I’m new here. My daughter was diagnosed this year with ADHD. She is in kindergarten and was so excited so start school. A few weeks into school the teacher came to me saying she thought she had ADHD as she couldn’t sit still or stop talking and wouldn’t follow directions. Meanwhile at home she was having emotional melt downs about school and would tell me mom I don’t know why everyone stares at me, I don’t know why I can’t lay still at rest time or mom what’s wrong with me. She has cried her self to sleep while I sit there holding her multiple nights. I feel so helpless. We finally seen our pediatrician in October and started concerta. Teach seen a big improvement and so did we at home. About 40 day of taking that medication she refused to take the pill saying it made her feel funny or that she just didn’t want to take it. After seeing her doctor again she got a chewable concerta and all was well at least we thought... I had noticed while she was taking the chewable pill that she had started to withdraw from activities she normally like.. she wanted to stop dance and was happy laying on her bed all day.. it wasn’t till thanksgiving that I really noticed the side effects she was having.. she sat for over 2 hrs brushing a dolls hair during family thanksgiving dinner and then just wanted to leave and no be around people. Went to the movies the next day and she started crying but couldn’t tell me why. Sat at the Christmas parade on my lab and didn’t get up to get candy.. this was when I decided to stop this chewable pill we had an upcoming appt with her doctor and just needed 2 days of school to get to the appt. We still had some concerta on hand and tried to get the med down. We had one successful day and the next while I was trying to have her take her pill in the office the teacher came in telling my daughter she was wasting class time and needed to hurry up and get back to class... I was the least bit happy and took her back home with me for the day as the teacher proceeded to tell me that I was rewarding her by doing this. I think my child’s emotional well being is more important than any day of school! She doesn’t deserve to have a bad day because she can’t focus. Anyway she started a new pill that we can open up and just take the beads in apple sauce.. we made it to Christmas break with only a few melt downs. Fast forward to now a week and a few days since break and I feel like we’re back to square one.. she came home last week very tearful multiple times stating that she didn’t get to go to recess because she couldn’t finish her work so she had to stay in and finish it.. while she was explaining this she also tells me she’s afraid to ask for help in the classroom because other kids are told you need to do it yourself.. she also has been told that no no we don’t cry in the classroom.. when I asked the teacher about the recess I was told that it is her procedure and it’s a privilege to have recess. And she also went on to say once she’s held in the refuses to do her work... this makes no since to me why you would keep a child who is 5 with ADHD inside!! Why not let her get those wiggles out and come back ready to restart..
sorry this was so long just needed to rant as I feel like I have no one that can relate to our situation or that understands ADHD.