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The battle is over

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After 2.5 years of fight against this terrible disease, my dad passed away on November 29th. He never wanted to leave us behind and kept fighting to survive until his last days. He was very active, hopeful and lively before the disease spread to the lungs.

During this 2,5 years, I tried to help him by motivating him and helping him to find ways to handle his problems. And this forum was a main source of motivation and information for myself so that I can support my dad. Thank you all who gave me courage, insight and support.

I wish all of you and your caretakers strength and hope.

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DarrylPartner

Thank you for posting this. Condolences and strength

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Rob1053

So sorry for your loss!

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redbank

So very sorry for your loss......

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Tub111

So sorry for your loss. No words can heal but thank you for your compassion you showed your father. You both were blessed. May you find comfort in knowing that ...🙏

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader)

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Shumaf in reply to Tub111

Thank you Sheri. My mom was his main caregiver like yourself. She did more than anybody to help him in the battle. My brother and I supported him as much as we can. I'm sure you are too the hero of your husband. Now we are left with our mom and we will support her more as she lost her husband after 43 years.

I wish you and your husband long and happy life together.

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Tub111 in reply to Shumaf

Thank you Shumaf. Your parents brought up amazing compassionate kids, as I see from your posts. God bless you both and the hero mom you have. I appreciate the kind words ❤️

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader)

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jazz2cool

You sound like a guy who makes good choices and has no reason for regret. On behalf of your Dad, thank you for your support. Whether he said it often or not, I know it meant a lot to him. My thoughts and prayers go on for you and your family.

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Shumaf in reply to jazz2cool

Thank you! I wish you the best of luck and strength in your battle.

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snoraste

Sorry to hear the sad news. I hope he passed away peacefully.

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Shumaf

Thank you for your nice word, Nalakrats. May God help you in your battle and give you strength to inspire many more people.

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benninger

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

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joancarles

I am very sorry for your loss

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RalphieJr64

God bless, peace and strength to you and your family.

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erjlg3

I am deeply sorry for your loss of your Dad Shumaf :( May you find peace knowing you were with him all the way....helping, loving and guiding.

Most sincere,

🌼Jackie

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Tjc1

Sorry to hear of your dads passing. prayers to your family

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monte1111

So sorry. May you and your mother and the rest of your family find peace within and the strength to carry on for each other.

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dockam

So sorry to hear that we lost another to this damn cancer, My condolences to you and the family during this trying time. If you would like, I wear a back bib at marathons, I can add his name to it for the Surf City marathon on Super Bowl Sunday. Unfortunately, I have 13 men on it from the various forums that I participate in.

Randy

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Shumaf in reply to dockam

Thank you Randy. I appreciate you are honoring men we lost to this disease. Please add Shumaf, which is our family name.

Wish you the best

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dockam in reply to Shumaf

I will post a post a pic soon after the race. May I have a first name also?

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Shumaf in reply to dockam

Thank you Randy, his first name is Ismet

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YostConner

My thoughts are with you Shumaf.

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Chiquis

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will say a prayer for you and your family. Remember that you are not alone. 🙏

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Quyen

I am sorry for your loss. Be strong for your Mom. My prayers to your family.

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Ian2017

I salute you and your family for your great courage in confronting this illness. It's taken me more courage than anything I've ever done. May God bless you all.

So sorry to hear of the loss of your dad - from you comments it is very obvious the love he had for you all and you all had for him - may that give you peace to live your live now - sincerest condolences.

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Mota59

Condolences and God bless you and your family !! My son is besides me in my battle , and I know how much your dad appreciated you being beside him in his battle

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Shumaf in reply to Mota59

Thank you.

I wish you and your family all the best, peace and happiness

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Cactus-Jack

Saddened to hear we lost another warrior. Condolences to you and your family.

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Babalu455

Sorry for your loss

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Emmett50

I’m so sorry for the loss of your brave Dad. My condolences, love, and peace be with you and your family. Mary

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BSCS

So sorry!

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Trecento

Condolences to you and yours for your loss. Kind regards.

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Bluebird11

Thank you for sharing.. My condolences to you and your family.

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Schwah

As a father going thru this awful disease, I can tell you one thing for sure. Having your children by your side throughout is a blessing. I’m sure your father felt that way and like me I’m sure he wants you to remember him for the good times and to live the life you were meant to live. God bless you and your family.

Schwah

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Shumaf in reply to Schwah

Thank you for your nice words Schwah. I think so too that he wanted us to remember him for the good times. And this is at the end what one can leave behind.

I wish you and your family much happiness, peace and strength.

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dress2544

Sorry for your loss. Heartfelt condolences.

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Tmetz

So sorry. May he rest in peace.

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Iwwin

So so sorry. Horrible disease. Ditto thoughts above and God bless.

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HalC

I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength and peace.

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ronnie1943

Hi, My name is Lynn, I too as was your Mom, a caregiver for my husband. I share your pain, It is a terrible disease. ......I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm sure your Dad will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him. Prayers for your Mom and your family. 🙏🏻

Love, Lynn 💗🙏🏻😘

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Shumaf in reply to ronnie1943

Thank you Lynn for your nice words. I wish you and your husband much happiness and long life together.

