I’d like some advise, maybe parents who’s children also used to talk to themselves and now they stopped and manage to internalise dialogue rather than have it loudly.
My son is nearly 10, of course when he was smaller he talked to himself in play etc but now he’s nearly 10 and he still can’t internalise it. He goes out to the garden on his own and he’s practicing his football whilst pretending that he’s a sports commentator at the same time. He plays on Nintendo and talks to himself. He goes to bed and he talks to himself. Also I noticed that when he has more stress he does more of it.
He even does it now on the way back from school- instead of chatting to me he’d do some ‘rapping- rhyming’ . He likes hip hop music… But it’s a lot of gibberish what he produces. From distance it looks like a lunatic talking to himself.
Now his swimming coach the other day had like this ‘feeling sorry for me’ looks when I asked her how he’s doing. She said he’s fine but he is talking to himself or his imaginary friend whilst swimming. I then looked next time through the glass and I could see his lips moving all the time when he swims on his back. I asked him later about it and he gets very angry with me and he said he was ‘tapping’. He doesn’t t understand that he will have even greater stigma if this will fully become his habit and when he can’t control it. I noticed already that he’s sort of not aware that he’s doing it…
He is already bullied at school and I am in a process of moving him. I’d like him not to bring attention to himself in this way at the new school. I’d like him to learn to internalise it and control it. So he didn’t do it in the public places like school etc.
Any evidence based strategies to teach kids internalising their dialogue?