Just need to vent. I just lost it with my daughter. She had a bad week with the bipolar. I had a bad week with work and then having to make sure she is ok, blah, blah, blah. She is supposed to wear glasses and just refuses, so I tried contacts. She loves them. She went with her Dad (who sees her about 3 hours a week if that). The eye doctor told her, his assistant told her and I told her that she cannot take them out without her case. You guessed it she took one of them out and what? put it in her pocket. In her pocket. Then of course she lied about it. The pharmacy won't have her new meds for a few days because God forbid they have them in stock and of course I've been on the phone with the insurance trying to explain why we are changing again.
I am bone tired, just like most of us here, I am a single Mom. I had to do some errands at lunch and I noticed these people having lunch and they were laughing and drinking wine. I haven't done that in so long. I have a counselor and I see her next week. This journey is just full of so many one step forward, three steps back. And when I lose it then she loses it. I am not made of money and her Dad contributes nothing.
Sometimes I just want to have MY cry. I just want to have MY breakdown and be entitled to MY feelings as opposed to just waiting until she falls asleep to cry or waiting until I am in the car to cry with all those people looking at me like I'm all weird.
I love her with everything I am. I will do whatever it takes to make sure she is ok, supported and has everything she needs. I just lost it.
I feel like sometimes when I see people out laughing over drinks, I’m like “Hey - did that really use to be me?” Because it feels more like a dream I had. But I know I’ve been the weirdo crying in the car. There’s been times when I felt like my only guaranteed break was literally the drive to & from work.
So go ahead & vent - we’re here! And we’ll be here when you’re ready to pull yourself back up again. 😊
Oh sweetie. I’m so sorry. There is so much I will never make sense of. I’ll try to teleport some hugs and extra strength (because honestly you are damn strong to start with) your way. 🤗✈️
Please have a good cry! There are sometimes out of the blue I will jury cry. I am sure it would help. I just want to hug you, I know how hard it is and wish I could crawl into a cave alone..
Good luck to getting everything back on track.. maybe no contacts at dads until she can create the habit of putting them in a case with liquid.
I wish I lived near you so we could have a warn cup of coffee..
Much love at this hard time, you know it will get better.
Ugh. Please know you deserve some 'self-care' mom! You cannot be strong for your maddening daughter if you are not taking care of yourself. F the wine mom's, i call em the 'yoga pants size 2 gang'. They will never get you and vise versa. Gosh, i wish we lived in the same town, I'd be at your doorstep tonight with a bottle of red or white, whatever you like. Since that's not possible, here's my remote 'cheers' 🍷.
You guys are the best! Oh how I wish we all lived close enough to meet for coffee! Yoga pants size 2 gang - made me giggle. HUGS all around.
It is so amazing comforting (though so sad anyone lives this) that I/we are not alone in any way, shape or form. Easter... I lost track of the explosion bursts I have already had. We are in a hotel room together and the walls are closing in.
How do we explain this to other people? It’s Sat before Easter and I’ve had a glass of wine myself. I just ask.. how would other people understand our lives? It’s too unreal and it’s too hard to explain. I could never imagine this 20 years ago. I would’ve thought the kids lifestyle was due to their upbringing. It must be the lousy parents! Oh my Gosh, I tried my best and having ADHD kids has been dramatic, intense and @&);;;.
I love my kids, but I am so not included in the cool moms club. I feel isolated, but reading all these supportive texts to Camos is so amazing how everyone pulls together for support. It’s so heartwarming. It would be great to be together in person, but group hug to you all!
Aww, I’m so sorry you are having a rough week. If it makes it easier, I’m crying right now. I am so tired of work, helping him w homework, daily stress... u know how it is. The worst part is no one in my family knows he has adhd. They are far anyway, so why tell them. I’m alone. Hang in there mom! You are doing the best you can. Sometimes venting here helps. I’m new here and love the support/ advice I’m seeing since I joined few days ago.
Ah. I'm sorry family is far away. If it helps my family knows and just ignores it. Sigh. Everyone here is just AMAZING! hang in there!
Ah family - when we first got diagnosed, I felt like I was forced to maneuver past everyone’s preconceived opinions of ADHD before I could actually start helping my son. Most of them are now on board, or at least shut up about it. Mostly. Lol!
Echoing what others have said already- I know it is so hard- definitely lean on your friends and family that you trust. It can be so hard and lonely. Do whatever you can to get the dad to participate and support- any amount on top of the little he is doing might help.
Camos, I can relate. As hard as it is, I recommend you allow natural consequences to take their course. Sure things are frustrating, my son really tries my patience all of the time!!! But sometimes, you may need to take a deep breath, give your daughter, her dad, and anyone else in the picture, all of the information you can, and then let them figure it out. People won’t learn from their mistakes if you are bailing them out (for lack of better term) constantly. I wish you the best.
Hello, I feel your pain and I do understand. You are entitled to a good cry and it does not have to be planned. You will feel so much better after you have let the emotions out. I am a single mom raising my 12 y.o. ADHD son also and it is stressful, chaotic, confusing, exhausting, frustrating...... The only time I am at peace, sadly is when I am sleeping or at work. I also see others out shopping with friends, having lunch and laughing and wonder why I cannot do these same thing. What helps me is to have a friend or family member to keep my son while I escape for a couple hours. I rarely have supportive family members to help but when I do, the small break to myself makes a difference.
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