Thank you so much for responding. I don’t know much about the forum other than tidbits that Neal had told me about. I don’t know how to post to it and don’t know if I can find his login or password. If you want to post about his passing, please do so.
Yes, Neal and I have one son and he is very aware of the hereditary aspects of this terrible disease.
As you may know in 2011 he had bone mets to his spine resulting in a spinal cord compression. Although confined to a wheel chair for several months, he was able to walk again and we spent the last seven years enjoying life and traveling. He rarely complained of pain and when he did it was because of an ankle and knee problem.
We traveled from California to Chiang Mai on January 11, 2018 hoping to stay in Southeast Asia until March 21. We were also going to go to Vietnam. He wasn’t doing well most of the time. He saw doctors at a Chiang Mai hospital who recommended we come home and we did so on February 15. Their scans revealed pleural effusion as well as tumors in the lungs.
On February 22 he was told the cancer had taken an even more aggressive turn. In addition to the pleural effusion, he also had pericardial effusion (heart). This is extremely rare for prostate cancer. He was told on February 28 that he also had severe aorta valve stenosis (which may or may not have been caused by radiation or could just be aging). Neal had never had any heart issues prior to this...
That day, February 28, he decided he would have no chemo and instead do palliative care (to be followed by hospice) because of his grave condition. The doctors gave him month(s) to a year. The eternal optimist, Neal had hoped for a year and wanted to work on his photos and to spend time with the family.
On the evening of February 28, his condition deteriorated so badly that by the following morning, March 1, he was bedridden and under hospice care at home. He died just eleven days later.