Touchy about Love life/ partner? and any addictions? Maybe pot?

[JimWalter]

Hello all,

Just want to check if anyone with ADHD feels very sensitive about love life? Very hard to connect and very hard to lose kind of feelings?

Hard to connect with people and make friends might be true with many ADHD people, but I want to know if that's an enhanced level of feeling about the partner you love? I still feel bad about my breakup (more than 2 years ago). FYI, that was my first and only love of my life. I know some people got over it, but I am not changing. The process of thoughts and feeling fading away is very slow.

And any thoughts about Pot? or Alchocol? I love Pot, I feel like doing it regularly, I am in any way shape or form to be called an addict because I am a responsible person and also gave drug tests 4 times (all passed). But just feel like doing it when the sun goes down, there was a point I smoked 3 to 4 time of ganja a week (4g a week). For me, it's still too much, and I know I shouldn't, but after I moved to a place where it is not legal to smoke, I quit. It has been 4 months straight no nothing.

I do not have the same feeling about alcohol but, relatable and replaceable 😉

[BlueDaydreamer]

JimWalter, I feel sensitive about my friends (which is hard to keep track of, honestly, so I lose friends when I get overwhelmed by other things), I am very sensitive about my divorce from my first husband. I still feel guilty, even though he was verbally abusive and emotionally and sexually abusive. I'm glad I'm out of it, truthfully. But it took me years to get out of it because I was so serious about my commitment, even after I realized he was abusive. I think being put on medications helped me to understand and remember what was going on, and starting to write poetry about it. But I've read a bunch of books on ADHD that mention a lot of people with ADHD self-medicate, with alcohol or marijuana. Are you on meds for ADHD right now? I think, about the relationship that ended 2 years ago, that you are probably ruminating, which is the flip side of hyperfocus. Perhaps if you could work on your social life, spending time with friends, or dating other people, and you were on medications(mention to your doctor that you seem to be stuck in the grief of your previous relationship) that might help you to move on? I do know that when I want to wallow, it takes an outside force to help me get past things. Especially loss of a loved one, whether that be through breakup or death. Hope this helps. Take care!