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Peace at last

Ali1980
Ali1980

Hi everyone. I just wanted to say how thankful I am for this group. I don’t post much but I have found so many ideas and answers through reading everyone else’s. I am sad to say that my dad lost his battle on March 26. His cancer had mutated to small cell. We were hoping to give chemo another shot but he was just too weak. We had hospice for a little over 2 weeks and it was truly the best care we could have asked for. The pain of losing him has been absolutely devastating. I am praying for all of you fighting this horrible cancer❤️

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So so sorry for your loss! May God keep you and look after you. Your Dad, is out of pain and misery, and in a much better place. In a way not having to try that last Chemo, and going Hospice, was probably a blessing.

Glad you could tell us, as some like myself, can offer some Prayer.

Shalom Ha Gadol.

Nalakrats

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Nalakrats

Absolutely it was a blessing. Thank you for your prayers, I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts😊

Darryl
DarrylAdministrator

Condolences

I'm sorry for your loss - I wish I can say that the pain will go away.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Tall_Allen

Thank you. Grief is coming in waves. Thank you for all of your wisdom, research, and posts!

Nurlar icinde yatsin🙏

j-o-h-n
j-o-h-n in reply to Kamilekamile

Turkish to English Translation: "Rest in the light"

j-o-h-n Tuesday 06/16/2020 5:15 PM DST

Kamilekamile
Kamilekamile in reply to j-o-h-n

Thank you j-o-h-n

j-o-h-n
j-o-h-n in reply to Kamilekamile

Thank you Google translate.... Hamal j-o-h-n (not Pasha)....

j-o-h-n Wednesday 06/17/2020 1:18 PM DST

Very sorry for your loss. Your Dad is now pain-free and in peace. I pray you too can find some peace and comfort in the near future. Cherish the memories.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Curehunter

Thank you so much😊

Thank you for sharing your loss. I am sure you are undergoing a lot of sadness but know we are in support of you during this hard time

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to 8knots

Thank you! I’ve found great comfort knowing that this journey is not a lonely one...unfortunately of course.

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for mentioning the positive experience you had with opting for Hospice when the time seemed right.

Charles

P.S. For others here who anticipate making such decisions in the future, this documentary film, "Passing On", from Arizona Public Media could be a good conversation starter.

passing-on.org/

Another is the Frontline Documentary of Dr. Atul Gawande's book, "Being Mortal - Medicine and What Matters in the End".

youtube.com/watch?v=lQhI3Jb...

Similarly, this guide listed in their Resources section might be helpful, too. "Your Life, Your Choices".

elderguru.com/downloads/you...

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to ctarleton

Charles, I just finished watching this. It was wonderful, thank you for sharing!

Thanks for sharing, something we all need to think about. God bless you all.

My heart goes out to you Ali1980....Thank you for sharing with us your fathers journey. True love never stops. Enjoy Life and live healthy In your fathers honor. He will be looking over you . 🙏

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Whimpy-p

Thank you!

Whimpy-p
Whimpy-p in reply to Ali1980

My daughter was born in 1980 also . Bless you🙏

You did so much for your dad in such a short amount of time. Witnessing so much pain must have been so difficult for you. Know that he left this earth with your love surrounding him. Like him, you can now be at peace.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to spouse21

Thank you for your kind words😊

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain of missing your loved one in that way. I will pray for you as you mourn your father. I’m glad you made the decision to get him into hospice so that his last weeks were comfortable. God bless you!

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Scoofer33

Thank you and God bless!

😢😢😢. RIP Warrior, so sorry for your loss 🙏🙏

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to larry_dammit

Thank you!

God to you.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to ck722

Thank you!

My condolences. Wishing you peace.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to snoraste

Thank you so much!

I am so sorry. Sending prayers for strength and peace.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Tmetz

Thank you so much!

Sending deep condolences for your loss.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Lyubov

Thank you!

You both were awesome warriors.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to dadzone43

Thank you!

Blessings to him and you. He is free from this beast, and this plane. I am giving thanks for your healing, and wonderful memories of your Pop.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to zenbee13

Thank you, I have a lot of great memories to hold on to😊

Hi Ali - my heart goes out to you and your family. I am happy that your father is finally at peace.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to MeliaQuinn

Thank you very much!

Treasure those memories they will last forever!!!

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to SPEEDYX

Absolutely! Thank you!

So so sorry for your loss. It is never easy. Hopefully you all got to spend some quality time with it, at least you had some warning. We all have to go someday, life is fragile!

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to barrybayarea

We did, and we have a lot of great memories. Thank you for your words!

So sorry for your loss! I wanted to let you know within health unlocked are many forums and there is one on grief as well. I've been following because as a wife of a PC guy there are many losses to grieve along the way. We are in hospice now trying to make sure he is comfortable and trying to savor every last day we get. Peace and prayers for you and your family

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Dalipup

Thank you so much. I am praying for peace for your family during this transition for your hubby. I will look into those forums and share them with my mom..thank you so much😊

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Sisira

Thank you very much!

