Inability to make decisions/critical thinking (at home, not work)

[jschoolfailure]

Hello,

I was just prescribed Ritalin and has I've noticed some helpful effects, but the improvement has been minute. Previously, I'd been on Citalopram to great effect, but when my ADHD became troublesome, they upped my Citalopram to the max dose before finally giving me the stimulant. This caused me to be very tired, sluggish and depressed. I've felt better lowering my anti-anxiety medication on my own. I'm meeting with my doctor next week to talk about adjusting these doses. I was thinking about asking for an increased does of Ritalin while lowering Citalopram. I was curious anyone else has had this issue. I know finding the balance takes time, but any guidance would be helpful.

I've also noticed that my super data-heavy job that requires serious attentiveness hasn't been as much of a problem through this process, but my relationship with my wife has suffered greatly. Anytime I'm overwhelmed, it always hurts her. Anytime I need to make decisions on my own, I can freeze up and hurt her. I'm working to get the meds right, but the results aren't there yet. And it's hurting my wife, much more so than work.

Thanks,

[quietlylost]

When it comes to work and relationships, there may be bigger issues at hand than just the ADHD. With regards to ADHD, what symptoms do you think are at play and interacting with things? Is it mainly the inability to be motivated or stay focused on details? Or are you unhappy at work?

In your relationship, what is it that upsets your wife? How long has that dynamic been going on?

What are you hoping the ADHD medication will help with? Sometimes we have expectations that it will do things that it can't, so it's good to take an inventory of our goals and expectations to see if they're attainable or realistic.

[jschoolfailure in reply to quietlylost]

Getting overwhelmed; that's my issue at work. Though very infrequent, that can prove very problematic.

The problems are much more frequent with my wife; being forgetful, unable to follow through with tasks, doing a bad job prioritizing what needs to be done, poor communication due to fear of miscommunication, among others. I'm hoping the medication will increase focus to improve the aforementioned.

[Dison]

I have posted this several times. I need exercise, sleep, meditation besides my medication. I'll be doing the meditation in a few minutes when I am finished writing this post. I have been lagging behind. I swam today, had an excellent night's sleeep, and took my meds. I am still in a fog. The solution, I believe, will be meditation. I am beginning to educate my friends about ADHD with good results. I am happy; yet, they cannot know the "hell" we sufferers go through. It is such an emotional support to be on a site with felllow ADHD folk.