Hi everyone - new to this wonderful group.
My 7.5 yo (he won't let me forget the extra half year!) was diagnosed with ADHD in the fall of 2019 while in a program at a local children's psychiatric hospital where the staff was attempting to counsel us through daytime enuresis/encopresis. He had a urologist at the local hospital and a therapist who was a member of the children's GI clinic.
He is now on medication that helps him focus and recognize his body's signals. My problem is this: my little man still has daily accidents, and the people who were helping us at the local hospital seem to have given up on us. They tell us to "keep doing what we're doing" (ie. Charts, timed bathroom breaks, 504 at school), but we aren't making progress. The therapist has stopped our sessions; I thought we had a good relationship, but when we ran into a brick wall trying to help his nighttime wettings (the other docs told us not to worry about nighttime until the daytime was settled, but the therapist said it was important so we did our best), she recommended we stop our regular appointments because "we seem to be doing well". The urologist has no advice other than to say he's healthy (they've run no tests, which may be appropriate given the situation, but I don't know). I'm to keep giving him miralax to prevent constipation, which was a problem for him when we started down this road.
I feel like I should be trying something more to help my son.
I live in the northeast U.S. Does anyone recommend any specialists or programs, or do you have any advice on next steps? Simply waiting and hoping and following the routines we've learned feels like I'm failing my son. We did that for years with the pediatrician ("just keep working on potty training - he'll get it"), and it's one of my biggest parenting regrets.
Thank you all, in advance, for any thoughts.