I'm so sorry. Sometimes cancer is too much for us. Your dad was lucky to have you in his life.

Thank you so much!

Hey Ali1980,

I am sorry to read your post. The loss of a loved one is always devastating even when expected. The passage of a patriarch or matriarch signifies the end of an era in a family but also the passing of the torch and a new chapter. As painful as it is, and a loss like yours is almost palpable, hurts physically don't neglect yourself. I know you will. We all do for at least a time. Then somehow we find the strength to begin again. Eventually the precious memories will balance the grief. It takes time and for some of us there will be times, far in the future, when it will hurt again almost as if "then is now" but hopefully only briefly. Memories are strong. Take comfort in the good ones.

I'm glad that you used the word "we" only for the reason that it is a comfort to have others where all can be supportive of each other.

Currumpaw

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Currumpaw

Aww thank you so much for your beautiful words. God bless you😊

My condolences, Ali. Peace to you and your family. May the angels surround you <3

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Sunlight12

Thank you so much😊

So sorry to hear, you have my condolences and more. I read through your past posts and was shocked how similar your dad's case is to mine. We were both dxed in October 2018, and developed small cell about a year later (Though my doctors think there was probably some there from the very beginning).

I also had hydronephrosis in January, and had a urinary stent inserted a few weeks later. Through luck or the grace of God, I was strong enough for chemo and appear to have responded well, for now.

Thank you for sharing his story, and may you have many good memories of your time with him.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to tom67inMA

Thank you! Wow that’s crazy the similarities. I am so glad you are doing well Tom! God bless you😊

My condolence to you and his family

May He Be At Peace

My journey has just begun

But Health unlocked has been amazing

And It has lifted me from

Depression to hope

Absolutely! This group is awesome! God be with you on this journey..you are most definitely not alone😊

As I have said before to family members and caretakers. You are one of our angels. We are all so thankful to all of you for your moral support, going to appointments, visiting, calling us and providing that love that we all need.

I am sorry that your dad is gone. It sounds like it was as painless a transition as possible and that he died with you and others close by.

Take care of yourself and live life to its fullest!

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to dmt1121

Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so thankful that I was able to care for my dad. We held his funeral on my 40th birthday and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Very sorry for your loss. Your Dad is now pain-free and in peace. Time will heal your pain.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to lincolnj8

Thank you!

Really sorry for your loss...

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to ocman

Thank you!

Lucky to have you...we all need help...and yes this apc is a monster...sending you and yours the most positive of vibes....dont be a stranger...ck on us from time to time...b.w.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Boywonder56

I sure will! Thank you😊

I'm so sorry. We lost my dad in January to this horrible disease, and the grief is devastating. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. You'll see him again one day. ❤️

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Susanna1013

Thank you! I can’t wait to see him again😘

I am so sorry for your loss. God bless. No more suffering.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to BobJensen

Thank you!

So sorry your dad left at such a young age. I am sure you will find your way. Best of wishes for your future.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to monte1111

Thank you so much!

Prayers and Condolences to all.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to gourd_dancer

Thank you!

I am very sorry to hear that. Totally agree about the value of this group. Deepest condolences for your loss.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Vitaminlover

Thank you!

I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m on this forum on behalf of my dad too and you’ve gotta be very strong and what you’ve done so far is remarkable. I wish you peace.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to Cheerr

Thank you so much, God bless!

Family nurturing demonstrates beauty in our lives. Thanks for being a caregiver, and for sharing your story here. May your Dad rest in peace, and may you find comfort in your life moving forward.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to LF27

Thank you so much!

The passing of a fellow traveler is always sad news. I send you and your family my heartfelt condolences and hope that the memories you have provide you with some comfort.

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to MotoGuzziFan

Thank you very much!

I was saddened to hear of your loss and will keep you in my prayers. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing he's looking down on his little girl.

I find much comfort in that..thank you so much😊

Just saw this :-(

My sincerest condolences to you and the family on the loss of another Brother

Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more

Hugs

Randy

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to dockam

Thank you so much😊

Your Dad is gone from this life to one where he is in peace...Every time one of our brother's passes I think about his life and why couldn't I have met him and asked him tons of questions. To get to know the man and to laugh and cry with him...Share our similarities and argue our differences. Well I know you knew him well and that you took good care of him. There's a special place in heaven for caregivers... God Bless you, your Mom and relatives and friends,,

j-o-h-n Tuesday 06/16/2020 5:31 PM DST

Ali1980
Ali1980 in reply to j-o-h-n

Thank you for that! You know, he never knew I was part of this group and he probably would have balked at me making an ordeal over him. Prayers to all of you fellow warriors😘

j-o-h-n
j-o-h-n in reply to Ali1980

My kind of guy........

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Tuesday 06/16/2020 6:43 PM DST

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