I just received my diagnosis a few weeks ago, ADHD- combined with depression and anxiety, I'm 47. I was hoping for the diagnosis so I could get medication and all my struggles would be over with a pill. Then I could finish my degree that I have been unable to complete for years. I was almost worried I wouldn't get diagnosed when I was waiting for the results. Then when I did get my diagnosis, PLOT TWIST, I couldn't get out of bed for days! I felt so lost, mad, broken and ashamed.
Now that I have a bit more control of my emotions and have had a chance to read on ALL the symptoms I've suffered my entire life I don't know if I am relived that I have a diagnosis, mad that it took me so long to get this figured out, sad because I feel defective and broken.... so many emotions. I thought the only thing that being ADHD meant was that I couldn't sit still and couldn't focus. So many other struggles I have had in my life are symptoms of ADHD!
With my diagnosis I was advised to look at CHADD.org, buy a couple books for executive function, get a ADHD coach, and call my doctor for medication.
I have an appointment with a doctor for medication in another week. I found this forum from CHADD and I bought the couple of books recommended during my diagnosis about EF (one turned out to be for children- ADHD not paying attention to detail) and the other book is a workbook for EF, I have no idea what EF means for ME!
The coaching is around $4000 for 3 months, I can't afford that!
Any thoughts and suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Welcome to the forum. I got diagnosed at 45. I'm now 48.
You might start with the HowToADHD YouTube channel. The videos are relatively short, most on a single topic. There are lots of other good videos, some by people with ADHD, some by experts or clinicians who treat ADHD.
While there are several books out there, there's lots of information available for free, in the form of website articles.
Besides chadd.org, another very informative site is: ADDitudemag.com
Rather than a coaching program, you might try to find a local ADHD Coach. (Check the directories on both of those sites.) If you can find one, the rates might be more in your budget for individual sessions.
One thing to know about EF (Executive Functioning), is that to get as far as you have in life before getting an ADHD diagnosis, you must have found some way to compensate. Chances are, you're not hampered in every area of EF, and have found ways to use the ones you have adequately to somehow make up for the lack in others.
(Another thing to know about EF is that there's no consensus among ADHD professionals exactly what EF skills there are. There have been many sets of skills proposed over the last few decades. There's no expert who can tell you more about you than you can about yourself.)
Try to be patient with yourself. Try to be accepting of yourself. You're just starting out on this journey of self-discovery.