I am in need of significant assistance. I'm struggling to determine where to begin, as I'm experiencing considerable memory problems. Creating lists is ineffective, as I consistently forget to review them. I also have difficulty prioritizing tasks, which leads to chronic procrastination. While Vyvanse has improved my focus, I continue to experience substantial challenges with daily functioning. I lack a support network; I have no friends, and I am not in contact with my family. My immediate family consists of my wife, our four children, and myself, and we all have ADHD. My wife appears to manage her symptoms more effectively, but her suggested strategies are not helpful for me. She often attributes my difficulties to laziness or negativity, which is inaccurate. I have attempted to locate local support groups, but have been unsuccessful. I am desperate for a change in my life, as I cannot continue in my current state
New here, severely struggling - CHADD's Adult ADH...
New here, severely struggling
Since you've mentioned that lists aren’t working for you, perhaps exploring other strategies like visual cues, reminders through voice memos, or breaking tasks into extremely small steps could help. Sometimes, just starting with one small, manageable step — even something as simple as getting out of bed and putting on your shoes — can build momentum.
It might also be helpful to connect with an occupational therapist who specializes in executive functioning. They can provide practical tools tailored to your specific challenges, it has been a game changer for me, so it might be worth looking into. I know it’s hard when you feel alone in this, but please know that your struggles are valid, and you’re not lazy or negative — ADHD can make even basic routines incredibly tough sometimes. The fact that you're reaching out shows how much you care about improving things, and that’s a huge step in itself.
ADHD is tough. Its great to have support. My therapist dont put too much on yourself. baby steps. Also being told it is not a mental illness.
ADHD can impact so many parts of life, but it doesn’t define your worth or who you are. Be kind to yourself, and know that those small steps truly add up over time. You've got this! FYI, I found my OT through Melo, a platform that connects people with OTs who understand ADHD and can offer support remotely. It might be worth looking into if you're ever feeling stuck or need some extra tools. Be kind to yourself — those small steps truly add up, and you’re already doing amazing by showing up and seeking support. You've got this! 😊
I have a therapist I like and is giving good advice so far. Thank you for the kind words
everyone’s spice of adhd is different. You should read adhd is awesome. That helped me and my partner learn new strategies from another perspective. It’s possible the med isn’t working as it should or you just have too much on your plate. My partner has a ton of alarms for things. I use the modern Sam app. There’s also another app (goblin something) that may help with prioritization or organizing as well. We also tested another app that we were offered through here. The adhd_love couple on you tube also has one for body doubling. We both use lofi music to get out of our heads
I appreciate you reaching out. Hope some of this helps.
I understand you completely. it is so hard to keep up. Everyone with ADHD is different and just because you and your wife both have ADHD doesn't mean the same things will work for both of you. My suggestion for you is first and foremost, to read and learn about your type of ADHD understanding your type of ADHD and its symptoms will help you understand your needs better. Second, Find a hobby that will allow you to get your dopamine, something that you love or excites you. For me it was Taekwondo, it changed my ways and helped with my motivation. Good Luck
I put everything into my google calendar. Then my phone reminds me multiple times. I was fine before being attacked and struck with brass knuckles to the left temple and top of my head. Now, my short term memory is messed up and I often confuse passed days (2 days ago feels like a week, for example)
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