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Update on my husband-Hankwhy(Mike)

Update on my husband-Hankwhy(Mike)

I am Mike’s wife Kim. It was important to him that I update as well as give thanks. Mike is currently in the hospital. His hemoglobin got down to a 4.9 in a short period of time, doing better each day. After two rounds of Xofigo he had to stop. Side affects were brutal, never quite got back to himself after. We are in palliative care, soon transferring to hospice. He did manage to go stripper fishing on Good Friday, collapsed when he got home, but happy he went.

He wanted me to shout out HUGE THANKS to Dan, Yost, Dr. Who and ALL of you PC stoic warriors. Will update when I can, but busy loving on him + making every minute of the day count, seeking joy in the ordinary moment.

May God Bless you all,

Kim & family

Keep fightin the fight

Ps-his 66th b-day

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Wishing him well. 🙏🏻

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Thank u so very much.

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Kim,

Thank you for sharing! So glad Mike got to do what he loves on such a holy day!

May God bless you and Mike - and give you both peace, contentment and His eternal Love. He has clearly already given you beautiful times together and memories that you can both keep forever

We are all here for you both and will be praying for you. 🙏

James

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Thank you kindly James. Loved your moving words

Kim

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Hang in there, both of you!! We are all with you!

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We surely will hang in there!!!! Most definitely!!! Thank u so much.

Kim

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Hi Kim, So very sorry to hear about your husband. I'm also a caregiver for my husband, I share your pain. Sending prayers and blessings your way! 🙏🏻

God bless.

Sincerely, Lynn Pa. 💗

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Hi Lynn,

Such an important job for us, isn’t it. My husband took care of our family for 27 years, and I am so grateful I can now turn the tables + help him, such a privilege. Wishing my best to you Lynn, reach out any time if u need some encouraging words. This site is the best of human beings I have been so fortunate to come across. Mike speaks so highly of the these courageous fellas, their help + guidance gave him encouragement in some very dark times.

Hugs,

Kim

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Hi Kim, my husband started his journey at age 65, he is now 74 young. Like Mike he supported his family for many years. We have two grown children and have been married for fifty three years. Sam is now taking a targated therapy drug. Just recently approved by the FDA.? Kim, my heart goes out to you, I'm so very sorry and also please know that I'm here for you too, any time you need a friend that knows exactly what we go through. Prayers coming your way and God Bless. 🙏🏻

Hugs for you too!! 💗

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Which drug as my husband is now resistant to enzalutimide

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Hi, my name is Lynn. The Zytaga nor the Xdandi worked for my husband, after chemo,they found cancerous lymph nodes. The drug Sam, my husband is taking is called cometriq. It's a targated therapy drug. The oncologist wanted him to qualify for Keytruda, but Sam didn't have the mutations for it. This targated therapy drug is pill form.

Keep us posted as to what treatment Ypur husband will be getting.

Best Wishes, Lynn Pa.

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Very best wishes in your battle.

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Thank you so much.

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Sending hugs and prayers for you both

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Huge thanks. Prayers are everything.

Kim

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Sending prayers your way..God bless you and Mike

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Thank you so, so very much.

Kim

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Dearest Kim and Family,

Thank you so much for loving and caring for your WARRIOR Mike. It takes such courage to live and fight this disease. Sending prayers for all of you.

Peace and love,

Jackie

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Sweet***

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You words made my heart smile Jackie. Thank you so much for your seeet, touching reply. This disease , so very difficult.

Keeping the faith,

And wishing you my best too...,

God Bless, Kim

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💗

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Kim, Thanks for sharing .May God bless you and Mike. Hang in there and please keep us posted.

Dan

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Thank you Dan. Mike spoke very highly of you. You gave him excellent advice + helped equip him on this journey. My best to you, on my way to hospital-will show him your reply.

May God Bless you,

Kim

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Wishing strength, peace and hope.. I too am a caregiver to Stage IV. It's a scary and lonely but I will do everything I can to make him happy.

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My sentiments exactly. So scary + lonely, especially at night (for me anyway). I will keep you in my prayers as well, along with ALL of us on this lonely road. Y’all continue to lift us up + I hope I can do the same .

God Bless,

Kim

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Dear Kim , scared and lonely stuff is an apt description as night falls. Why do we lament over our world and our fears as we lay down? ........ when we are constantly bombarded by suffering or we revive negativity from the patient without a break, One can breakdown. I don’t know how you all deal with us ? and or our bad behavior due to APC . I thank you for him...

