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I'd like to thank all on this page who have taken the time to answer questions, offer support or share their own important stories. My loving husband was released from his suffering this past Tuesday, April 23. He fought to the bitter end and suffered greatly from terminal restlessness until the hospice team changed his med rotation to morphine every 2 hrs. combined with alternating atavan or halperadol...all liquid. Right now there are mundane things to occupy my mind and hands and I'm immersing myself in music that has always helped me deal with things I usually suppress. The hospice team was wonderful and helped more than I could even have imagined. My children and grandchildren are there to help with anything/everything I need now. Though utterly and profoundly sad, I feel incredibly blessed to be surrounded by them all. My BFF whom I've known since 1st grade (70 yrs. ago) is coming in from Kansas for the services. I wish all of you comfort, healing, and the strength to fight on in whatever form works best for you. Godspeed.

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lcfcpolo

So sorry to read of your loss. You mention your loving husband but you are also a very loving wife, who supported her husband to thru everything. I'm pleased that you had each other. Please take the time to heal and remember all of the good times. Condolences from England.Graham

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Maxone73

thank you, God bless you for having been with him till the end.

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Scout4answers

Peace and Love to you Shamrock

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Mtnhigh

I'm very sorry for your loss. Hopefully the music will bring some peace. Bless your wonderful family who supports you. And a special blessing for your bff. It is so hard to watch our loved ones at the end and feel helpless in easing their suffering. I'm so glad your hospice figured out how to ease your husband pain and restlessness. Thank you for letting us know. -Deb

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Nusch

It’s always hard for me to find words - transferring the feelings of sorrow into the right words. Music helps me in such moments, too. You are surrounded by your family and you know, that your husband got the best care possible. This doesn’t make the sadness go away but you know that all has been done. My sincere condolences, one day we are all re-united.

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PSAed

I am sorry for your loss, may you husband RIP. Take care of yourself.

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erjlg3

Sending you a huge (((HUG))) with sincere compassion and sympathy Mrs. Shamrock46😓🌻

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DarrylPartner

condolences

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DesertDaisy

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hoping for strength and peacefulness for you and your loved ones.

Kay

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Tall_Allen

I'm sorry to hear of his passing. While nothing compensates for the loss of the love of your life, it's wonderful that you have the support of your children, grandchildren, and BFF.

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NickJoy

I am so sorry. I hope that the warmth of your family and friends brings you as much comfort as possible.

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hopeful1956

Heartfelt condolences. May your husband rest in peace. :(

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APK3

🙏 for your emotional healing Shamrock.

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SLOJIM in reply to APK3

Very sorry for your lost and deepest condolences

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zeitgeistxx

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your brave husband. You have been so good and strong, staying by his side and helping him to the end. May your memories of him and your loving family and BFF help you heal and find peace.

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Dastardly in reply to zeitgeistxx

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. This is a tight community, and your loss affects us all.

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EvFC

I am so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻❤️

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treedown

I am very sorry for your loss.

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rosenjpj

god bless and may you find comfort in his love and memories.

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andy_diggs

🙏🏻 Sorry for your loss

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Warriorthree

So sad when we lose anyone on this forum because we all fight this battle together, my heart goes out to you his wife and all the family ❤️Xxx

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FjSENC

So very very sorry for your loss 💔. Praying for comfort and peace for you and your family

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Sunlight12

My deepest condolences on your loss, MrsShamrock46. Sometimes I think the aftermath is as difficult as the days that lead to it, because everything is so different. Please be gentle with yourself as you navigate these new times.

Being there for your husband, fighting beside him to the end, is incredible gift to give someone. It means so much!

If you are able, please consider staying in the group - there are good things that can be done here: welcoming new members, sharing experiences and providing comfort to those who will unfortunately go through what you are now. In the meantime, I wish peace to you and your family! HUGS

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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RoseDoc

So sorry to see this. It is good that you were able to be together til the end. God Bless.

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Peeffervescence

I wish you peace and healing

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Izzygirl1

I wish I was there to ((HUG)) you. I know how hard it is. Sending you love !

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Proflac

Very sorry to hear about your loss. It was kind of you to post at this difficult time. I hope the love of your family can ease the pain.

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BobbyMac07

God bless

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Sisira

I'm deeply sorry about the loss of your husband.Hope you'll be able to overcome the grief soon with the help of your loved ones.

May he rest in peace 🙏.

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Bigdo58

I actually hate prostate cancer now. I think we and all our brothers who are RIPing, need to rise up and attack our Governments who do not fund cutting edge treatments. Australia, I need proton therapy to have a shot at staying alive more than about 2 to 3 years more, yet, today, I am as well as, still work, heading for 13 years in, got our first version of Proton (Bragg South Australia) coming on stream in 2025, naturally it is funded for about its first 5 years, only for kids and head and neck cancer. Old guys with prostate cancer, it ain't breast cancer, doesn't have a pink cricket test to bless it with dedicated nurses and cash, well, you are haddit and just whistleing dixie heading South. Pluvicto, Lu 177, ha, 60k. If you can get it.

