Hi, im a teenager and Im convinced I have ADHD, but even If I talked my mum about it and she called the neuropsychiatry department of the hospital there's no space left in there until next week and Im in a sort of a crisis since yesterday and I really need to talk with someone that can tell me what's happening.
Do you know if there's anything like a free online psychological counseling?
Sorry for any grammatical error but I'm not English and even though I can fluently speak and write in English I'm so upset right now
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Sorry to see nobody has answered yet. What do you mean by no space? Are you suicidal or is there something else going on besides ADHD? Hang in there. What country are you in?
Hi thanks for answering, i'm italian and by no space i mean they can't take appointments at the moment, so i have nobody who can verify if i really have adhd or if it's something else
I can’t help with online counseling, but you seem to be trying to go through your current crisis alone. Whether the root of that crisis is ADHD or something else, please talk to your family about how you’re feeling. You’ve already convinced yourself that getting help will be impossible, which is, indeed, a behavior highly associated with ADHD. Whatever the cause of your crisis, seeking help and support to get through it will be very important. Finding this site is a good first step, but I believe you will need more immediate and personal interactions. I don’t know what your family relationships are like, which will be a big factor in moving forward, but I hope you can trust your mom’s love. I’m so sorry you are going through this and send you all my best wishes
you're so sweet, thank you so much i already talked with my mother (my dad doesn't believe i may have adhd ._.) and i'm really trying to express how i feel when i talk to her. i don't live with her since october for some other reasons but we get along well
Hello thereDon't know where you're located, but online hep is available. Zocdoc does Telemedicine and you could also look at ADDitude magazine online where they list psychiatrists worldwide
I Used 7 cups its amazing they even have group chats I have add too I speak on 7cups sometimes when I need it and its free but there is the paying version too 7cups.com/ and there is an android and ios app too.
I sometimes use 7cups, but be careful with listeners. Most aren't really "trained professionals" like real crisis hotline personnel. If you're lucky, you find a good one. If not, you could have pretty unpleasant experiences. Remember it's not your fault. It's not trained personnel. It's random guys that may or may not understand your issue and even may or may not take the bother to answer the call or carry on the conversation until the end. Knowing this can make the difference on 7cups
I’ve called this helpline before when I needed someone to talk too. It’s free and tou are talking to a certified counselor within a few minutes. They do want to ask you questions to be sure you’re not suicidal but they’re just there to talk to you. It was extremely helpful for me.
1-888-692-9355
It’s part of NY state. I don’t think they ask my address, or cared where I live.
Assuming hbu to mean "how about you" - and I'm not entirely sure - I hink I'm fine. Just the diagnosis helped me A LOT. Feeling deeply different is part of the c-ptsd I developed, and it's so relieving to know that it's "just" adhd, I'm not a monster, a demon spawned plague on this earth. I'm currently filling my life with alarms for everything, trying to stick with a routine, and mostly succeeding. Feeling hopeful and positive 😊
No problem at all! How are you feeling? I find my “crisis” moments don’t last too long. Some of the feelings linger but the score phase is usually pretty short. Hopefully it’s the same for you.
I find with adhd so many of our problems are because we can get stuck on negotiate thoughts in our head and then we hyperfocus on it. Hyperfocus can be thoughts, just as much as it can be actions. For me when I’m hyperfocusing on an action, I can’t stop the action. I HAVE to complete it before the drive eases up. This of course is much better once you start medication. But when you hyperfocus on thoughts, especially negative ones, there often isn’t an end to the thoughts. They can keep running and running making you more and more upset or depressed. For that reason, I feel like it’s good to acknowledge that, sometimes we are our own worst enemy. Hyperfocus on negative thoughts is rarely productive. I feel like they are seldom resolved, you just eventually move on. For that reason, when I start to hyperfocus on negative thoughts I put all the effort I can possibly muster into breaking it. Hyperfocus can be hard to break. I don’t both breaking many of them because they’re very strong but when it comes to negative thoughts I do try to break them! That’s different for everyone. Some ideas are to get outside, go swimming, hiking WITH people, socialize, do something that requires some concentration that you like to do. Maybe bake a cake or cook, groceries, the gym WITH people. You want to do something that engages you physically and mentally. Preferably with company. That prevents you from being alone with your thoughts. Once you think you broke the hyperfocus, then do something else for extra measure and keep doing things until you feel the urge has passed. It will pass. Somethings right away, sometimes after a few days.
I was undiagnosed for 40 years. Before I realized I had adhd I used to get depressed all the time!!! Eventually, somewhere around 30 years old, I realized that my negative thoughts were what caused my depressive episodes. I would start to think about something negative and it would usually spiral out of control until I wasn’t feeling well about life. I tried an experiment. I visualized myself at a fork in a road. I’m standing in the middle of the road and there are two ways in front of me. My thoughts want me to go down the dark, rocky road. It’s trying to push me down that road. But that road, I know, doesn’t lead to anything good. It’s never productive and it only makes my life more difficult. The other road is sunny and bright with flowers lining the path. So, I started trying to choose the bright path! Every time I felt the pill to go down the dark path I would say NO!! NO! IM NOT GOING DOWN THAT ROAD! In public I would say this in my head. Maybe even shake my head no a little. At home I would say it out loud. NO! I’m going up the good road. Then I would do something to “shake off the negative”. Anything! Change rooms, walk, pace, put on music that made me happy, get my favorite take out or eat some ice cream. Now that I understand adhd more I have refined how I choose things but it became effective! It worked! It didn’t work 100% of the time and it took some practice but I barely ever had anymore dark moments. It did work. Sometimes I would fight negativity for a few hours, other times it was a few days of saying no and pushing away the the dark path, but it worked.
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thanks for answering, i'm italian and by no space i mean they can't take appointments at the moment, so i have nobody who can verify if i really have adhd or if it's something else
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