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Know the symptoms of ADHD as a parent

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Before knowing the treatment or cure you should know about cause. ADHD is basically Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder which is one of the neurodevelopment disorder. This disorder usually found in child or teenagers. If you are aware of ADHD then you must know the symptoms.

Symptoms:

- Inattentiveness

- Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness

As a parent you can:

- Teach your child better time management

- Teach your child better organization

- Appreciate your child's small efforts also

- Don't scold everytime to your child for his mistakes

- Give effective tips for your child mistakes improvement

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Knitting20projects

There is no cure for ADHD. Not with medication or parenting. About 65% of children with ADHD continue to have the diagnosis into adulthood. It’s not known who among children will not have the full criteria as adults to still retain the diagnosis. Unless you have discovered a way to increase dopamine and norepinephrine levels in specific areas of the brain in ADHD that need it, you haven’t cured it. If you have, I’m all ears!!!

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ethansmith in reply to Knitting20projects

Thank you so much for your response on it. First of all I shared a few information or tips to cure your child at general level. And there is nothing that you can't change with your right parenting into your child's behavior. Just have some tries without expecting results and you will automatically seeing results in near future.

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ADHD_DAD in reply to ethansmith

I am going to reply to you once again with patience and kindness because I have come to understand that certain conditions make empathy, or even understanding how the things you do or say are perceived by others, very difficult. Please understand that your comments are myopic and can be demoralizing to some. You will find much disagreement in posts (often triggered simply by the fact that there is no one size fits all treatment for ADHD) about what is most effective, but almost without exception, the parents who post and respond here are doing so in an effort to help their child manage a lifelong condition. This is what good parents do. Your repeated reference to "right parenting" suggests impercience and hubris which seems particularly misplaced since your responses have acknowledged that you are not a parent, much less the parent of a child with ADHD. Please consider whether your contributions here are consistent with the supportive nature of this community. Thank you.

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Knitting20projects in reply to ethansmith

Actually, there are many things in my children’s behavior I cannot change with the “right parenting.” Happily, I have the evidence-based scientific information about their conditions and the life experience to know I’m correct in their case only. Please read the administrator’s post and understand your comments may cause some members of this community sadness or pain. Thank you.

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ADHD_DAD

I truly hope that you mean well with your post. If not, this is not the place for you. My son was diagnosed at age 7 and has received some pretty good parenting, but guess what? He's now 17 and STILL has ADHD. Please be open to the possibility that for most of our children, much more is needed (like medications and accommodations at school to name just 2) than parenting. If you meant well with your post, I wish you well.

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ethansmith in reply to ADHD_DAD

Yes I really meant with my post and advice. I feel sorry that your child is suffering from ADHD, I wish he will be fine sooner. Basically sir the fact is alone parenting can not cure to the ADHD. ADHD is an impactful disease which is difficult to cure but my only intention to share such information is to aware some parents with the right parenting. I hope you are understanding my point and I pray to god for your son's better recovery.

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ADHD_DAD in reply to ethansmith

Thank you. Hopefully, the responses let you know how your post was perceived. There are certainly many who do not have children with ADHD who do, indeed, perceive the symptoms to be behavior (as opposed to symptoms of a medical diagnosis) and blame the parents or parenting for those symptoms. I, and others, perceived your post as a suggestion (see the title of your post) that ADHD can be cured with parenting. I wish that were true, but, alas, it is not. I think you'll find as you read posts of members of this community that despite the best of parenting, their child STILL has ADHD. I am happy for your sake that you are convinced that yours is the "right parenting." Thank you for your well wishes. I wish the best to you and your child as well.

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Onthemove1971

I am not sure the owner of this original post was created by a person who is raising a child with ADHD daily. There are so many more "symptoms" than listed. This parenting journey has been so so hard, and since I only have one child I have no idea what it would be like to raise a child without these issues. There is no way changing how we parent would "cure" ADHD. Maybe the message is meant to discuss tips to help deal with children who have ADHD.

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ethansmith in reply to Onthemove1971

Yes, you are absolutely right that I have no child but I hope you understood my exact point for sharing this post. Thank you for your time.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to ethansmith

Please serious read every comment! ! You can't imagine what we parents go throught.. it is much more complicated and painful than your simple post.

Please also read the administrative post...this is our lives.

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Onewithcoffee

Interesting thought. I honestly might have thought this. But, now just diagnosed with ADHD at 38, with parents that had the thought of 'just more discipline' would help. I can share a bit of my experience here growing up. It's a bit different than what you are probably referring to, my parents didn't know I had ADHD, they just thought I was 'sensitive', 'shy', and had no 'common sense' etc. Growing up I had these same thoughts. I've tried many different 'cures' that you are referring to above for myself after I left for college. Teach your child better time management

- Teach your child better organization

I have bought probably 5 different types of planners each year, thinking THIS would be the one to help me with time management. Bought different digital assistances (PDAs) and read books on organization. They helped for a bit, but I could never stick to them (and didn't know why) so they agitated me and I moved on.... then bought something new to help.

- Appreciate your child's small efforts also

This didn't really help. my parents did this, and it seemed condesending at the time. While it was a small outcome, the perceived effort was monumental. So when i compared this to others, it felt demotivating.

- Don't scold every time to your child for his mistakes

This one, didn't help. Because no matter how much praise, support or discipline. No one was a harsher critic than I was on myself.

- Give effective tips for your child mistakes improvement

This made my reaction to the previous bullet worse. Usually tips were very simple. And since i would forget, i'd scold myself for forgetting something so simple.

I spent years looking identifying my challenges and trying to find tips/hacks to overcome them. For example, in college I had a hard time reading. It was hard to stay concentrated on some textbooks. I had to re-read them over and over. I tried highlighting as a I read, only the 'important parts'. Or tried taking notes as I read, 'paraphrasing'. But I noticed after chapters that I was highlighting the whole chapter/section or had just copied each line of text onto my notepad. It helped, but it required SO much time and mental energy. There were multiple 'hacks' like this this I have lived with and it wasn't until last year that I realized that I was using ALL of this extra time and energy to understand or produce something that someone else could do easily without all these tricks. And I was drained.

It's similar to needing glasses and choosing not to wear them. Ya it could be done, you could get around and be functional. But everything is so much harder. Glasses are a great tool to help put you on a level playing field.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to Onewithcoffee

Thank-you for your message.

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ethansmith in reply to Onewithcoffee

Thank you so much that you make an effort to share your personal and practical experiences. It will definitely help people to understand my points as well as with your experience.

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Dear ethansmith:

Thank you for contacting CHADD's National Resource Center on ADHD. While behavioral parent training is not a cure for ADHD, it is an evidence based treatment that has been shown to improve ADHD symptoms in children.

If you are looking for research based information about ADHD including behavioral parent training, you can find out more information here:chadd.org/wp-content/upload....

There are a number of parent training programs available including:

The Incredible Years: incredibleyears.com/

CHADD's Parent to Parent Program: chadd.org/parent-to-parent/

Parent Child Interaction Therapy: pcit.org/

Triple P-Positive Parenting Program: triplep-parenting.com/us/tr...

If you have further questions, please let us know.

Sincerely,

Jami

ADMIN

Health Information Specialist, Manager

CHADD's National Resource Center on ADHD

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