I’m feeling really overwhelmed and dealing with some serious ADHD paralysis right now. My space is in total chaos and clutter, and it just feels like I can’t get it under control. The mess keeps piling up, and every time I try to make progress, I get stuck. It’s a frustrating cycle, and I’m honestly feeling a lot of shame over it.
I feel like I’ve tried everything to make a dent in it, but the biggest hurdle for me seems to be letting go of things – especially clothes. I hold onto so much “just in case,” and it’s exhausting. I know that there are tons of videos and tips out there, but they just add to the overwhelm.
Has anyone worked with a good coach or someone who understands the ADHD struggle with clutter and can help simplify the process? I just want life to feel less heavy and more manageable. Any advice or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening.
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I'm with you on the clutter front. I hoard and it was initially put down to OCD, but my ADHD diagnosis and the fact I display 'autistic quirks', means I develop an intense emotional attachment to my stuff and I really struggle to let it go. My life has been overwhelmed with depression the last few years and I'm at a point where I no longer have the energy to have interests in anything, so I'm using this coming week to tackle the hoard.
I took have tried self help books for clutter, but now they add to the clutter. I'd appreciate hearing any advice that can be provided.
my daughter and i both have ADHD but it presents itself a bit different. I throw everything away if i haven’t used it within 2 weeks, lol, and she keeps absolutely everything which made her teenage bedroom chaotic!!! after many fights n etc this is what we did. i gave her maybe 2 very large totes- those big rectangle black ones with yellow lids, and i asked her to put all the things she knew she prob didn't need but couldn't tolerate parting with. into the tote, and having two very large totes to fill, she was very mindful about it n i let her decide on her own. that really calmed her down internally. and obvi this wasnt a one time ordeal. those totes got re visited n sometimes she discarded stuff n sometimes she added stuff.
I have created the banana and orange box method. I've painted one side so they look OK. I store stuff in them stacked up in the garage. I have boxes labeled with printed card labels.
Others just say Pile File with some detail.
I have my weaknesses. Books. Technology. Extra supplies.
1. This helps with overwhelm.
2. I regularly actually get rid of boxes. Open 5 boxes with the same theme. Just do it.
I'm with emiL1234 you need a friend to help. This will help you with the "get stuck" as you say. Friends have helped me.
3. Plus. The guilt and shame. This needs attention.
I am new to an ADHD diagnosis at 68 years old! My room is chaos, so I am very interested in the answers to this question.
I don't know what the banana and orange box method, so I did an internet search. I didn't find anything. Then I did a search using "banana and orange box method for ADHD". I didn't find anything. Can you clarify it for me, or is this the name you've given to the steps you listed???
When you open those 5 boxes with the same theme, do you go through them and get rid of a certain percentage that you've pre-established? I have found that gifting items on Buy Nothing has helped me let go a little bit, but then if someone doesn't want my "treasures", it can be disappointing.
ShariIsBlessed1 sorry! The banana box name is my own system. Yes, my own name. 1. They are a good size. I tried bigger containers, but they get heavy, and hold too much.
2. Case study. Science gear, 8 boxes, decide to reduce to 4. Hydrate, focus, embrace the hard. Get 4 more nice labeled boxes, and fill them slowly or quick. Then dump/deal with the rest.
This is important. I find if I try to fiddle with sorting mixed stuff in one box I fail.
Summary: Boxes 1 to 8 open. Harvest stuff to keep into empty boxes.
3. We need to be on the groove. Buddhist or Christian detachment helps! If you are an atheist, just borrow this temporarily.
As M Scott Peck says.
Embrace the hard. Paraphrase of course.
4. General comment. Good labels help.
*Bits to go with things.
*Things to return.
*BBQ items
*Cooking gear
*Electronics.
I get this far and realize it is totally context, time of life, interest dependent.
5. It's partly put of sight, put of mind.
6. I Need help with this. Regularly.
This is the biggest lack I think in the ADHD Community. Not access to meds or therapy or coaching. It's buddies.
Maybe more later if I have relevant thoughts. Today is a public holiday and I gave a lot to avoid doing.
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What are we doing again??
Feeling exhausted all the time . Is that normal ?? 
Lost in a never ending cycle of mess.
The Never-ending Cycle — Impulsivity and Regret
Recently diagnosed with ADHD after child loss