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4luvofrob

I am so very sorry....I my heart goes out to you and your family....and to your dear dad who fought so hard to stay with you....may you be comforted with knowing that he is now, well and with Jesus....and may you hear the words: Well done, good and faithful and loving daughter.

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Litlerny

I’m so very sorry to hear about your father’s passing. I hope that it is of comfort to you to know that he was such a fighter, and although his battle was a short one, he gave it all we had, and was blessed to have the love and support of his family through it all. In the end that’s all any of us can hope for. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you deal with your loss. May your sorrow soon be transformed into smiles of fond memories. Peace. Mark

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inHishand

Sincere condolences. You were obviously his rock. Now, he will be yours from heaven.

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elainea53

I hope you find comfort.

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Vitaminlover

We are very sorry to learn of your loss. Sincere condolences to you and your family

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Grumpyswife

You are in my thoughts with the loss of your father. I am sure he will be missed. Take comfort in knowing what a great son you have been for him.

Mary

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larry_dammit

So sorry to hear, this monster is terrible and has no mercy 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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JDKotter

His Life continues through you and your brother! He may not be beside you but he’s with you forever! God Bless

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Break60

So sorry it took him so quickly! May he Rest In Peace! 🙏🙏🙏

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Wdoug

Prayers and positive wishes for you and your family to help you cope with your loss and continue living as your Dad would like. So sorry.

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Flyboy1969

May you be filled with Inner Peace, and hold to the great memories. He fought the good fight ... that's all any of us can do. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

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Candace1

So very sorry. I lost my dad August 15th of this year. Pain doesnt go away and I miss him so much everyday. Like you I also encouraged him in his journey and went to every appt. I feel like I let him down. Again, sorry for your loss.

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monte1111 in reply to Candace1

I felt like I had let my daughter down when she was killed in an auto accident by a wrong way driver crazed on drugs. When she told my granddaughter to come on we're going to the bank and granddaughter said she didn't want to go I said go on I got her. My thoughts were that if I told my granddaughter to go, the time putting her in the car seat would mean my daughter's tiny car and the SUV would have never met head on. Foolish thinking. Would've, could've, should've. Going to every appt. is above the call of duty. No one has ever gone to any of my appts. You not only did not let your dad down, you lifted him up. After almost 7 years I've got my granddaughter. She is a lovely young lady of 12 years.

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ann1919

I am very sorry for your loss 🙏

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dadeb

So sorry for your loss, Shumaf. I will pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.

Very sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.

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ChuckBandChar

Your father was blessed to have you in his life. My condolences to you and your family.

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Hohman

Very Sorry for your loss. Thanks for being such a strong support for you Father...it means everything!!

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Beth_Lott

Sounds similar to my Dad. Last 2 1/2 years (once he became hormone resistant) were not fun. It also spread to his lungs and was ultimately what got him. May you find peace. My Dad has been gone now since 2013. I miss him, but it was sure difficult to see him struggle. My condolences to you and your family.

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Shumaf in reply to Beth_Lott

Thank you for sharing your story. I will sure miss my dad and remember gor the good times.

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Saydeebugz

Sending love and light as your family finds their way thru this sadness. Know that your father will live on, thru you... he will forever be by your side ♡♡♡

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Shumaf in reply to Saydeebugz

Thank you

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zenbee13

Blessings to you and yours. I am giving thanks for full healing for you and your family and friends.

Peace, and love,

Bees

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Sisira

May your dad rest in eternal peace.

My condolences to your family.

God bless you dear daughter!

Sisira

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Shumaf in reply to Sisira

Thank you Sisira

God bless you

PS. I'm his son

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Sisira in reply to Shumaf

Oh dear I am so sorry. I am an Asian and not very familiar with male/female sounding names. Usually, seldom sons become care givers for their parents and share with our forum. You are a great son! I admire you and wish you all the strength to fill the voide created by the loss of your dad and look after the bereaved family with the same fatherly love.

May God bless you dear son and your family!

Sisira

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j-o-h-n

The name Ismet means "honesty" or "purity" and in classical "infallibility", "immaculate", "impeccability", "faultlessness". He must have been a wonderful father to have raised two caring and loving children. He is in a better place now and his pain and worries are over. May he rest in peace at the side of almighty God. The Greeks have a saying to the bereaved "zoi se sas" Life to the living. So from this "Hamal" to you and your family "Zoi se sas".

j-o-h-n Wednesday 12/12/2018 9:05 PM EST

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Shumaf in reply to j-o-h-n

Thank you Dear John for sharing this. I did not know those meanings of my dads name. It helps me a lot to think that he is in a better place now.

The Greeks are right. My Dad is now resting in western Anatolia at Aegean coast at a hill top surrounded by Pine and olive trees. This is a place where Greeks used to live. He was in love with this place so he and my mom moved there after retirement.

I wish you and your family all the best

Shumaf, Live a long healthy life for him, Celebrate his life with you. His spirit will never really leave you ...Thank you , for letting us know.. Scott

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lincolnj8

So sorry for your loss and thank you for posting this.

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Devtony

In all of our prayers

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yucca13

It is never easy to lose someone we love - wishing you strength and peace.

Tough news to hear. So sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace. God Bless You.

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