Ah yes, family. I only have my Dad. Love that guy. I now think he is hilarious -key phrase now. He is eighty. He looks 70. He likes women to think he is 50 and thinks he can get away with it. So, we'll go over there about 4:30. His huge golden retriever will bark like he's never see us before and try to take my shoes off my feet the whole time we are there. My Dad will greet us with "alright, alright, good to see you guys, get in here"- depanned. Then he'll knuckle my head like I'm 5. My daughter will use the painting app on my phone because he has no idea how to talk to anyone under the age of 25, but he'll give her a bag of change. He'll probably be on his 3rd glass of wine. He and I will talk about the women he's met in the past week at the car wash and how there are "really some GD beautiful women in this town" Well talk about his politics and the law. He starts every sentence with "Godd*ammit" Like "GD these terrorists, we're next! I tell you WE ARE GD next!". He'll tell me I really need to watch more FoxNews and that I can tape it watch it later (yeah, cause I have time for that). We'll sit down to dinner where hopefully my daughter will not cycle or freak out. She'll feed the dog all her food. The dog will attempt to get all my food by climbing on the table. He will have another glass of wine. We will eat my pie. Exactly one hour later we will leave. Exactly one and one a half hours later I will be in my sweats waiting for my frozen lemon oreos at 9:30.
Jealous. We drove from Maine to ct Friday afternoon and we have shared a small hotel suite until checking out today, spending more time at my uncles with the family (we did this Good Friday too). And now we are in the car. Again. Stilll. And I can’t stop for a second thinking how wrong I feel this whole trip without my best friend, my ride or die dog love that we lost almost two weeks ago. Also every word spoken irritates the hell out of me. Because I have an amazing hurt in my heart.
Yeah- today thank goodness I am home alone. Between the time with family that is always almost looking for a punching bag to let their own stresses out on (me), and just feeling a pain that is emotionally so strong it actually physically hurts in ways words can’t cover, as I try to process that my Bob is neither with me in the travel, nor will he greet me at the door with a face full of relief and overwhelming love that I’ve been spoiled by so long. And obviously mix that with calling my 12 year old daughter out on her lack of participation with the family unless it will directly benefit and reward her personally. And my answer/solution of taking away all schoolday use of internet. FYI- Camos, you are my hero and I told my husband how your daughter is still breathing even without a phone glued to her. Ahhhhhh
Fun morning, followed by frantic scramble to church. After service, a long drive finding the delicate balance of everyone being hungry now, yet a massive meal is waiting for us at our destination.
At this family, we go through a lot of motions - everything looks picture perfect, but much of the substance is missing. Dodging passive aggressive comments, most of which do not bother me expect then ones blatantly implying that they don’t feel my son has ADHD, nor do all of their friends. I believe they think this is actually helpful. Something sets off my husband, who then has an air of tension about him until the next morning.
We try to get out at a decent hour with bedtimes & school the next day, but our hosts are blissfully unaware of our time needs. So we don’t make it out in time. Which further makes my husband more tense. So we get home late, decide to rush through bedtime routines, despite this backfiring 84% of the time. It backfires again.
Then husband opens the door to finally discussing some of his mental health issues (which ultimately I feel is anxiety disquisged as a million other things.) I think this is great to finally talk - but once I suggest getting outside help, everything is quickly shut down. So - fingers crossed he’s at least thinking about it now!
So yeah - my day started off wonderful & has been a slow decline all day. At least the sun came out this afternoon & the kids were largely happy. 😊
OMG, thank you for that! I needed a laugh after today. It was like reading the script from a bad sitcom. I can just see your daughter's eyes rolled back inside her head. So, I now know what is worse than watching Fox News, the suggestion to 'tape' Fox News, like it was the Super Bowl or the 18th green at Augusta. Funny.
Me, hum...Let's see...three in my party: 12 yr old girl, husband and moi.
9-10am: get called a meanie psychopath by daughter b/c I won't let her buy something from Amazon to support her obsession of the month of baking with Fondant, although we all HATE fondant. 10-now: daughter still hates me, and doesn't want to go through the 'reflection questions' from Total Transformation. Even gave me some creative suggestions on what I could do with the 'reflection questions'. 12-2: Chisel hinges for daughter's new bedroom door. Chiselling sucks btw. She kicked a hole in the old one. 3-6: Have really boring guy that doesn't drink from work over for Easter dinner, b/c he has no family here. Not sure if he'd still be boring if he drank..ah ponder. That gave me a reprieve from vileness, b/c she'd be embarrassed if anyone else heard her talk the way she does to me.
6-7 attempt to shave off a few inches from new door with a table saw I have never used. Still have all fingers. Can't finish b/c husband has a stomach ache and I need him to hold the door for like 2 seconds so I can cut it. Put saw away.
7-9 Listen to barrage of how 'its her room, get out',..blah blah... when I asked what she was going to have for lunch tomorrow. BECAUSE: she was just diagnosed with Celiac disease last week, so I want to help her figure out what to bring. Of course i am not helping I am ruining her life. That's all. Nothing too exciting.
Oh my- it’s like all 12 year olds have a secret way to teach each other how to best leave parents scratching heads at “how did we get to this place?” “What is she thinking “ “why?!?!?” And other such reactions to them. We also have the daily turf wars when trying to have conversations of any substance, where she runs off to her room and demands to be alone. 🤯
Wish I could say we had a good or funny Easter but no. Twelve-year-old grandson did great for church and Sunday brunch out. Then started to have a meltdown when everyone came over for Easter egg hunting. Saying he wanted to die, aggravating everyone else. After an hour or so everyone left.
He went with my older daughter and I to a play that afternoon and was fine the rest of the day. But why do we have to have at least one meltdown over something every day.
Yes! I feel like with my son, sometimes the more people (that he knows) that gets added to the mix, the worse he gets. Keep it to one adult, suddenly he’s 80% better.
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