My 7 year old keeps attacking me do I send him to live with his father. I have tried everything he just seem to be getting worse

[Edwards021]

Struggling m, I have done rewards chart changes the way he parent he just seem to hate me.

[grannycares]

Sorry you’re going through this. Have you tried any counsel. Maybe his father can talk to him.

[Momrocket]

My son used to do this when he ate dyes. Are there any food correlations? He could have Pyroluria. This results in low zinc. My son was a model child when he got enough zinc. We found out about this in the book Nutrient Power. We went to Mensah Medical for assessment and treatment. I highly recommend both.

Does his father also have temper/anger/disposition problems? Pyroluria is pretty common and runs in families. Treatment was like magic especially for our son. With Pyroluria, B6 is also helpful for overwhelm.

Best of luck to you.

Lauren

[bdhb96]

No, I don’t think you should send him off to his father’s. His actions are a cry for help. You’d be sending him away, essentially giving up on him as it will seem to him, when he needs you the most. He’s out of control, he’s angry, he’s in dire need of help. He sounds like he has severe generalized anxiety which looks different in kids than it does in adults. For kids, anger (outward or self inflicted) are common ways to express anxiety. Especially if you have an active physical kid. There’s very effective meds for this, but get him started with a medical provider right away as it takes a month to even start seeing the effects. It’s a huge game changer by 3-4 months later. Don’t give up on him. If you do, then he will on himself as well. You’re his rock, his foundation. Don’t crumble on him. Stay strong, get him under the care of a prescriber ASAP and you’ll see improvements I’m sure!

[Cjkchamp]

Look into broad spectrum micronutrients

[Hidden]

I don’t know where you live but AI DuPont for Children offer’s conduct training therapy for parents and children. Highly recommend. My son has anxiety and adhd and this was a great program. I would also start him on omega 3’s - there is a great one that tastes like lemonade on amazon, Dr. Barlean’s. And a good multivitamin. I would not send him to Dad. If he doesn’t see him often or if a relationship isn’t encouraged - I would change that aspect but don’t give up on him. He needs you.

[Doglady28]

I’m sorry you are going through this. I am too. In fact, I just emailed his psychiatrist about the hitting and getting out of control. Clearly these meds are not the right ones for us. It’s hard to not feel defeated some days.

Don’t give up on your son. I know it’s difficult, but he needs you. Therapy, psychiatrists, school support...you need them all to just get thru it. Make sure you are doing things for yourself so that you can keep it together too.

You’re not alone in this. Happy Holidays.

[Revol13]

So sorry you’re having to deal with this! I found with my daughters aggressive behavior that very small doses of medications cognitive behavioral therapy and behavioral psychology made a huge difference. It was a lot of work and everybody had to be on the same page I also I’m separated from her father so it was a lot of work but she showed significant improvement after just two months.

[ThatCat]

My son was younger but also physically abusive. He has ADHD and anxiety. We tried tackling the ADHD first, and it was a disaster. So we switched to the anxiety: low dose prozac and low dose clonidine at night. Slowly, it got better. Anxiety is a constant sense of fear and disaster—you can see how it would make a child lash out. Another thing we did is called “parent-child interactive therapy (PCIT).” We learned how to relate better, and how to discipline effectively. You might ask his doc if such a thing is available. It is intensive but it works. The last thing: kids with ADHD are usually hardest on their primary caregiver. Unpleasant, but true. Their lives are hard, they are resistant to authority, so it makes sense. Good luck.

[Pennywink]

Wow - sorry to hear that! Maybe with a few more details, we can get you some more specific suggestions:

What diagnoses does you son have (I assume ADHD - any comorbidities?) What treatments is he currently receiving? Does he exhibit the same behavior at school?

[anirush]

MY teenage grandson started threatening this when we changed one of his medications. I immediately switched and we are now trying a different medication for his AFHD. Anger went away. Talk to your doctor, see a psychiatrist, find out what options are available.

[Alliea79]

My only advice is to pay attention and note the timing of the violence. For us our daughter effectively became someone we didn’t know. Someone angry and violent when she was “coming down” off of any and all stimulant medications. A good prescriber will be able to help pinpoint from there if you note the exact time you give any medicine and the time he gets wild.

[Jaset]

Hi there, sorry to hear you are struggling, are you guys in any kind on therapy? I think you need to figure out what makes him be the way he is with you, the only way to fix a problem is knowing the cause.

Good luck,

Carla