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[Artmann]

I am 67 years old and was diagnosed ADHD years ago. I stopped meds after five years or so and just recently started back again because my ADD is affecting my marriage. I feel alone and often hopeless. Meds alone are not working and so far therapy has not helped much.

[StoneJeweler]

Sorry to hear about your challenges. You did not mention what meds you are on, some work better than others and generics don't seem to work as well because the additives they put in each drug are different than the name brand and some additives are toxic. I am 70 and have been on and off these meds for a long time. I am taking vyvance now and it helps only a little. It's the difference between staying in bed most of the day and getting up and doing something. I am tired all the time and it is an effort to undo things, even my hobbies! I suggest trying a different drug, increasing dose, find a therapist that does help you--there are so many, but it really helps if they are knowledgeable about ADD. There are a lot of books about this subject, you tube has some interesting information. Eatting healthy is important, sleep,. If your wife is amenable, help her explore all the information with you. It is harder as you get older, do you have any other health problems. There is so much. I find it best to try something new, if it doesn't work try something else. We are all so different it is important that you keep exploring, and find out what works for you. Just don't give up.

[Artmann in reply to StoneJeweler]

Thanks. I am taking Adderall extended release in the morning (which I do think helps at work) and a smaller dose at night. I also take meds for anxiety and for prostate health. I am reading a lot lately, either books or on line. I do think there is a lot more good information than even a few years ago.

[StoneJeweler in reply to Artmann]

Yes there is. Good luck

[mrb3000]

Hey Artmann, sorry to hear about your troubles. I can offer no solutions, except for the fact that you are not alone. I have been living with ADD for 38 years know and know all to well the trouble it can cause in life and marriage. ADD is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to live with now. I wish you the best.

[Curly_Adelaide]

Sorry about your struggles with relationships. Could you please tell how ADHD affects your marriage? And why do you feel alone? Because your spouse don't know how ADHD works? And you need somebody to share this things?

I hope, you'll find a help here, and as well as friends