Communication Disconnect is Frustrating!

[Codebox42]

As a follow up to a previous post made some years ago, one of the most frustrating things to me as someone with ADHD is trying to communicate on a decent level. Like to articulate my stance, let me provide a scenario. "Say you're in a group of people and a conversation about any life, any life subject you can possibly muster, could be something as simple as what they did yesterday or some past experience, you also provide your perspective, but it never feels as if your response matters as much as others who seemingly garner a much more broad reaction compared to yourself, it feels almost as if anything you say is ignored. Why does it always feel like you're treated different? Even if the person's intent isn't to do that, it just feels that way

Even when surrounded by groups of people you can still feel completely alone, which to me is an everyday feeling and while I admittedly cry from the mood swings that come from the constantly loneliness, in person you just get so use to being ignored or treated differently, you just gain the lens of suppressing what you internalize, which is what even most positive days can feel like, at least to me. At best I just suppress everything to push forward with the day.

And I can't blame the person, it's just that it never feels like you're on the same field of experience or conversation like everyone, and experiencing someone with ADHD who has been sheltered, that combination can actively worsen the condition interactively. All this can make it hard to have friends unless the opportunity is given to you, does anyone have this type of experience? For me it's not as big of a challenge, but still a daily one I face regardless of what steps I make to try and improve. This is even worse when your symptoms are on full display and find it hard to communicate how things that seem like they would be easier to voice are actually not as given to us.

[almiclou]

I relate to this 🥺❤️

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I’m newly diagnosed ADHD, within about a month. My challenge is to not talk too loud, or too much. I’ve been telling my close friends. When we see one another, I offer my full attention to them first, asking that they share anything important in their life. I try to be very intentional in making eye contact, and hyper focus on them. I want to be able to show that their life is important to me, although I have brain issues that cause distraction and forgetfulness. I ask for those close to me to be honest! I ask them to tell me if I’m talking too loud in a public place. I actively try to write things down that I think of, so I won’t forget. It seems to calm down the urgency to interrupt. When you explain things to people, it helps.