Our son has always struggled with behavior in school but when he is home or with me or my husband around he has no behavioral issues. He is just fine at home. Does his chores with no arguing, complies with screen limits with minimal effort and generally does what we ask from him. He cooks with us, takes out the trash, loads the dishwasher just fine. No issues with night routine, whatsoever either - even though he has nightmares every single night. He is a great kid at home or outside, as long a we are present. Also great with the person that picks him up from school and takes him to the park. Loving with family and our adult friends. Active? Very much so but rude or disrespectful, no. At school he is disrespectful to adults, rude to children and uncompliant with rules to the point that he needs a paraprofessional with him 100% time whom he completely ignores. Recently diagnosed with ADHD (hyperactive type, no attention deficit) and ODD. Are there any other parents out there who's child only has behavior issues at school or extracurricular activities, i.e. in setting where there are other children present but parents are not around? How do you manage that? Since we have to talk about the issues from school with him, we find it brings stress to our relationship when usually there is none because he is a great kid around us. The difference in behavior is so great we are not even sure what to think about the ADHD ODD diagnosis. As an example, the school asks me to come to the field trips to make sure he complies. When I go, I don't even need to be next to him or say anything. Just being in the group is enough for him to behave like a normal kid. If I happen not to make it, it's a train wreck. This is valid with me or my husband around.