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My dad passed away

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Hello folks,

It's been a week and a half now since my father passed away, peacefully at home on Easter Sunday morning.

Sorry, but to save myself some time, I am just copying and pasting what i shared on Facebook that evening, Sunday, April 17:

My dad passed away peacefully at home today. He was 98 and had been under hospice care since April 8. I feel blessed to have been able to serve him these last several months as he struggled with health issues. He never complained and told me that he had lived a good long life. God bless my dad. He was a constant in my life that I did not fully appreciate until these last several months.

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Then I posted on April 21:

I want to thank all who have shown me love and concern for me after my dad's passing. I am grateful to my dad who had me as his son, and provided for his family all these years. He passed peacefully in his own home on Easter morning. Though this was sad, it released me to get on with my own life. As a Christian, this held meaningful symbolism to me of rebirth and Easter.

I was able to meet with my friends that I normally meet with on Sunday afternoon. And then I was able to go visit my good friend, Alice and once again see her wonderful garden. We even shared a simple meal that we prepared together (I got to harvest some greens from her garden and cook that).

I recently joined the Recovery Cafe, and as a result was able to attend a Sharks game on Tuesday night (box suite!). It was Indian Heritage Night. I had the pleasure of getting to shake Robin Bawa's hand. He was the first player of South Asian descent to play in the NHL, and played for the San Jose Sharks.

Then yesterday, some friends from my Saturday morning Bible study came to visit me. The entire group had contributed towards getting me some flowers. Gorgeous orchids. In the evening, another friend from church brought me dinner and we spent 3 hours talking over dinner.

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I shared a little bit more, but those details were meant for a specific group of friends that I have. In any case, I am feeling fine. I think that I did right by my dad, and was a good caregiver for him. He didn't complain at all during this time, and told me that he had lived a good long life. But I guess I already said that.

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May your father Rest In Peace. I know he appreciated the time you spent with him during his last days on earth.

With deepest condolences,

James

Thank you, James.

It is sad when a parent passes, but less so when they pass at the end of a long life. I'm glad to see you have a great community of friends and supporters. Knowing that our children will thrive is the greatest gift for a father.

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Green_Guy in reply to Javelin18

Thank you. I have a son, and know that what you say is true.

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DarrylPartner

Condolences

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Green_Guy in reply to Darryl

Thanks, Darryl.

You seem to be at peace, as your father is. I'm so happy for you that you were able to have your father for so many years, but I'm sure you feel the loss deeply. How wonderful that you have so much support from friends at this sad time.

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Green_Guy in reply to Tall_Allen

Indeed. Thank you, Allen.

God bless you until you are reunited in the next life.

Thank you, Matthew.

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your dear father. He was blessed to have you by his side. May you find comfort and strength in your faith and in your friends. God bless you.

Thank you, Beachcomber.

How wonderful for your Dad to have his son support him until he left this life. It is never easy to lose a parent. I’m happy to hear you have such a strong faith and such good friends to be by your side. God bless you

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Green_Guy in reply to Faith1111

Thank you, Faith.

Heartfelt condolences. May your father rest in peace.

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Green_Guy in reply to Sisira

Thank you, Sisira.

Rest in Peace my Brother.

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Green_Guy in reply to ucladany

Thank you, ucladany.

All ways sad to lose a loved one. He was able to get a full long life, and pass at home. So a very good journey.

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Green_Guy in reply to TJGuy

Thank you, TJGuy.

Heartfelt condolences. Amazing that his passing was on Easter Day. 🙏

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Green_Guy in reply to spw1

Thank you, spw1.

May he rest in peace. God bless you.

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Green_Guy in reply to caretkr

thank you, caretkr.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family! May he Rest In Peace !

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Green_Guy in reply to Fight11

thank you, Fight11.

Sending condolences and prayers

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Green_Guy in reply to lincolnj8

thank you, lincolnj8.

A man is so blessed to have a son or daughter that can hold his hand as he takes the last few steps on earth. 🙏🙏

Sorry for your loss - may your Dad RIP

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Green_Guy in reply to BobbyMac07

thanks BobbyMac07

God bless you, Green_Guy. I’m sure God welcomed your dad home with open arms, and that in you He is well pleased.I appreciate hearing how you served, then grieved your dad and can move on in peace.

Best wishes!

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Green_Guy in reply to Cateydid

Thank you, Cateydid.

RIP

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Heaven has a new Angel….

Thank you, GraceKelly

My deepest condolences.

So sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻

I’m so supportive to love ones who at their transition need support love and the most best part I will be there next to you through my reciprocal and unconditionally care spent with family at there most vulnerable time and said in action in many ways I CARE FOR YOU!!my warmest deepest condolences …..

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Green_Guy in reply to Metaldraft

Thank you, Metadraft.

