Hi everyone, I have a question that has been very difficult for me to ask since three months ago when my husband was diagnosed with metastatic prostrate cancer. I had zero knowledge about this disease so I assumed the available treatments that were offered to us could cure his cancer unaware of the fact that there is no cure!
I have been constantly on this website reading every comment and every bio, Looking for people who have condition similar to my husband to learn about the treatments they received.
What really made me upset was to see that majority of users are newly diagnosed (2019)and only few with more than 2 years of diagnosis, and so many inactive users that I don’t want to think they all are gone forever.
I’m so sorry if my question is not pleasant, but I really want to know the truth, I think Dr. Scholz sugarcoats the reality , he told us that metastatic cancer patients can live up to 20 years and I believed it at the beginning, but other oncologists that I listened to on YouTube or The statistics say something like 9 to 30 months.
So my question is if stage 4 cancer patients usually leave us in pain and just in few months, why they must go under such harsh treatments ? What is the purpose of the treatments that make patients feeling more sick ?
I even see people saying although they were under treatments with good results the cancer was spreading silently... I really don’t understand the necessity of treatments that cancer wouldn’t care!!!
My husband kidney is showing abnormality after taking Zytiga, so he must switch to something else, thinking that one day he must go under chemotherapy is killing me, he is scheduled for radiation in few weeks and I know it is dangerous too and beside side effects, it can cause a secondary cancer, sorry , I feel so depressed and hopeless, nightmares about the last days of his life don’t leave me alone, I don’t want to see him suffer, I wish I could do something to save him , I pretend to be ok and I made home vey comfortable for him . Fortunately he has no idea of his disease , he believed Dr.Scholz that prostate cancer is not really a cancer and being metastatic is not that bad and he can live long. He is the kindest man I have ever seen , he has been a very good person through his life and loved by everyone who met him , he doesn’t deserve this , no one deserves...