Yesterday, a pair of neighbor siblings told my son they “hate him” and “aren’t allowed to play with him anymore.” I’ve reached out to the mother via text to ask if there’s anything she would like to talk about but haven’t heard back yet. One of the kids said to my husband during a different interaction that my son is often hitting kids during play, so perhaps that’s the reason.
My son is definitely rough, but from his point of view it’s done out of play, not anger or frustration. Still, the other kids have a right to not be hit and we’ve talked with him at length about keeping his hands to himself.
So, now what? This could be seen as a natural consequence, and/or a chance to accept that in life not everyone is going to like us. But how can we help him keep his hands to himself? And what happens when all the neighbor kids are playing together; should my son be excluded or the child whose mother doesn’t want him to play with mine?