I have ADHD and have had it all my life. But just recently I am in need of some support and advise with a habit I have when I am nervous around people. Particular people who I perceive having power. I verbal diarrhea all over the place and say things trying to please.
I am in a position at work where I need to be spot on from when I step through the door. Please if anyone has any advise I am all ears.
If anyone has any advise how to control spiraling thoughts and then effecting my feelings about myself.
I am trying really hard to have confidence with myself after a tragic work event that has landed me with confidence issues and second guessing myself.
Help!!
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You are not alone in the area of verbal diarrhea or lower confidence, with or without an incident.
You have done some of the hard part, knowing it's happening. That's the first step because you can't change what you don't see.
The next step is to have some go-to ideas when you are in it.
As soon as you realize you are spiraling or spewing check yourself, cough, take a breath, excuse yourself to the bathroom, whatever you can do to get the tiniest bit of space. Coughing is a good one, it's easy and gives the excuse of getting some water - that can take a minute. And no, no one will notice that you are coughing "all the time" because it isn't actually happening "all the time" that is you scared part exaggerating because it's scared.
Once you have a bit of space you can regroup, breathe and calm yourself. The break allows your creative brain space to think. It will take what has happened so far and find a way to a better place.
You are in the beginning stages of learning how your brain works and on top of that you are putting all the pieces together from the past. So lots of "oh, that's why I do that" and "that's why that bothers me" type thoughts.
I suggest finding support to process everything, if that is in your budget. If not keep coming here and reading/listening to resources.
You are hugely creative and resilient. The incident at work could be tied to how you process things too.
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