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He is at peace

Wyldhare22 profile image
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Sadly, after a 9+ year fight, my husband passed on Saturday, March 18. He was the most amazing guy and part of my heart is gone now. He never gave up, always swore he would be the one to beat this beast. He was smiling and cracking jokes till the end. And even managed to make me laugh when he could not longer speak.

Thank you to all the kind people in this forum who answered my questions and addressed my fears. May the person reading this, beat this beast.

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NickJoy profile image

I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man.

Omc64 profile image

So sorry to hear this news💔💔

Tall_Allen profile image

I'm so sorry to hear that. He was lucky to have you by his side, supporting him all the way. I sometimes worry that the impression we get of their suffering at the end sticks with us. But I love it when I hear that his sense of humor stayed with him to the end.

Lyubov profile image

Very sorry for your loss. Sending warm thoughts for strength & comfort recalling the good times & his unending talent for cracking jokes. Bless you.

dockam profile image

Oh d*mn, not another Brother taken :-(

Rest in Peace and suffer no more

Big Hug from CA


Nusch profile image

I’m very sorry for your loss - his bio in your profile tells a tough story, still he made you smile. Maybe you can carry this picture in your heart.

witantric profile image

I am so sorry to hear this. God bless and RIP. Hopefully, in a few years we will get to a stage that no one suffers from this terrible disease. It is heartbreaking to see these warriors succumb. Please also take care of yourself 🙏🙏

TylexGP profile image

A heroic battle; sending hugs and prayers to you and your family❤️!

lcfcpolo profile image

My condolences and prayers for your family and yourself. Thank you for supporting your husband. Please remember the good times, the laughter.

Scout4answers profile image

Peace and Love

I'm sorry you lost a loved one.

Yadifan profile image

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I read your bio. What a rough road you've been on. God bless you and keep you strong and comfort you. Rest in peace dear husband of yours.

Zengal79 profile image

My deepest condolences to you. He was fortunate to have you in his corner. Praying you find peace in the next phase of your journey. “Even managed to make me laugh he could no longer speak.” ❤️❤️ What a beautiful soul he must have been.

GSDF profile image

What a heartbreak... So very sorry for your loss ... Sending prayers of comfort ... 🙏🌹

witantric profile image

I am sorry to hear this news. RIP. Somehow these sad news items get me really down. :-( Reminds of your own mortality.

KocoPr profile image

Im so sorry to hear of your husband’s rough journey. Also thank you for documenting his progress so accurately as it helps us all to understand and fight this. I only hope to have your husband’s humor till the end. RIP brother.

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Avanat profile image

I am so sorry for your loss. I’m sure it was hard to post this as it happened so recently. I’m not sure I’d be able to post at all when the time comes for my husband. I hope you find comfort in your memories. I wish you strength and peace. Remember to be kind to yourself. Take care.


treedown profile image

Very sorry for your loss.

Flash64 profile image

So sorry for your loss.

Sisira profile image

So sad to hear about the loss of your beloved husband. At least it had been a painless and peaceful exit. My condolences .

Kaliber profile image

my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your husband. Clearly you are a loving and caring caregiver that stood by him in his time of greatest need. Men like us need that loving caregiver by our side to hold us and kiss us goodbye. Grieve for us after we have passed. You were” all that “ for your dear husband, he was a lucky guy to have you there by his side.


MMK-XFuture profile image

Very sorry for your loss. Take comfort in knowing he's now pain free and at peace. He was lucky to have you by his side through the 9 years of battling this horrible decease. Take care.

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timotur profile image

He fought a great fight, may he rest in peace, and God bless you both.

Schwah profile image

I for one am so proud of how he handled it till the end. Don’t you get get it? Think About it. He did what he said he would. He “beat the beast” by not giving into the fear. He laughed at the beast and made you laugh until the end. To me….that’s beating the beast and how I pray I can go out. God bless him!


rosenjpj profile image

may his memory be.a blessing.

Ktm990jan profile image

so sorry for your loss ❤️

HikerWife profile image

You've been through such a tough battle, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm pretty new here myself (wife of warrior Dx'd last fall) - your strength and your husband's humor are an inspiration. Sending wishes for peace and rest and healing.

Pmann profile image

So saddened by your loss, but he is at peace and no pain and that is good.

Jp2sea profile image

Humor is a spice of life and sadly not everyone is blessed with having it. It sounds like you and your husband enjoyed many laughs. May those memories give you strength and joy in your future and may you find humor in new ways. Godspeed to you and your husband.

Azores2 profile image

So very sorry. He was fortunate to have you.

joeydashoe profile image

So Sorry 🙏🙏

WoodChuckHill profile image

I am so very sorry for your loss and hope the memories of your time together never fade. He was very lucky to have you by his side - I am positive of that. Please know this; you and all people that accompany us on our path forward, are deeply loved. Take care of yourself.

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Boywonder56 profile image

The way i hope to go...with style...the sign of a true warrior...may your sorrow be brief...the good memories everlasting...know hes just around the corner....deepest sympathies....bw

hopeful1956 profile image

Sending you gentle hugs and heartfelt condolences. :(

longleaf profile image

I am sorry for your loss. I am praying for peace and comfort for you.

SimplyT profile image

I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless and comfort you and your family during this time.

PeteLG profile image

Condolences from another loving couple in SC.Without my dedicated spouse of near 50 years, faith and sense of humor my QOL would be in a noose.

