ,some earlier than others as we battle with our ON to add extra days and years
to our lives. Hope you and your daughter heal soon and carry on with your lives.
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