Any help here?

[ManyMilesTraveled]

I have a hard time making friends and maintaining relationships. I've held over 40 jobs in 10 years and moved to 7 different states. I find myself being bored at anything almost after 6 months. The only constant I have is my fiance. How do I stabilize and lay down roots

[itsme-ithink]

I can empathize and have been in the same boat - I have literally had over 100 jobs in my life (I made a list once, that took me over a month to remember all those jobs!) and it took 6 tries before I could make college stick. I literally have no friends - just my wife and kids.

I haven't solved the social question, but I found stability in having kids and buying a house. I hate the routine of it all, hate being a home owner (too much stuff to do all the time), hate my job, and am constantly bored by all of it. Oh and routine absolutely sucks!!! I'm also dreading when my kids get older and start dragging me into their social stuff, or worse, start having their friends to my house. I want them to have a normal life, but I'm also selfishly hoping that they are socially-awkward loners! Not looking forward to that noise and chaos that will come if they are social butterflies!

Anyway, yeah I hate home ownership and all of the obligations that come with it. That said, I hate renting even more. As a home owner, I do what I want with my house, I never liked the idea of giving away my money for a "home" that I can't freely make my own. For the other stuff, providing for my kids, trying to give them a "normal" life, and wanting to keep my home (i.e., mortgage payments) keeps me going to my job everyday (8+ years with my current company, but three different roles in that time). That said, my ADHD manifests in huge ways on a daily basis, and is very disruptive to productivity and success. I've learned to get by with clever manipulation and good BSing skills, rather than "normal" work processes. It's not to say that I'm proud of all of this, but it's what get me through life with this very challenging condition.

[ZimmyB in reply to itsme-ithink]

Damn dude. Not everything, but much of what you have stated sound like me. I have life long friends that I never talk to. I’ve lived in my home in a city an hour away from my hometown, for 12 years, in which I have never made any friends here. My only social contact with people stems from my kids social activities. I’ve pretty much ruined my marriage, in large part due to my Add and lack of emotion. I get burst highs when in social situations but have serious anxiety about developing relations beyond that. Wtf man.... I’m sick of this mental illness that no one else really can comprehend.

[JW621]

Wow. I feel the same. I learned better cognitive skills since I was diagnosed.