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Hugs to you. We are in this together & I am so very grateful for this sire &people like you.

Hugs xo

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Welcome, you both are a great addition for us.. Take care..

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Dear Kim,

My heart feels for you. Thank you for sharing. Yes! Make each day count and treasure every moment of it. I will have you and your family in my prayers. May God surround you with peace and strength. Remember you are not alone a hug to you🙏💛

Sincerely,

Erika

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Thank you HUGELY for your touching words.

Hugs back,

Kim

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Praying for blessings to come your way, with tears in my eyes. Keep the faith...

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With tears in my eyes, I thank you for your moving words. I will keep the faith ...

Kim xo

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Tears will be shed...

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That’s one bad ass blazer .. you both look happy with that striper.. nice fish..

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This is his baby!! 72 Chevy Blazer!!

Lots of good times had !!! Even the Rubicon backinthe day!!!

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I like it.....

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There are so many caregivers on this site looking for answers to be a better helper, encouragement and comfort. We pray you are successful in having wonderful time together.

Nettie

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Mercy on our caretakers , spouses and partners .They don’t have the disease but they get the brunt of the the emotional chaos..

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That’s for sure...

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Doing our best. Seeking joy in the ordinary moments... precious time..

Thank u,

Kim

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Thank you for your prayers... he is our everything ...

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You will get him thru.

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In Yeshua/Jesus Name--May God Bless you both and Keep you both.

Nalakrats

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Beautiful. Thank you kindly Nalakrats for your prayer.

Kim

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You are both in my thoughts. I hope you get a good outcome.

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We thank you so very much. Kim

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Kim and family, I'm relatively new here, so, have not had the pleasure of meeting either Mike or yourself until now. Just took a look through some of Mike's previous posts, and with yours above, can see the love and faith that flows through your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Leo

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Beautiful words !

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I agree!!! So beautifully saud💙🎗

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Said**

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So eloquently said. Thank you for your heartfelt words. Touched my heart. And so grateful for your prayers. We truly need them. Thank you &May God Bless ~

Fondly,

Kim

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Keep the faith , you’ll survive this.

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Hi Kim, keep the faith.

Nick

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Be happy x

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Thoughts and prayers to your family.

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To: Mike and Kim, First of all if you remove the E from Mike and reverse it you get Kim. You are meant and blessed for each other.

I Pray for both of you and your families to get through this difficult time with God watching over all of you.

j-o-h-n Tuesday 04/10/2018 8:10 AM EDT

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Prayers out to you both. Hope the pain goes away 🙏🙏🙏🙏

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Glad he got to go out and do what he loves to do. For me that would be golf. It does help give a temporary break from things. My prayers go out to both of you. Hang in there, keep fighting, and make the most of each day you have together.

Mark

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Im glad Mike made it fishing and is lucky to have a wife like yourself to love him and making him comfortable. God bless you both.

Thomas

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May the Lord bless both of you with better days ahead. Miracles do happen.

Warmly,

Daniel Franco-Moore

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Each time a brother and his family reach this point, I am saddened to the point of tears. Kim and Mike, my heart is with you.I hope you do find joy in the ordinary moments, and I hope you both remain comfortable physically and mentally.

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Hello, I am new to this group, you touched my heart with your post. May the Lord bless and touch you and Mike. I am praying for both of you. Love and gentle hugs to you both.

Dany Gant

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You and your family are in my prayers. In fact, I'm praying for us all here for strength, strong minds, faith and comfort at all times in our decisions and actions.

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Blessings to you and upon all your days together.

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Oh Kim, my heart goes out to you and Mike. I will be praying for both of you for peace, comfort and strength. Hugs.

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Blessings and prayers to you both....

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Kim, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Hopefully Mike's bloods will get better and he will recover again, although his bloods are certainly very bad at the moment, but you never know. It is good that you are transferring to hospice anyway because he will have good care there. Hopefully it will all turn out to be okay.

I think savoring every moment and sharing your love with him is wonderful and the best thing that you can do at the moment. We all don't know how much time we have left so we really, really have to make the most of it.

Please look after yourself too. As someone said to me in the hospital yesterday: "The carers need care too."

Best wishes to both of you

Mel.

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I wish you both well and hope you can really enjoy the time you have together. There are very few good things about this disease but enhanced love and connection is one of them.

I admire your clear and frank approach.

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