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My Love is gone

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Another wonderful and courageous man is gone. My husband passed away on 17th September in our local hospice at the age of 57. I am so very heartbroken, but so relieved he is now free and this is over for him. The last couple of months were a rollercoaster. He lost the use of his legs after an emergency transfer to hospital 8 weeks ago, and things went rapidly downhill from there really. We did manage to get married though, in the hospice. It was the most beautiful and perfect day. Our 15 year old daughter and I will treasure that day forever.

Thankyou to all who gave us knowledge and insight, whether directly or indirectly. You are all such an important part of the team. I wish you all the very best of everything as you continue standing up to this horrible disease. While you’re all busy doing that, I’ll be fundraising and doing whatever I can to support the fight.

Good luck to you all. You inspire me.

Love and light

Penny 💔💜

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So very sorry.

How very sorry for your loss! Sending good thoughts for comfort and strength.


Penny, so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful idea to have the wedding at the hospice. I’m sure he is looking down on you and your daughter smiling with happiness.

May God bring you peace and comfort. 🙏

With deepest sympathy,


Sorry for your loss. Lots of praise to you for wedding in Hospice, a wonderful act. Thankyou for your continued support for the rest of us fighting this horrible disease....

Dear Purple-Poppy, Thank you for sharing all of this! No more suffering for him . Prayers for you and your daughter .. I am sorry for this diseae and everyone caught in it . My heart cracks with your wedding day .What a love event… Take care ❤️❤️🕊🕊🕊🌈

Thank you, Penny, for letting us know. I'm so sorry to hear this - and he was only 57 - the age I was when first diagnosed. I'm so glad you were able to have the marriage ceremony you both wanted, and that your daughter was able to be part of it.

So sorry for your loss🙏🏻

Penny sorry for your loss...

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So sorry for your loss.😢

I am so sad for your loss. I’m happy you can take some comfort that you were able to get married. Thank you for taking the time to share in your darkest hour.


So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

Ohh Penny, I am brushing away tears as I write this. 57 is far too young, and again my heart breaks for all the suffering. All I can say is God bless you and your Daughter, and that your Husband is now pain free. Look after yourself , You have wonderful memories to help you through this truly awful time.Kim


I'm so sorry Penny! God bless you and your daughter and give you strength and comfort. So heartbreaking.

Dear Penny. I am so sorry for yours and your daughter's loss. Please remember all of the good times, the laughter, the beautiful wedding. I hope that time heals and you both find peace. You were a truly loving wife. Take care. Your all in my prayers. Graham

His passing saddens us all.

I’m so sorry for your loss, please take good care of your self and your daughter.

So sorry your husband was taken at such a young age. You look like a lovely couple.

So very sorry.

So sorry

My deepest condolences.I have no words that will change what is .

I will remember you both in my prayers, and a man,who fought the good fight till the end, and no longer suffers. Taken too soon Look after each other .

So very sorry Penny, what an awful time for you and your daughter. We feel your pain and heartache.

Your dear husband is asleep now, no more pain, no more pressure, no more fear.

We send our love you you.


My condolences, Penny. This disease takes too many people we love way too soon. Sending love to you and your daughter <3. A lot of us here have been where you are now. Please feel free to reach out any time. Peace to you both and virtual HUGS.

In solidarity,


So very sorry for your sad loss, so young my heart breaks for you, glad you managed too get married . Sending my love to you and your daugther. Sheila xx

I am so sorry for what you, your daughter and your husband have gone through. As I am fond of saying, you are our angels. You fly us on your wings. You come to our appointments, you share in our pain, share in our darkness and the good days, provide moral support and care for us, making up for our failing minds with wit and humor.

We are both honored and burdened by your sacrifice for us. You have taught us humility and thankfulness for the smallest of things. We know the hurt is deep and nothing can change that. I do wish for you and your daughter to find your new life, full of wonderful new joys and the good memories of your time with your husband.

There will be a time when you can move on and that is what we want for you. When we are gone, we want you to have as much joy and love as you can.

May you find that path that makes you and your daughter happiest.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you and your daughter love and light.

May you have the strength to bear the loss

So sorry for your loss. I pray the Lord will bring you and your daughter some level of peace in the coming months. What a blessing to have the marriage before his passing. Hold onto that memory.

