Does anyone feel this.

I’m always overthinking. I always project the worst and . I always expect the worse. Most of the time the outcome is bad. I want to control my impulsive behaviors that leads to regret. For me that’s being stuck in a hamster wheel. Feel down today.

[NCflower67]

Take the same advice you gave me. Talk to yourself like a friend. This is only a season.

Tell me some things you feel would make you feel for a moment. My problem is, I start feeling bad, and keep my mind on myself which makes it worse. Need to try to find something that takes your mind off you. Call somebody? Play games? Write poetry?

Learn to stay, be in the present moment. You don't have a make any decisions about anything right now. Ponder on something you want to do, places you want to go.

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

Sometimes the closest ones or a loved one are usually my triggers. I’m setting boundaries

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

Yes thank you. I pull myself out with boundaries. I wish my wife understood me. That’s the frustrating part of it. I just need some who can understand me mentally. Thank you for waking me up with these negatives. Bless you

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

I’ll reach out to you. And wait for a reply. Thank you. It sounded beautiful.

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

Writing a journal. I pick my self back up. Thank you

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

I lost myself with your writing. I found your pic you posted so loving and so to my taste. I must apologize that I let myself create a bond. I should make this my wake up moment and move on to help others and to reinsure myself of own issues. Thank you and sorry that. Truly am.

[acrononymous]

You are not alone St47. I'm naturally optimist, and yet if I screw something up or forget something important or have an argument with someone, etc my brain will go into overdrive expecting the worst outcome and it will circle around those thoughts all day and all night.

If you don't have a therapist, one could help. Mine helps me slowly build systems and create strategies that help me be successful. they sometimes fail, but i've made progress.

Also, we do have a hamster wheel thread. I'd recommend reading it. You will discover that you are in good company and most definitely not alone.

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Thank you for those encouraging words ! I hope you have a great day

[acrononymous in reply to Hidden]

you are very welcome. Hope your day was great, too! I find I deal with my own symptoms better when I'm encouraging others. It reminds me I am not alone and helps me remember my own strengths

[Emerald-Eyes in reply to acrononymous]

Where is the hamster wheel thread?

[acrononymous in reply to Emerald-Eyes]

It’s called Stuck on a Hamster Wheel? Just put Hamster in the search box and you can find it

[Hidden in reply to Emerald-Eyes]

Not sure.

[Aviarie in reply to acrononymous]

When my meds don't help and can't get out of a mode my Dr rxn is a sedative one time and it works

[Hidden]

Just have to give thanks for now

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So what’s going on for the weekend for you?

[Billy50]

My Dad had ADHD. The symptoms with him was difficulty being socially normal, weak attention span, tending to rattle on about things that interested him, not easily showing emotions and empathy, lack of confidence following instructions. I seemed to inherit these traits. Was it learned behavior, or a neurological condition? All I know was that I was always socially inappropriate, sort of a Dennis The Menace, but not as shrewd and sharp about it. I was just always day dreaming, getting lost, acting up at the wrong time, interrupting people, being moody, being depressed, being anxious, being hyper, and suddenly doing something that caused shock and punishment. It also did not help that on both parents sides, if not having ADHD, being outsiders. At least three generations of outsider peoples who never had strong or basic connections in a community. My parents were in Academe - Universities - which is usually a subculture that is outside mainstream society. Wherever we moved, we were outsiders. We did not even move that far over my childhood, but it was far enough to be outsiders wherever we lived.

My whole psyche as a kid was zero. There was no Mr Myagi from the Karate Kid, either, to help me out. I was on my own, and pushed so far down that I did not even feel like I really existed. I wish I had someone who could have pushed me, so I did not spend so much of my adulthood having bad flashbacks about being humiliated in one way or another. And into adulthood, it went. I missed every milestone of normalcy in life. That means being socially acceptable. By high school, it was too late. I was one of the least known and least popular kids in the entire high school. It was not that I was some nerd. I was hyper and even got asked by the wrestling and football coach to join the wrestling team. My parents said "No", and that was that.

Dates? Forget about it. Although, I am not Brad Pitt, I am a pretty good looking guy, but that mattered zilch. One look from even the ugliest, least popular woman and they saw "insecure, unsettled, weird, lacking confidence, addled, hyper, not cool and calm". I do not know much about women, but if you lack these things kiss all dates and all relationships "Goodbye". It is the same things with friends and acquaintances. I could not hang with any group. I could not sit there for hours with groups of people holding court and just being cool and hanging loose.

It has always been a cruel World, as your comments illustrate. I do not know why either. People are cruel. People are judgmental. People judge and write off within a minute. They meet you and they either trust you or do not trust you. You can be a great person, but they do not care. If you are weird and odd, forget about it. I know what you go through. It is every day or our lives with ADHD. I have a whole list of advice. I will put it on my own post. We can live. We may never be Chuck Norris. Chuck Norris is the ultimate in cool and calm. He has spent a whole life training to be that. Watch any Chuck Norris movie or TV Show and he always knows how to react in the best possible way. We with ADHD struggle. I exercise every day. I empower myself every day. Self talk to yourself. Build yourself up. Do not let the blue meanies take you. They get you down all the time.

[Aviarie]

Sounds like partly Aspergers to me not uncommon to have both! Anxiety, difficulty learning social skills?