Am I doing too good?

Hey all, so I’m in college now and I’ve been doing well my last two quarters. I got a 90% in math and a 97.6 in English. I’m glad, but I am so afraid that it’s too good to be true. I worry that I won’t always do well and one day I’ll get an F. And I don’t know how I can stop worrying. I know that I probably will do okay, but I worry I won’t and I feel like maybe other people aren’t doing so well in life and I feel bad for doing well. Any advice?

[Iside]

Yes, clear your mind . It’s normal to have negative thoughts, you’ll grow out of them as your confidence improves & pills won’t help you for everything. I nor any of my friends & colleagues have ever been down the road your on, it wasn’t available and we were never of that mindset we just got on with life. Try it, it works with verbal help, let us know how you get on? Cheers Iside

[Laykonyde]

Wel done for doing so great in college. I didnt even get anywhere close to this scores while i was in college so, you deserve a pat on the back.

Sometimes when we do so well we wonder if we can keep the pace up. But one thing im so sure of is, if you keep working hard theres no way you cant maintain the scores, and if you dont maintain the scores it doesnt really matter as long as u are doing your best.

We all have moments in life when we dont do so well, and equally we have moments when its other way round. Pls, enjoy every success you get because it doesnt happen at all times.

Most folk who arent doing so well at the moment want to hear good news not negative news which can further drag them doon!

[winnifred1966]

This sounds like something that I would say and feel, then I would worry myself into a frenzy. I’m newly diagnosed, at 54 so I don’t know a lot about ADHD. However; they (the experts) say that ADHD has a spectrum and some people have mild symptoms and others more severe. I think it’s worth checking into and it might ease your mind. I tried to copy and paste the website but it wasn’t taking me to the right spot. I just googled “does adhd have a spectrum”. I also highly recommend that you talk to your doctor and or a psychologist/psychotherapist/psychiatrist who specializes in ADHD. It’s fine to google, but we have to be careful because not all information out there is accurate. If it is a case that your symptoms are less severe then I say good for you! Embrace it. I totally understand how you feel for the people who are more severe and suffering. That’s part of your ADHD because our emotions are controlled by our ability to regulate them. There may come a time in your life when you can give back and be able to help others. You never know what life will bring. In the meantime continue doing well in school and in other areas of your life, who knows maybe you will become a psychiatrist or psychologist who specializes in ADHD . Take care😀

[LifeIsLearning]

I did quite well through most of college while undiagnosed. Some classes draw our attention so well that our brains hyper-focus. Other classes are actually easy (though we were told college would not be easy). And some professors personalities and routines fit better with our feedback needs. You may hit other semesters that just don't go as smoothly. Take one day, one semester at a time. Enjoy this one as much as you can. Those great grades may help average out some less amazing ones and that's ok. The same approach goes for any friends who are having a tough semester. The next one might be better, so don't give up or take on an "it's all my fault" view. Life is usually a blend of factors. Do your best, focus on thankfulness. And consider praying for and then letting go of the things you can't control.

[Wildbrain]

Congratulations on the great grades! It feels great, right?! 🎊

When your life is going well, I encourage you to enjoy the time and share your joy with others! There is little time to feel guilty when you are engaging with others. There will always be some that need your help. COVID makes this harder. But I hope you can find creative ways of being with friends and family!

Here’s something that came to me as somewhat of an epiphany after years thinking about fear:

For a long time I believed fear and worry are unavoidable and natural. And for that reason they couldn’t really be wrong. But what I am realizing now is that fear is the outcome of _lack of action_.

When you _take action_ on your expectations of something negative, you will have no time to worry and be afraid. What do you need to do to ensure don’t get an F ? Is there an action you can take right now? Your first answer may be “well no, duh, I’ll only take those courses in the future...” But think about it some more. Is there any thing you could do right now?

It is common we feel we have no control and then feel worried. But if we focus our attention on the control we DO have, even if it seems small, that if far more useful than only worrying.

Wishing you lots of joy and less worry!