I wonder

[Mommaof03]

My oldest is 14 ADHD I believe she has anxiety and depression as well. I wonder how I can get her motivated? She don't go-to regular school she is at home doing it all online but I can't seem to get her going to do anything? Her biological dad pretty much told me I am on my own and her step dad just says "hmm" and ignores me and I am so lost I don't know what to do anymore? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

[Onthemove1971]

Mommaof03-

Is she seeing a therapist to help her? Does she take medication?

Tell us more, just curious why does online schooling.

Hope we can help you in some way.

[Janice_H]

Not having a father present is troubling for a child. My son's father plays no role at all in his life. He has not seen him in over a year and will not answer his calls. My son has crying spells from time to time about his dad not caring.

Why does she not attend school? Having friends in her circle would help with the depression. Isolation is not good at this time of her life. Please get your daughter to talk to a professional so she can get back to feeling alive and happy as she deserves to. There are medications available that can help.

[MsJazzy]

If you really think that your child is suffering from any type of disorder or mental health issue, I encourage you to get some professional help and consider obtaining a proper diagnosis. An accurate diagnosis will determine the right course of action, including counseling and/or medication. At times, home schooling is a good option, especially if being in large social circles creates more anxiety. How to educate your child would be something to discuss with your mental health professional. Whatever you decide to do now doesn't mean that you will do it forever. You may need to take baby steps.

[Mommaof03]

Thank you all for your advice. She will be seeing someone next week and I have talked to her a lot about isolation before and the damage it can do. She doesn't go because of her anxiety (I have it also so I know what to look for and I see it in her) and she don't like to listen to people older than her telling her what to do also she thinks they are all stupid. She still has friends that she talks to on a daily basis from school and I know that helps

[Kiandra]

Ask her what do she like to do. Try a make over, try any type of teams gymnastics, chess, swimming anything. Tell her she have to take some type of active activity since she is not in a regular school and you'll consider it gym. Walk the mall. Get a pet. Overnight camping. Give her a few ideas but she has to pick something. Go to the local highschool foot ball or basket ball games, a cousins home coming or local school activities. Music, poetry can help her express what she's feeling. Spending time with dad or both of you together. Good luck!!

[Hidden]

Agree regarding the mental health diagnosis. My daughter was originally diagnosed with bipolar. I took her to another doctor who ran more in-depth tests on her and there is a whole variety of other diagnoses now. It is all data for you and for her schooling. I am very fortunate that my school district has been VERY supportive, but I had to build a team around my child. I was absolutely shocked at the lack of resources for kids. I just made myself call five people a day until I found her team. Hang in there as one of her team said to me, it WILL get better, still makes me cry.