Very sad. Thank you for sharing and take care of yourselves.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Feel for you it’s horrendous, where are you in England xxx

Dear Penny - my sincere condolences to you & your daughter - what a lovely post - May your husband rest in piece

My sincere condolences Penny.

Stay strong in his memory. So glad to hear of your marriage and the great Joy it brought to all of you.

Thank you for doing the fund raiser, appreciate it.


Penny, so sorry for your loss. Strength to you and your daughter during a most difficult time. 🙏

So deeply sorry for your loss.

So sorry 😢

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you were able to get married and had a wonderful day. Very best wishes to you and your daughter at this difficult time.

Sorry for your loss.

So young. My condolences to you and your daughter. I pray for peace in your heart and love for your family.

We all stand with you during this difficult. Sincere condolences. Thanks so much for letting us know. 😥

So very sorry.

So sorry for your loss. I pray God comforts you and you daughter.

I am very sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your daughter.

Those of us who have been blessed with the privilege of life due to successful treatments mouand have been blessed

Those of us who have been blessed with the privilege of life due to successful treatment mourn with you in your loss. So sorry your guy didn’t make it.

So sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories and condolences to you and your family.

Gods speed to you and yours🌻

Sorry for your loss. May his memories forever live in your hearts. Sending you lots of strength as you go through this tough time

So very sorry for your loss and hope you and your daughter can find peace knowing he is no longer in pain. The support you gave him shows the love you had for him.


So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your efforts to continue the fight. Peace to you and daughter.

So sorry for your loss, condolences to you and your daughter!


My sincere sympathies to you and your daughter. The loss of a loved one is a loss we learn to live with a little at a time because it takes time. It is a hard bargain that life gives us. To love is also to feel the pain of separation.

Take time for yourselves. Be good to yourselves. Be there for each other. When needed, other family members, friends and clergy can be helpful. Sometimes just being quiet, looking at a sunset while drinking a cup of tea or a sunrise with coffee and reflecting on the good times can be healing. Those that are gone would want the best for us and for us to do the best for ourselves. There is nothing easy about it for anyone.


Penny, I often feel I take more from this forum than I could ever possibly give, nonetheless, my heart is with all the heroes within this group and my heart is breaking as I read the news of your incredible loss.

Bittersweet that you celebrated such a treasured moment while your love was in hospice. I’m grateful beyond measure for you and your daughter that you have the cherished memories of your marriage. Such a beautiful gesture that clearly depicts a deep and honored love.

I admire your tenacity and determination to still continue the fight via fundraising. I hope you find comfort in knowing that your efforts will help others.

I’m so very sorry for your profoundly heartbreaking loss. I wish for you the greatest solace and peace of heart. Deepest sympathies.



So sorry for Your loss.God Bless

I'm so very sorry for you and your daughter's loss!

May your husband rest in peace, and may the good Lord grant you comfort and peace!

I am so sorry for your loss. We are all courageous fighters, and this site provides wonderful support to all of us. I pray for your comfort during these difficult times.

Hello Penny,Very sorry to hear of the passing of your husband at such a young age . At least he managed to marry his love before departing this world. All of us with this disease have this day of reckoning ,some earlier than others as we battle with our ON to add extra days and years

to our lives. Hope you and your daughter heal soon and carry on with your lives.

my sympathy.

I am so sorry.

Sorry for your loss, Penny.


I am sad for your loss. Take care.

So very sorry for your loss!!

Thank you for the gifts of love and support you brought to him. 🕊💞

We’re so sorry for your loss. We will pray for you and your daughter.

Deepest condolences. I hope you and your daughter now get some peace. Look after yourself and cherish the happy memories.

God Bless you. I'm sorry.

Congratulations on your marriage for a few precious days. So very sorry for your loss.

So sorry🙏

So young. So sad. So sorry. But- glad you were able to get married.

RIP, Hubby. Condolences to Poppy.

I am terribly sorry for your loss😢

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Sorry, may he rip

So sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry. Such a young man! Lucky to have you!

So very sorry for your loss. Sounds like he put up a good fight 🙏

I also am so sorry. Best going forward.

So very sorry.

Thanks for the update. So sorry.

Very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and your daughter.

I am so sorry for your loss. He was too young...and it seems it was very quick. All the best to you. Sending healing light and love.

Sorry for your Loss way to young.

I'm sorry for your loss. It's so hard to accept

Very sorry🙏❤️

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