my step mom convict i am only seeking stimulant

[Curious98]

i used to take benadryl and mucus dm because they both contain stimulant which it help me to focus and be more of myself which she can not see that inside of me so anyway i have a diagnosis of adhd from a specialist who is expert adhd and my dad known this doctor for about 20 years because my brother who also have adhd and we all four of us was born at 29 week early and i am the youngest out of four so i have cochlear nerves deficiency and lazy eye so basically could mean that i have neurologic defect, your brain don't fully develop until you are at 33 weeks. my step mom dont believe i have adhd and yet we did evaluation from my dad and my boss at work those two did fill out, This doctor read the report observe my history, family history and my brain history he confirm that i do have adhd. i dont know why my step mom felt this way i guess because i didnt have the same symptom as my brother and her son. my stepmom son died in car accident when he was 18. and plus my is moderate while my brother and her son is serve. she look back as 90 way of adhd medical thing because i am not super hyper like my brother i am hyper in my own way like walking around playing with zipper research stuff on google. i like to know everything. i have curious mind.

[STEM_Dad]

It's unfortunate that your stepmom doesn't recognize your diagnosis, like your doctor and your dad do. Some people have a certain picture in their head of what ADHD looks like, and if your ADHD doesn't match their mental image then they won't believe you've got it.

So, why does it matter so much for her to believe your diagnosis?

Are you two close, and her disbelief is hurting your relationship?

Is she making it more difficult for you to get treatment?

Are you concerned that she will convince others that you don't have ADHD?

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I was married for 20 years, and got diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD a little over a year before the divorce. My wife, who regularly noticed my issues with attention, memory and time management all the time we were married, didn't believe my diagnosis at first. She didn't acknowledge it for a whole year after I was diagnosed and had gotten a second opinion that confirmed the diagnosis.

Some people just won't be convinced.

Try to be patient. Your stepmom might come around eventually. My ex-wife did. (She doesn't think our kids have ADHD, but I'm convinced they all do...just more milder than me.)

[Curious98 in reply to STEM_Dad]

Thank you i mean maybe when one of meditation of stimulant when i be able to start taking whenever the insurance give the ok maybe when i take it she will notice the difference it just take time.

[STEM_Dad in reply to Curious98]

Maybe. It depends on how your ADHD symptoms appear to other people.

If you have externally exhibiting symptoms of ADHD, such as many Hyperactive-Impulsive traits, then others might notice a change more easily.

If you have internally exhibiting symptoms, such as the Inattentive traits tend to be, then it might be much harder for others to notice.

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My own ADHD is the Inattentive presentation. I don't have hyperactivity (besides subtle fidgeting with my fingers) and I have very little impulsivity.

Some of the people who are closest to me somewhat noticed the difference, because I didn't need reminders as much of the time.

The main differences are within my brain.

• People couldn't see the persistent brain fog that I had before, but it's now gone 99.9% of the time, when it used to be present 99.99% of the time.

• People couldn't see that time was so variable for me before. 5 minutes could feel like an hour, or an hour could feel like 5 minutes. (Time is still variable for my, but now it's usually a 2-to-1 variation, when it used to be about 20-to-1.)

While people could tell that my attention shifted a lot before, they didn't usually know how bad it was from my perspective. I was so frustrated by not being able to stay on task for more than a few minutes, having to remind myself repeatedly what I was working on.

• I still have this problem, but can now often keep my attention on a task for longer periods of time, and can usually remind myself what I was doing before I got distracted.

[STEM_Dad]

By the way, Benadryl doesn't contain any type of stimulant. It actually makes a lot of people sleepy, so the same type of medicine is in some sleep aids. The only types of cold/cough/mucus medicine that contains stimulants are the ones that have to be prescribed; you can't get them from the store shelves anymore (not for many years).

[Goodtrouble]

I bad the same experience with my husband. All the time he would be annoyed with my time blindness, my forgetfulness, not paying attention yo what we talk, jumping from one Subject to another with no warning finishing put loud some of my thoughts that made perfect sense to me in my mind, being to sensitive to criticism, being impulsive...see my point? All part of diagnosis, but he also was of the view that I am just seeking stimulants as I was completely addicted to caffeine ( self-medicating ?).I never thought I has the hyperactivity pRt of it however the psychiatrist that did my assessment was very thorough and very helpful, even keeping in touch h and responding to my obsessive questioning via text at the beginning, that my hyperactivity is mainly inwards, the constant brain chatter, blurting things out without filter, jumping constantly from one thing to the other, starting a report on let,s say a toothpick ,to end up with research on stars and galaxies or supernatural beings:)I was good academically I had to wake up at 3 am to get any work done, my family knew nothing about my struggles or paid no attention to it. I was also born prematurely and on hindsight I believe that my dad had adhd ( past away in 2018) . Medication is not magic as I found after much trial and error, and still searching for the sweet spot, but it does make a difference. It is hurtful when someone you love and respect completely dismisses your struggles, clearly she has not paid attention . I was so discretion and quiet as a child (one of 6) that my parents forgot I was in tge house and were locking the door from the outside, to later realise I was in my corner, reading and completely immersed in my head in my own world. IYou are an adult, you make your own decisions about your health and only you can judge how the medication works for you, and your specialist will help with titration to reach tge right dose sand Medication for you. All the best and be well it is quite a journey you have embarked on and here is a supportive community

[Goodtrouble]

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