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Juju1979

I pray you find peace after this difficult trial. Your husband is released from his suffering and I'm certain he would want you to find happiness in this world. When you look at your children and grandchildren, I hope you can see him and recall the wonderful memories you created together. This is the desire of all the men for their spouses and families suffering from this dreadful disease.

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Istomin

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Jp2sea

May be rest in peace and may you find much joy in life.

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Yank66

Our sympathies on the loss of your husband. Treasure the memories. Blessings to you and your family.

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turkeyjoe1

Condolences to you and your family

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Nubeqa22

Glad you are surrounded by loving supporters.

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Cateydid

bless you….and your loving family and friends who are holding you up during this sorrowful time. Many of us will follow in your footsteps sooner rather than later, so thank you for your post. It filled me with hope for the same kind of support you’re receiving…

Best wishes on the next leg of your journey.

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Docker53

So very sorry to hear. Im sure your husband surrounded by family comforting and a blessing. God Bless.

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skiingfiend

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your loved ones. God bless.

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Amadeus71

🙏❤💪

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NOCanceros

R.I.P

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Peealot

I’m so sorry for your loss.

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Cyclingrealtor

May the great memories you shared over the years soon fill the void of his absence. 🙏🏻 for healing 🩵

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dadsdrdawn

Many of us have experienced similar loss. I wish you love and sweet memories, and that you are surrounded by those you love.

Blessings to you and yours.

Enjoy music that helps release your emotions and feel happiness!

Dawn

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Pmann

So saddened by your loss, peace be with you.

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Jollyjill

Sincere condolences.

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Korvgubbe

So sorry for your loss 🙏

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Cancer2x

May all of the memories of being together that make you smile strengthen and hold you through this transition.

Pax

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ocman

Sorry for your loss...

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Wahoo_

prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family

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Boywonder56

in time smiles in place of tears....as we irish / americans say.....dont cry for me im just around the corner...see you soon...☘️

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fourputt

It seems like we all lose a bit when one of "us" dies. I'm really sorry for your loss but have faith and you'll find the strength and peace you need to carry on.

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Teacherdude72

So sorry for your loss.

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JazzMan42

RIP.

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Kaliber

my heartfelt condolences . Thankfully you have your extensive loving family to help share your burden of grief and move forward together with the kind of love that only strong family brings.

🌹🌼🌺

I’m terribly sorry for your loss and especially that he suffered so. Mine too became agitated but the liquid Ativan and Haldol kept him calm until his end. Do take advantage of the grief counseling provided by hospice, it has definitely helped me with coping strategies

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Yearofthecow

so sorry for your loss.

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Tommyj2

so sorry for your loss….glad he has been released from his discomfort.

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jackcop

Sorry for your loss and thankful that you have your family and friends for support. God bless.

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Metaldraft

I and all wish you safe journey and healing be careful and kind to yourself throughout this period

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Sagewiz

Wishing you peace in knowing that you did all you could have.

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HotRod4321

All our prayers! All our best! All our love! Godspeed to you and yours!

Sam2346 profile image
Sam2346

RIP

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

In honor of you dear Husband, may he Rest in Peace.

...............................................................................................................

There’s a dear little plant that grows on our Isle,

‘Twas Saint Patrick himself, sure, that set it;

And the sun on his labor with pleasure did smile,

And with dew from his eye often wet it.

It shines thro’ the bog, thro’ the break, and the mire-land,

And he call’d it the dear little Shamrock of Ireland,

The dear little Shamrock, the sweet little Shamrock,

the dear little, sweet little Shamrock of Ireland.

.....................................................................................................................................

That dear little plant still grows in our land,

Fresh and fair as the daughters of Erin;

Whose smiles can bewitch and whose eyes can command,

In each climate they ever appear in.

For they shine thro’ the bog, thro’ the brake, and the mire-land,

Just like their own dear little Shamrock of Ireland,

The dear little Shamrock, the sweet little Shamrock,

the dear little, sweet little Shamrock of Ireland.

...........................................................................................................................

That dear little plant that springs from our soil,

When its three little leaves are extended,

Denotes form the stalk we together should toil,

And ourselves by ourselves be befriended,

And still thro’ the bog, thro’ the brakes, and the mire-land,

From one root should branch, like the Shamrock of Ireland,

The dear little Shamrock, the sweet little Shamrock,

the dear little, sweet little Shamrock of Ireland.

...............................................................................................................................

May you and your family forever hold his memory deep in your hearts.

(Please stay with us..we need you)

j-o-h-n

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Shamrock46 in reply to j-o-h-n

Love the poem! Made my Irish eyes glisten with a tear or two. Thank you!

cancerfox profile image
cancerfox

All of us in this community grieve to some degree at this news because of our common bond. I hope you continue to be blessed with supportive friends and family in this difficult time.

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garyjp9

My deepest sympathies to you and your family on your loss. May he rest in peace.

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Realistic

So terribly sad for your sad loss, please look after yourself . Love SheilaF xx

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icanwintwice

WE all feel that pain! Prayers for you and yours

rhenrick profile image
rhenrick

Your husband is at peace. God bless you for your loving care.

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Omairtde

May you find peace and consolation in your memories, family and friends.

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