It’s always so hard to say goodbye, but it sounds like your dad was at peace and grateful for his long life and your support. Blessings to you for peace and comfort.

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Green_Guy in reply to Yank66

Thank you, Yank66.

Sympathy for your loss. As a Christian you have the gifts of hope and peace that so many in this world refuse. God bless!

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Green_Guy in reply to Bvilkid

Thank you, Bvilkid.

May he rest in peace and God bless you for your tender caring

Thank you, Rickmartin.

My condolences.

Thank you.

You did good, real good for your father. I can't imagine what your support meant to him.

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Green_Guy in reply to Hailwood

Thank you, Hailwood.

Sorry for your loss and grateful you had an opportunity to care for dad. Sounds like a peaceful end of journey. I am grateful you are surrounded by such love and support. “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly,..” Pr. 18:24. Take care of your own health. 💚🙏🏽💚

thank you, betterlivingbeing.

Bravo to your father and to you . The greatest tribute to a man is his children. He is good , so are you . Christ Is King! My dad passed 24yrs ago a yr after an RP at just 71. I Think they are both at the right hand of God’s throne above . No more suffering no more pain.. Thank God ! 🙏Live with gusto!

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Green_Guy in reply to Lulu700

Thank you, Lulu. God bless you and your dad.

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Lulu700 in reply to Green_Guy

Our fathers live inside of us . They are in our dna .. my did is still my hero . Even tough I got his pc . It was worth it having him for my father .. I can really relate to what my dad went through .. our lot is to live full lifes in their honor . 🙏😔💔

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Green_Guy in reply to Lulu700

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2015, but it was still stage 3b and so far so good for me. My dad's cancer wasn't diagnosed until last month, when it was too far advanced and he was too old to be able to fight it. Genetic testing was done and it turns out my cancer did not come due to genetics, so we don't have to do any further genetic testing for me or my son. But my reply is not about prostate cancer. I want to share something written by John O'Donohue and Irish poet/writer.

OUR DEPARTED LOVED ONES

The dead are not distant or absent. They are alongside us. When we lose someone to death, we lose their physical image and presence, they slip out of visible form into invisible presence. This alteration of form is the reason we cannot see the dead. But because we cannot see them does not mean that they are not there. Transfigured into eternal form, the dead cannot reverse the journey and even for one second re-enter their old form to linger with us a while. Though they cannot reappear, they continue to be near us and part of the healing of grief is the refinement of our hearts whereby we come to sense their loving nearness. When we ourselves enter the eternal world and come to see our lives on earth in full view, we may be surprised at the immense assistance and support with which our departed loved ones have accompanied every moment of our lives. In their new, transfigured presence their compassion, understanding and love take on a divine depth, enabling them to become secret angels guiding and sheltering the unfolding of our destiny.

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Lulu700 in reply to Green_Guy

You too? I am sorry! This is a great poem .. life and death are one in continuation . Eternity starts today . Not in the grave . Our closest loved ones stay with us forever . We will see each other on God’s golden shore ! This is my belief ! Death is rebirth ! 🕊🕊🕊🕊🙏💔🍀🍀🍀

I am sorry to read this post about your Dad. Such a blessing to have a good loving son❤️May your Dad Rest In Peace !

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Green_Guy in reply to Miomarrito

Thank you, Miomarrito.

My sincere condolences Green_Guy. I bet he had a lot of stories from his 98 years on Earth. May God bless.

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Green_Guy in reply to Bethpage

Thank you, Bethpage.

Having you by his side...leaving behind a caring, giving, prayerful son are true gifts that will allow a dad to be able to pass from this world into the next (and truly better) world. Sometimes that's not such an easy transition. I'm sure he has great joy in heaven knowing and seeing you seek little pockets of joy through your sadness. God bless you on this new journey you're on knowing how happy and peaceful you made his days.

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Green_Guy in reply to Yadifan

Thank you, Yadifan.

May you always feel your Dad’s presence in your heart. My sincere condolences.

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Green_Guy in reply to cancerfox

Thank you, cancerfox.

Condolences and Prayers.

Thank you, gourd_dancer.

My deepest condolences to a fine son and his love ones. May you dear Dad savor his eternity with all of his relatives who were awaiting him. God Bless.

j-o-h-n Friday 04/29/2022 12:17 AM DST

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Green_Guy in reply to j-o-h-n

Thanks John.

Sorry for your loss. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. RIP 🙏

Thank you, Abhishek_Roy.

I am just so sorry. The circle of life completes itself again. I am happy that you have friends and faith to help you through the grief.

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Green_Guy in reply to monte1111

Thank you, monte1111.

With sincere sympathy.

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Green_Guy in reply to tallguy2

Thank you, tallguy2.

Sounds to me like the way you handled his passing was a testimony to his parenting of you and your shared faith. May God be with you.

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Green_Guy in reply to Carlosbach

Thank you, Carlosbach

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