Thank you for sharing your fella with us other fellas.

God's blessings,

Wdoug profile image

You are blessed with wonderful memories to comfort you in this difficult time. Have Peace!

larry_dammit profile image

RIP warrior. No more battles to fight 🙏🙏🙏

Drandma profile image

God bless you! So thankful he didn’t suffer at the end

Realistic profile image

God bless your darling husband and love to you so sorry for your sad loss. SheilaFxx

Blueribbon63 profile image

My deepest condolences to you. 🙏🏻

wagscure259 profile image

So very sorry for your profound loss of your beloved. Praying for your comfort and the peace that passes all understanding. By making you laugh when speech was no longer an option he was still thinking of you more than himself to the end. What a beautiful soul

stillheretoday profile image

I'm so sorry. Prayers.

GMAN52 profile image

So sorry for your loss.

JoeyDad profile image

I’m very sorry for your loss; it sounds like he “fought the good fight.” May his memory be for a blessing.

Wahoo_ profile image

prayers for peace and comfort

Andy1569 profile image

So sorry for your loss. Sending Bright Comforting Energy for your healing.


SeosamhM profile image

He made you laugh when he couldn't talk?? Sounds like my kind of guy! Even if I don't beat this, I've gotten so much from this forum - so much from the stories and anecdotes of my brothers like your husband - that I am more brave, more thoughtful, more thankful, and (yes) even more joyful. That your husband was able to smile and crack jokes is a wonder and inspiration to me. May you find peace.

OldGuysRule profile image

may God bless and keep you

Rolphs profile image

Sorry for your loss. He's lucky to have had you by his side at the end of his journey.

TreeDLeader profile image

So sorry about this. When one of this group passes, we all lose a piece of ourselves.May God be with you.

Currumpaw profile image


My sincere sympathies to you,.

Even when expected the death of a loved one can still be shocking. We think we are prepared, yet, how can one ever prepare for such a significant loss? We learn to live with it. A course I was required to take was titled, "The Psychology of Grief". A number discussed in that course was 100,000. That is the number of times the average person's memory flashes back to a deceased loved one before the pain starts to ease. There is a pain that I can only describe from my experience, as palpable, a physically felt pain that affects vital signs--still to this day after nearly 60 years.

Family, friends and clergy can be helpful--but sometimes--NOT! At times our own counsel, thinking of the past, can help us to be grateful for the time we had with our loved ones. Watching the sun rise or set while reflecting on joyous times together that will forever be tinged with a bit of sorrow can be a step in learning to live with a significant loss.

Although for me, the pain of a loss in my early life is still raw at times, as if it was yesterday, not 60 years ago, I would not trade sharing those short years with my grandfather, my hero, to avoid the pain.

Dear Wyldhare22, find as much peace as you can and when it hurts try to remember the best of times with gratitude to counter the pain. HE would want that for you.

My sincere sympathies,


Wyldhare22 profile image
Wyldhare22 in reply to Currumpaw

Thank you for sharing your insight. It resonates with me and gives me something tangible to hold on to.

msnik profile image
msnik in reply to Wyldhare22

hello Wyldhare22, following up on this re: grief, and it might not be for you, but a dear friend of mine who lost her husband joined a "bereavement group" and says it has helped her a lot. all the best to you. you and your husband are in my thoughts. virtual hugs.

Hailwood profile image

So sorry for your loss. What a wonderful support you were to him.

tallguy2 profile image

With sympathy on the loss of your dear husband.

Rocketman1960 profile image

His Peace to you. May you feel joy in the memories of your beloved husband.

16starsky profile image

So very sorry to hear of the passing of your beloved Husband. Sending prayers and love to you and your family. May he be forever in your heart and mind.

Carlosbach profile image

Condolences, Blessings and Thanks for being a loving care giver and partner

Metaldraft profile image

in a loving sense he was so glad to have YOU as a guided lifting supporter that everyone should have but due to circumstances can’t

Thank you for holding his heart f compassion

16S4 profile image

My condolences

Two-oceans profile image

So sorry for your loss 🙏

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Tinuriel profile image

May comfort find you in unexpected ways. So sad with you.

cancerfox profile image

I hate to see this.......sounds like a great guy. Wishing you peace in your soul, resolve to face the days ahead, and loving memories to forever hold in your heart.

ron_bucher profile image

Thank you for sharing. Wishing you the best memories, and good fortune in your future chapters.

ChuckBandChar profile image

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your memories of him bring you peace. He sounds like a wonderful man and husband.

j-o-h-n profile image

Dear Ms. Wyldhare22,

Your darling is my kind of guy, I'll see him in the Comedy Store in the Sky...

j-o-h-n Tuesday 03/21/2023 5:04 PM DST

fourputt profile image

I am so sorry. Every time one of us moves on it breaks my heart. He's still laughing and cracking jokes....just in a much better place. God bless you.

Bspouse profile image

SO sorry for your loss. He sounds like a strong man who has left you with many wonderful memories. God bless you.

Sanctus profile image

I an truly sorry for your loss. He must be a happy fella to have such an empathetic mate as you. May he rest in perfect peace!

garyjp9 profile image

My deepest sympathies for your loss and the loss of another one of our brothers.

Jeremiad53 profile image

He sounds like a guy everyone would be blessed to know. WHAT A FIGHTER and capable of generating such love in you. A real man has passed and he will be missed.

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