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We lost the war, but won many battles🌷


Hello all,

We lost our Dad early on Tuesday morning. He never gave up and fought on until the very end. He had some pain the last few weeks, but we were able to keep it down so he could enjoy friends and family.

I want to thank you all for the kindness and knowledge that we received here. I’ve said it before, but I wish we had found this resource of support much sooner.

I hope you all accomplish your goals and dreams, even if you think you don’t have the time, or money for, so you can leave this life without any regrets just like Dad.

I wish you all the best.


79 Replies

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. While he died with a sense of having accomplished much, you are left with a gap in your heart. He was lucky to have you by his side.

dadeb in reply to Tall_Allen

You and Nalakrats and so many others will have a special place in heart forever. Your words gave me hope and peace. Thank you for all you do here for these amazing warriors.


This is heart breaking 💔I’m so sorry. I worry so much about my dad and I know you were an advocate for yours like I am mine. Many prayers for you and your family. I’m so thankful he didn’t suffer with a lot of pain. Sending you a heartfelt hug.

dadeb in reply to Hidden

I thank you so much. Us daughters have a tough road. I will follow your journey and wish you the best.

You are in my prayers. Lost my dad July 4th.

dadeb in reply to Tonyland

All my best to you. I wasn’t and never would have been ready. I know you’re suffering like I am.

Tonyland in reply to dadeb

Yes. My world stopped.

my sincere condolences. wishing you peace.

Very sorry for your loss.

Wish myself a daughter like you

What a blessing you were to him as my daughters heart to me !🙏🏻❤️

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

My heart bleeds for you and yours. I'm sorry.

So sorry for your loss...may he Rest In Peace. We are praying for you and your family! 🙏


Debbie, I am very sorry for your Families lost, You were a wonderful caretaker to your Dad.



dadeb in reply to Dan59

Thank you Dan. You have inspired me so much. 🌷. Keep up the fight.


I'm so sorry your father's battle with this disease ended. I hope the good memories you shared with him will comfort you during your grief.

This quote has helped me tremendously after losing loved ones close to me. I hope it does the same for you.

"Love is stronger than death even though it can't stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can't separate people from love. It can't take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death."

May your father's memory be honored by those he loved ❤

dadeb in reply to Here4Dad

Thank you so much. So thoughtful of you. Love this. I wish you peace on your new journey here. 🌷 Keep hope alive.

My thought and prayers are with you and your family Debbie.


God bless papa with peace now. Thank you for letting us know.. May you appreciate and enjoy your life. A loving daughter is beautiful ..✌️

dadeb in reply to Hidden

Thank you Lulu. Thanks for sharing your journey here. You’re very insightful and a lover of life. 💕

You father's memory will be a blessing. Condolences.

Your dad was lucky that he had a daughter like you beside him until his last breath. My heartfelt condolences. May the almighty give you peace.

So sorry to hear that, my condolences. You are a wonderful and caring daughter and I'm sure he was very proud of you.

Im so sorry for your loss 😢 Prayers for strength and comfort to you and your family. Your dad fought a good fight and im sure he is proud to have a loving and caring daughter like you.

Hi Dadeb, It seems you understand the meaning of love, and you were lucky you could be with your dad, and I for one among us would wish you all the best for your future.

Patrick Turner.

dadeb in reply to Patrick-Turner

Thank you Patrick. I’ve enjoyed reading your descriptive posts here. I wish you the best also. Keep on bikin.

Patrick-Turner in reply to dadeb

Its day 8 after chemo, and the dull green blue glow of CT scans of full body has receded. I needed the sleep after the cycle ride and the X-rays. But I'll cycle while I still can, and wherever I go I have a kind of emotional background state of mind that is made better by the "holding hands across the world" which the Internet allows. It's day 8 after last chemo, and I feel fairly well after having cycled every day after chemo. Not too far, but at least I got out there and did something, and I'm better at this time in the chemo cycle than I was in the last one. I have to meet onco next Thursday to discuss where to from here, and I expect Psa at 50, over 4 times what it was before chemo, and if I get referal to Dr Lenzo and his Darling Aunty Lutetia with her atomic lance then I may not have any more chemo if it looks like its completely useless.

With no more chemo I'd recover very well. However, possibly chemo is at least holding pain down, can't be sure unless I quit chemo; docs might know, and l am in the land of unknown unknowns a bit.........

Beautiful day here, I'll try for 25km ride.....

We need to put each hard day behind us, and try to make each following day better, and its easier said than done.

Patrick Turner.

Hidden in reply to Patrick-Turner

Amazing spirit from down under.. Good luck dear Sir!!🚴‍♂️

Patrick-Turner in reply to Hidden

Its a beautiful spring Sunday here, and I'll do another 30km cycle ride like I did yesterday. I can feel myself getting stronger after each passing day since my 4th chemo some 10 days ago.

I doubt next Tuesday's Psa test will be below 50.

Next Thursday is when the Steering Wheel Of Life might be turned by doc if he refers me to another doc for Lu177. A slight amount of hope might spring forth, and I might get to quit chemo, and cycle on even further with zest, and Hoo Noze what migh happen :-) .....

Keep Well,

Patrick Turner.

So sorry love breaks my heart for me it's my hubby and I'm scared look after you and your family xx

Hidden in reply to Wongle1

We all have fear...peace to you and hubby....

