Spouse of ADHD husband

[zaymohsan]

Any partners of ADHD adults in this community! Am a new member and I'd like to hear some of your experiences/challenges dealing with your partners and that have ODD aswell xx

[CPriddy]

Hi, yes. My husband is ADHD. That is why I’ve joined. I’m learning more. The symptoms I see are forgetfulness, spontaneity, and an inability to focus.

[zaymohsan]

Hi! Any difficulties of communication with him and does he suffer from odd aswell like anger and moodiness?

[Hidden]

Hi Zaymohsan, I can speak from the other half of this equation: I officially drive my other half crazy and he can be stressed out by me and the things I do. I get temper tantrums, forgetful, and start five hundred projects at once. It's been very difficult for him so I got checked out by a neuropsych doctor to diagnose me; I just finished the eval tests a few days ago and hopefully, when I begin treatment after my follow up, that will make our lives a bit easier and less hectic. I wish I could tell you what the secret is to making it better but I don't yet know it.

[zaymohsan in reply to Hidden]

My other half is driving me mad! TBH with you if his ADHD was only related to attention deficit disorganisation and forgetfulness etc I would be able to manage but my issue is the ODD side where he is always angry, always want to start argument, gets moody as soon as he wakes up and is aggressive sometimes! These symptoms are life/marriage threatening. He is on meds at the moment the outburst and the anger episodes kinda decreased but they didn't change and he is still giving me a hard time.

[gnpjammer]

zaymohsan, our situations sound very similar. I have an ADHD husband who is very impulsive, yells a lot, and insists on telling me I'm borderline personality disorder (I do struggle with depression but not mania and the therapists I've seen have NEVER diagnosed me with BPD... but spouse thinks he's smarter than all therapists. We have two little kids and if my older one was easier to deal with (he has ADHD and emotional dysregulation issues), I would have walked away awhile ago. I'm growing to hate my spouse.