Women and ADHD

[Enoch64]

My partner is a woman diagnosed with ADHD at about 36 of age. I'd like to know whether you think there is a difference between men and women as far as ADHD is concerned. I am on the impression that, although it might not be due to ADHD, this condition brings to the fore some of our preconceptions on what a person should do or not according to her/his gender/sex. The issue of violence for instance might be different for men and women as a violent man is more socially "acceptable" than a violent woman. Impulsiveness is also another issue.

I can understand these problems because I, too, have some problems of my own and, sometimes, the consequences of these are close enough to those of my partner - which doesn't mean life is easy... Quite the contrary because I do have problems with violence and self-assertiveness.

I'd love to hear from anyone about these issues, really, because that would help me. I love my partner, but I do have problems with some parts aspects of that condition, and she herself uses to say that her personality does not go along with ADHD - ADHD is not a part of her personality.

[BTV65]

I'd love to hear more detail on that comment. It's not part of her personality.

ADHD seems to be a grab bag of various symptoms. Some people have more, others have less, often they aren't all the same and even when they are, they can be worse is some than in others. On top of that, the symptoms often get worse as we get older. That could be because some other part of our brain was balanced against it, so it didn't impact us as much and now that part is no longer doing as well.

I had ADD from an early age, but with some school support I was able to do well. I went on to college, got a good paying job and was a 100% functioning member of society into my 30s. However, as I approached my 40s, little issues started to become bigger issues. My wife told me "you weren't like this the first few years I knew you". It just kept getting worse, but I had no clue what it was or where it was coming from. When our son was in 2nd grade and suffering pretty bad from his ADHD, we finally figured out that I was also having some of the same problems.

My wife has ADHD, but she is brilliant and her brain automatically compensated for many of the symptoms. She was always sharp as a whip with a memory that was amazing. As she got into her 30s and 40s, even she began to see the symptoms interfering more and more with her everyday life as well.

Perhaps if you grow up with it from a young age, you just assume these issues are part of your personality.

[AmazonGiant]

I know there are a few differences...the most memorable to me is ....what would a man/woman typically do if they realized the forgot about a big project until right before bed the night before? Basically they say typically a young man would be more likely to say F-it and cover up and go to bed, while the women are more likely to stay up all night making sure it is perfect.

Here is one article although I would search “differences between men and woman with adhd” or “male vs female adhd” or similar as many things come up now, although 10 yrs ago didn’t have near what we do now.:

bustle.com/p/5-ways-adhd-is...