Friday night exhaustion - anybody else

New here! Anybody on Friday night just exhausted and lose it? My daughter, age 11 had SI in August - I had to hospitalize her - it was horrifying. Preliminary diagnosis was bipolar, subsequent diagnoses included ADHD inattentive along with anxiety and depression. We are starting Ritalin on Sunday. The school and I are working on an IEP for her. I feel like every weekend, we are good, we get rest, we can do homework in short spurts; Do Crafts, shop and then it starts on Monday and then we have therapy and EMDR and more appointments and by Friday I'm exhausted, she's exhausted and I just lose it and I yell and then we make up and then finally we just fall asleep. I am a single Mom and I have been reading all of your posts. This website is a life-saver. Thank you!

[Madmarie]

I just want to say I know what your going through! I too am a single mom. My son has ADHD. learning disability, and behavioral problems. His dad is a immature ass hole who refuses to acknowledge any of it. He only adds to my stress load. He can’t deal with my son like an adult, which has caused me to have to retain a lawyer. It sometimes feels like one thing after another. I have to say medication will help your daughter, give it time and patience. Take the pressure off yourself. I know it’s hard, but your going to have a few bad Friday nights! I know I had one a few weeks ago. You try to do better, and move on. I do talk with a therapist every other week, and it helps so much! Just having someone out side your family to unload on. I also am on a antidepressant. I try to get exercise, and take time out for myself. You have to! Otherwise you won’t be able to give your daughter the best version of you! You sound like an amazing mom, and your daughter is very blessed to have you. Try and focus on the positives rather then the negatives. Prayers to you and your daughter.🙏

[Hidden in reply to Madmarie]

Thank you so much! I tried ritalin for the first time this morning and it was pretty amazing! We had one issue this afternoon and it resolved way more quickly! I hear you, my ex, well, let's just say today she wanted to see him and he was just too busy re-modeling his bathroom. She was so sad. It's really nice to talk to another single Mom and thank you for your encouragement!

[Madmarie in reply to Hidden]

I think my son went through a little crash and burn when first starting out. I give him magnesium in the morning, and then again at night. Helps with mood balance, and sleep. Also a good quality fish oil. He’s been on Concerta for 3 years now. I keep him on it on the weekends, and off times. He just needs it, and is just able to function so much better, and way less conflict between he and I. You got this!👊🏻

[Hidden in reply to Madmarie]

Thank you so much! This is such a great place to get support, I really appreciate it!

[Janice_H in reply to Madmarie]

My son's father is an immature asshole too......Just sayin'

[Madmarie]

It has been such a great thing for me!!! Sometimes you feel all alone. I’m so glad to connect with other parents in the same boat.

[Janice_H]

Hi Camos, your situation sounds very much like mine. I am also a single mother of an 11 y.o. boy with ADHD. I work a full time job and a part time job. My weeks are hectic and crazy filled with things to be done, chores, appointments, errands, etc. By Thursday I feel like i am losing it. There is quite a bit of yelling that goes on because of the frustration. Each day I am exhausted and feel overwhelmed by everything. It is like there is no escape.

I can say that once your daughter is on the medication it will help calm things down significantly. Watch for side effects and be sure to report them to the doctor and remember that the first medication trial may not be the right one and other medications can be used.

You are doing your best as a single mother. Don't beat yourself up because you lost your temper. Just apologize and stive to do better with patience. What helps me is if I find someone to keep my son for a few hours so I can breathe. Many members on this website offer lots of support and advice on how to cope. I am thankful for everyone on here.