Lost the battle

[Janhpr]

I am overwhelmed by some many replies from you brave men who are suffering from this cruel disease and from the wife’s and family members who are supporting their men and from the Wives like me that have lost their Husband’s /Partner and understand how I’m feeling right now; so lost.

This is a poem by Nigel Lewis- Barker ‘Fighting It’

He looked over his glasses, raised his eyebrows quite high and said I had cancer I thought I would die. They scanned and x-rayed me, they poked and pried. They sampled and tested - it don’t hurt I lied. Take these tablets, injections, get in this machine, cos we going places your mums never been Oh dear it’s not good your in quite a bad state. We will try to control it but can’t operate. The doctors have worked hard and all worked hard and all shared their skills with radiotherapy, hormones and pills, a clinical trial with monthly injections, meant moments of pain and frequent inspections well now it’s 6 years since we first got the news, treatments and trials with ongoing reviews, I’m too busy to die I’ve got too much to do, some projects are long term some new ideas, I know I’ve got cancer and though hard it may try, I made a decision- it won’t get this guy.

Found this poem when my husband was first diagnosed and with these thoughts he bravely fought the fight, they told him he had 2-5 years but lived for 16 years.

Your condolences, comments and understanding how great is my loss gave me comfort , thank you all

Love Jan

[RyderLake2]

Hello,

It is not us who deserve the thanks, it is you. The poem you shared with us inspired me (and I am sure many others) to keep fighting this damn disease. It has been eleven and a half years for me which is quite remarkable given that I was told at diagnosis I probably had less than a year to live.

[erjlg3]

I'm so deeply sorry Jan😪 I hope you will find peace and comfort in the love that you both shared with time.

An old friend Dan from here would have certainly said that your husband was the winner for beating it all of those years. Dan considered his time a WIN.

While you're grieving, make sure to take care of you too.

Sending bear (((hugs))) with love.

🌻🙏🏼🌻Jackie

[Sisira in reply to erjlg3]

Thank you Jackie for keeping my great friend Dan still in your memory. S I S I R A

[erjlg3 in reply to Sisira]

My heart is with those who have gone on to their next journey and those still here Sisira. Hugs.

[tarhoosier]

May his memory be a blessing

[OFPF16]

Thank you for that inspirational poem. You, like all of the other wives, gives us strength and encouragement. You hold us during the bad days, and laugh with us during the good days! Thank you!

[Nubeqa22]

so sorry for your loss! He was a brave warrior with you by his side. 16 years were a bonus— but never enough when it comes to losing half of yourself.

[Har036]

Jan, how thoughtful of you to reach out to us during your time of bereavement. I pray that you are well.

That poem really has captured many of our journeys. Thank you so much for sharing. This journey may have many ups and downs but I pray that your life on the other side of this brings you wonderful memories and days of peace, love and joy.

Sharon

[j-o-h-n]

Tony is so proud of you and your two daughters, that I can just imagine he's flapping his wings.

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n