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Consistency thou art heartless and seemingly out of reach

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Hey gang,

Have you ever had what seems like a healthy conversation between your partner that ends with a solid game plan on how to better communicate, only to crash and burn it a day or two later?

This being said, are there good tips on maintaining consistency?

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Musicteacher2013

Communication? It's a two way street.

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mobius171 in reply to Musicteacher2013

absolutely. w both understand that. however, I am having trouble sticking to our new communication routine.

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iWasSunshine

Mobius171,

I relate to this 1,000%

My ADHD coach has a podcast episode that I think will help answer your question (because, let’s face it, we’ve ALL been there and could use all the help we can get!)

The key is being persistent. You won’t be able to be 100% consistent- you have ADHD!- so strive for persistence.

The other thing I try to do in conversations where my husband and I make a plan is to write it all down so that I have a visual that I can refer back to. (He hates it when I take the time to write it down in the middle of the conversation, but it helps in the long run!)

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Hope that helps!

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hugsnstarwars in reply to iWasSunshine

i like that. strive for persistence not 100% consistency.

get back on that horse, and we'll try again. <3

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Colorado387

For a minute I thought my non- ADHD partner found this site and posted...except I blew up (possibly permanently) our relationship THAT AFTERNOON!

I was having a bad day and had a nasty RSD episode, he talked me down, came up with a plan for the underlying problem we had both noticed, great talk! Had a nice middle of the day, but around 5pm I messed up something I was cooking, got upset, thought he was judging me...etc, etc. I pushed really hard and made it worse. His anxiety hit his limit and everything exploded. So far I haven't been able to mend it. I've been staying at my parents' house and after a few days he flew out to see his family.

😪

I love the idea of writing the plan down from iWasSunshine. I'm also going to give that podcast a listen.

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