Thoughts , prayers and heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Thoughts and prayers to you all in this difficult time. Sounds like he was a very lucky dad...🙏

Hidden in reply to Tub111

Who’s in that tub??? Looks crazy fun!

Tub111 in reply to Hidden

That is my hubby Chris. Raced it last month and won 1st! It is a crazy ride and so proud he was able to do it

Hidden in reply to Tub111

We’ve got a winner!! Awesome fun..

Deb...His wonderful daughter is his best tribute!

Hidden in reply to OldFart81

Amen to that!

So sorry for your loss. It sounds like Your dad fought with everything he had. Your family are in my prayers

Hello dadeb,

You can go forward with the understanding that you did everything possible for your Dad as

such a loving and caring daughter and as his advocate.

Family matters and your Dad was blessed with his.

With love,

Mark, Atlanta

So sorry to hear. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your many wonderful memories bring you comfort in the days ahead.


My heart and thoughts are with your family.


I'm very sorry. My prayers for you and your family. 🙏💜

So sorry. I hope you will find comfort.

So very sorry for your loss .Gods speed …………..


Very sorry for your loss. RIP

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Debbie- God Bless You and Your Family. Joe Dayoc

So sorry for your loss.

My sincere condolences for your loss. He was an inspiration to all of us.

Debbie, I greatly admire your father's courage and endurance. I also admire you. Caregiving is a rewarding and strenuous job, your committment to your father's care is an example of your devotion to him, and his raising of you. Grief is an unpredictable process and everyone has their own way of getting through it. Having been through this myself the only thing I would say is to give yourself the grace of time. My wife will one day stand where you are now and I will have this discussion with her before I go. Know that we are all thinking of you, and also your dad as he starts his new journey. You are always welcome here, if only to let us know how YOU are doing. Thank you from all of us for taking such good care of your dad.

After all the trials, love, and anguish, after many losses, I look at it this way;

And another star blinks into existence in the evening skies, lighting the way for those who come behind.

May that light always shine down for you and yours.


God Bkess you and your family. I know your Dad was very proud of his family and your hard work as a daughter trying to reach out on his behalf. Praying for your father and your family.


Very sorry for the loss of your Dad - his spirit will live on in his loving family.

Sincerely Jorge

I’m so very sorry that you’ve lost your Dad. His journey was eased by your loving devotion. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

Really sorry Deb. I followed all of your postings as you followed mine. Your love for your Father and your positiveness has helped me continue this journey.


dadeb in reply to RalphieJr64


I am so sorry. I too am loosing my dad as well, he only has days left. I was fortunate enough to go see him while he was still a little alert and responsive. There really are no words.

dadeb in reply to Pappamike

My heart goes out to you. Stay strong to the end for him. No regrets, right? Bless you.


I am so very sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. It is a loss for all of us who have shared his journey, but I know it is devastating for you who have been with him all the way. May God embrace him, and grant you and your family comfort and peace.


I’m so very sorry for your loss 🙏

Hi Debbie,

I do so wish I could wave a wand to take away the pain that comes with your loss.

Take heart in how he passed, and how much he loves you still. I am certain from things that have happened in my life that all of our loved ones still watch over us. It just doesn't help us here on our material plane.

The web of live en wraps us all

Filaments of spirit fly from one to another

Now is your time to heed it's call

Letting our love fill you heart one to another.

Blessings, Peace and Love,


dadeb in reply to zenbee13

Thank you 🌷

Reading these posts makes me realize the love that is present on this site. I hope you can feel that love Deb. I too have a loving daughter that is by my side throughout my battle. If I can give you any small amount of peace, it is in knowing how much I appreciate my daughters love and the fact that she has stood by my side this whole time. I know when my time comes, I pray my daughter will not feel guilt or sadness but rather joy for our time together in this world. I feel certain your dad would feel the same.


dadeb in reply to Schwah

Thank you so much, Schwah. Hug your daughter for me.

To Debbie, May your Dad's memory live on forever. I never met your Dad but I'm sure I would have liked him because of how you are. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. May he have an easy time learning how to play the harp and getting used to his wings.

Η ζωή στους ζωντανούς.

j-o-h-n Friday 09/28/2018 5:22 PM EDT

dadeb in reply to j-o-h-n

Thank you So much. I appreciate all of your posts here. You lighten a lot of darkness 💕

There is nothing more precious to a man than his daughter. I am sure you were precious to him.


I’m very sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs and prayers 🙏

Hi Debbie.

I am so sorry for your loss and wish you and your family strength for the weeks and months to come.

Love, Mel.


Debbie, you’re not only a blessing to your beloved papa , but to us all. Carry on for him and enjoy life. That’s what he’d want...

So sorry for you and family. Read post yesterday and had to walk away. Have thought of many wise things to say since then. And decided the best is just to say sorry. May grandchildren and the puppy help guide you on your way.

dadeb in reply to monte1111


Condolences and so much respect.

sorry to know your loss. I am here for my dad too. can just say that both of you were blessed to have each other. hope you already know that you did your best to support him. may he rest in peace. God bless u

dadeb in reply to caretkr

God bless you also.

We send our condolences to you and the rest of the family tonight having just read about your father’s death. You were/are a daughter-in-a-million!

Keeping you in our prayers and holding you and your dad in our hearts and memories. Love, Jan and Les

dadeb in reply to leswell

Thank you so much 🌷appreciate all of you posts here.

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