People won’t believe that I think I may have adhd?

[Flor1310]

I mean I really do think I have it. It’s my body. I understand the symptoms. I fit the criteria for almost all of them. I just need someone to believe me. Everything makes sense if I were to think of how I live my life in an adhd perspective. Maybe I’m overthinking or I’m crazy but I’m so sure that I have it. I can’t seek help because I know my mom won’t believe me enough to think I need help.

[JW621]

Go see a therapist

[JW621 in reply to JW621]

They will tell you do not assume or self diagnose.

[RollingThunder]

You might want to talk with your school counselor or nurse, they may have someone you can talk to. If you do have ADHD then That specialist will be able to convince your Mom.Let me know how that goes. Hugs 🤗

[MasterProcastinator]

Find an Adhd specialist psychiatrists, they will take your concerns seriously. I am speaking from my own experience, where my doctor wouldn't let me see a adhd specialist, because even though he admitted I probably had adhd, I was “too successful” and in no need of an evaluation. As a female where there was no such thing as adhd in women, when I was growing up, I learned (as many other girls with adhd) to mask my symptoms well.. My appearance was my perfectly groomed shield to prevent people from questioning my downward spiraling mental overwhelm.

Not knowing why the chaos inside was ruining my life, and dutifully accepted my doctors shallow assessment, and continued to endure ten painful and unhappy year's until I was so burned out that I demanded my doctor ( a different one) to let me be assessed for adhd.

In my country health care is free, but the general doctor has to refer you to a therapist. She (the therapist) was convinced I indeed had adhd with severe concentration difficulties after my first evaluation, she later told me. After that my life literally changed and did a 360 within the month of getting my diagnosis.

Point of my story is, none of my close network thought I had adhd, and as so many of us, I too was just advised to stop looking for an excuse, stop complaining and being lazy, and yes ; Just get it together, like everyone else had to. Added to the stigma adhd carry, I sense that some of my closest family still don't fully believe it. My bf even suggested I faked my evaluation, just to have an excuse...

Being diagnosed late in life, might be hard to accept for your loved ones. They just want to to be the person they know you are. And the dramatic change from being a depressed and hopeless mess to being super structured, disciplined and serious person, was possibly hard to take in.

This is how I feel. A loving parent, partner or friend probably doesn't want you to change. They seemed to want me to be the hopeless ( and entertaining ) mess I always had been. Of course still loving them greatly, in this situation their opinions really doesn't matter.

I don't know how old you are, but after I finally got my diagnosis at 35, I had a hard time coming to terms with how I could have been spared for the immense sadness I endured and how different my life would be, had I not been refused to talk to a specialist those ten plus years earlier.

Ps. I'm over that long ago! Now all I see is blue skies ahead

So my advice is to listen to your gut, and persist in getting the evaluation. Good luck 🙌🏼

[Flor1310]

Thank you for all you support! I really really needed that. I’ll get checked when I can or after the school years done. Again I really thank you for the support! I hope you all are doing great and taking care of yourself

[BunnyJen90]

You're so lucky that others don't believe you when you say you have ADHD. I have the opposite problem and people keep thinking I have ADHD. However, I don't want to believe I'm so useless.